I agree with you! What the heck???
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I continue to be amazed at the nerve of some people. That is just ridiculous. What a selfish woman.
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I would let the hostess know. In July, we attended our first wedding since Covid hit. We are vaxxed & boosted, and the event was in a large building with very high ceilings. We were careful not to get closer to people than necessary. Wouldnât you know it, someone at our table ended up testing positive the next day. MOG let us know right away, and almost everyone at our table & groomâs familyâs table ended up with Covid. We did not get it. But ⊠2.5 weeks later, D & GD contracted it at an outdoor event. We got it then.
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Absolutely perfect weekend!!!
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Details, please!
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Rehearsal dinner went off without a hitch at a fantastic restaurant with fantastic indoor and outdoor space.
We hosted welcome drinks after rehearsal dinner at a bar across the street from the hotel and everyone had an absolute blast.
Wedding day with absolutely perfect weather, mid 70âs down to about 60 at night. This was a slight concern because reception was in a barn and we werenât sure how cold it might get.
Church ceremony absolutely gorgeous
The reception was just so much fun in the barn. Attire ranged from jeans to coat and tie and everybody had a blast. DJ did a fantastic job. I seriously donât have even one thing to complain about and we gained the best new daughter. And my son couldnât take the smile off of his face all day.
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Welcome happy hour after or in lieu of the rehearsal is the BEST idea for all of those still in the planning stages and thinking about what to do. We had so much fun at the brewery event we hosted for the wedding party and out-of-towners (they didnât want a rehearsal/rehearsal dinner). Not a huge production that causes more stress ⊠just an event for people to meet and for the couple to see people because the next day could be crazy. I donât think my kids were sold on the idea at first but now realize what a great idea it really was. And they loved all the personal touches I did that they knew nothing about â pics of their parents and all the grandparents from their wedding days, kiddie pics of each of them that the other hadnât seen, a slideshow that ran in the back. Special desserts made my dsâs uncle that almost made him cry as the aunt and uncle couldnât make it, but this dessert is my sonâs favorite. Hmmmm ⊠sounds like I went to a lot of trouble, but I didnât!
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One great idea that they did is display at the wedding reception was display framed wedding pictures of both sets of parents and of grandparents.
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Brother 3 got engaged a few months before brother 2. Brother 3 and fiancĂ© had college graduation one Saturday, the wedding on the following Saturday, and her graduate school started the following 8 days after the wedding - so the only weekend they could schedule their wedding. Brother 2âs fiancĂ© wanted their wedding to be first, but her desire went unfulfilled, in part because brother 3 got engaged first and got their ball rolling. A few months later, brother 2 decided the time was right for getting engaged. All 3 brothers had the lush back yard wedding at parentsâ home - and with good weather it was a nice setting if wanting outdoor wedding. Their country club down the road was the venue for dinner/reception.
Cousinâs two daughters were âbattlingâ who would rush to the altar after engagement - the older daughterâs marriage was short lived, while the younger daughterâs marriage is still going after 20+ years.
So much immaturity!
Daughter got engaged a few months ago and venue hunting now. Very limited options based on numbers (275) and needing kosher food. Sigh!
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We just attended an outdoor wedding on Oct 22nd in Iowa. Very risky on the weather - the prior Saturday was 20 degrees! We were blessed with 70 degree weather. Glad I wore flats as the ground was very uneven walking on the grass to the wedding set up - I am talking big dips in the ground.
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S just completed NYC marathon and is arriving in HNL this week. We asked him if he wants to consider wedding venues (since they had said a Honolulu wedding), but we are having him and fiancée take the lead.
We are having a staycation in Waikiki. Maybe something there may appeal to him while we are there 3 nights.
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Have fun on your staycation!
Where is the fiancé from? Is she considering her home area?
My kid and her fiancé are considering where to get married. They are doing all the leg work and decision making.
My daughter thought a location near their home was good. He wanted to destination wedding to a Caribbean island that requires a flight and a ferry to get to the site.
I think now they are considering a destination venue in Vermont. The kids have and are attending enough weddings to decide which theyâd like best.
Iâm happy wherever but think the island isnât the best if they want their grandparents to be there. At this point, any of the locations may be difficult to say the least for the elders.
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Gosh, after all youâve been through with the grandparents domestically I hope you donât have to have a non-domestic destination wedding on your plate! Vermont a certain time of year???
Itâs different (I think) when a couple like @deb922 and @HImom âkidsâ are in their 30âs planning a wedding. Better maybe! They have seen and lived enough to know more what they want - and have it be their wedding with family instead of a family wedding (like some of us had, where our parents planned/decided more than we did or wanted to or had knowledge of!) where they just show up! 
@deb922 check out this inn in Vermont. We were at a wedding there and it was great.
Many stayed at the inn, but we stayed at the Arlington Inn which was right down the hill.
That looks similar to what they looked at. I think the venue they looked at is near Killington. Iâll pass this on.
Iâve never been to Vermont but it sounds gorgeous.
@abasket i know! The elders are really having trouble getting around. The fiancĂ©s parents were not fond of the idea of the island wedding and I pointed out the pitfalls of it also. You never know but Iâm hoping itâs been finally shelved.
Dates are still being negotiated 
. I think late 2023 is out but could be in play still 
. Late winter or spring 2024. I think.
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I think Iâve posted this before, but my nephew and his bride wanted a destination wedding on the beach in Mexico. At the time our family of four didnât have a lot of money and werenât going to spend what we had on their wedding. His mom was not happy about their idea, especially because she knew she and her dh would be on the hook for paying for our MIL and SIL, neither of whom was in the best health. When she told me about it I said Iâd have to talk to dh about it, but that I was sad because we probably wouldnât be able to make it. I donât think it ever crossed her mind that people would bail and not go. She encouraged me to tell the nephew. Fine, Iâll be the âbad cop.â They ended up changing their minds.
Itâs different being the MOG rather than aunt, but they need to understand that the elders may not make it as it would be such a physical hardship on them. It would be better for them to understand the ramifications of this decision up front.
Not only travel hardship, but many a financial hardship - as well as maybe the time and using all available funds for a âdestination weddingâ that ends up being a âbustâ in many ways.
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My Dâs wedding would be a âdestination weddingâ no matter where she chooses to have it (where she lives or where she grew up). She and her fiancĂ© live in San Diego. She and her fianceâs families live on the East Coast (H and me, my parents and siblings), northern CA (Hâs mom and siblings) and WA state (fianceâs family). Dâs college and high school friends are spread out around the country. No matter where they would have chosen to have the wedding, grandparents, family and friends would need to fly. In the end, they are having a smallish wedding in San Diego. Since majority of people have to fly in no matter where they got married, it was easiest for planning purposes if she has the wedding where she lives. She does not want a large wedding anyway, and knows cost will prohibit many from coming, but that would have been an issue no matter where she got married.
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A friend of mine had a small destination wedding with a limited guest list and then hosted a more informal party close to where most of their friends/family lived. They seemed happy with how their plan played out (and I was happy celebrate with them without having to to travel to the wedding).
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