It hurts in the moment. When they celebrate their golden anniversary, it won’t seem so important. Life has a way of smoothing things out in time.
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I’m so sorry for their disappointment.
One thing that may help in the planning is KAYAK Explore . You put in your departure city and rough dates and it shows you costs all over the world. We used that feature to save tons on a major trip in the past. They may find that …say…Copenhagen is much less money to fly to at their time frame than a more well-known destination and they could consider flying there and exploring and then taking off from there for other nearby destinations. Not a Hawaii vacation, but perhaps something that would work out and still be memorable and fun.
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I can’t believe it but the baby shower we were supposed to have tomorrow is canceled. Son-in-law tested positive for Covid this morning. My poor daughter isn’t batting high for celebrations. Her husband feels terrible.
OMG. So sorry. This is like bad flashback to last year when Covid was wrecking kid’s engagement party and other plans. Hugs.
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Thanks all. Trying to replan anything fabulous was just out of budget trying all the sources mentioned so they just decided to go to Cancun and stay in the same place they got engaged. They are trying to stay positive about it. Now if the veil would show up!
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The veil will get there. If not, she will be gorgeous without it.
They will enjoy their time together in Cancun. Glad they found an alternative.
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My wedding veil disappeared for quite awhile. My younger brother had to go the the wedding shop and argue with them the day of the wedding until they finally found it! We just took all the morning photos before the wedding with no veil as I only got the veil just before the ceremony. Haha!
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I don’t suppose there’s a friend/family member who has a veil she could borrow as a back-up? I wore my sister’s - it was planned, and served as my “borrowed” item.
Crossing my fingers it still shows up! Half of the groomsmen’s tuxes didn’t show up until the DAY of the wedding… Except they were shipped to our home city. The wedding was 120 miles away. The father of the Best Man stayed behind and picked them up from the (super small, non commercial) airport and drove them to us. And then one of the ties didn’t match. My Dad took that one, so all the groomsmen would match, though I can’t remember why we wanted him to match everyone anyway, lol.
In any case, it will all work out, but I know it’s stressful!!!
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Veil hasn’t shown up and they are on their way to pick up the dress today. They are just going to grab something the bridal store has in stock in case. If it arrives in the next couple of days the shop will overnight it to Denver (from Kansas City). I have a veil but I think she will get something.
My son was writing his vows last night. I get my grandson’s tux tomorrow and we leave with him on Thursday morning. His mom has to work so will fly and meet us in Colorado on Saturday before the rehearsal dinner!
It is coming together! Wedding is at 4 and weather is looking good
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@momocarly hope everything goes off okay! How exciting!
We did one wedding dress shopping a week ago. DD made us all shirts (Mother of the Bride, Maid of Honor, etc.). She thought she had a dress but her roommate convinced her to sleep on it while we were on vacation last week and yeah, that’s not it anymore.
DD’s future brother-in-law got married this weekend (so MOG got some extra use out of the t-shirt mentioned above) and they used the caterer DD is considering so she got to have a “tasting”.
In other news, younger DD’s BF talked to us briefly on Sunday about proposing. We’ve been expecting it but just waiting to see when and how! 
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Here’s a question. D1 made an appt to dress shop at a boutique that specializes in designer samples. (She will have a more “general” dress shop appt before this one to do a first browse/try on) What is reasonable in terms of dress size up or down for alterations? Do wedding dress “sizes” tend to be different than regular dress shopping? How much leeway for sizing? If she is a size 10 for example how large of a dress can be sized down without major reconstruction of the dress? A 12? 14? Will a size 8 have seams to let out??
Just thinking if in this sample size case what she may be limited to. I’m sure dress alterations are expensive and a good price reduction for a sample dress can be erased with alterations.
If there are no special beading or lace that can’t be easily cut and resewn, the general rule is 2 sizes down, one size up. This is what the tailor told us last year. Be especially careful with the latter and make sure there is enough fabric in the seams to make it bigger.
Kid got size 10 and sized it down about 1 1/2 sizes. Also, if buying online, designer or brand-name wedding dresses are usually euro-sized so they are smaller than the corresponding US size. Make sure to pay attention to the actual measurements of the dress, not the general size info which can be wrong.
In my neck of the woods, alterations ran $400-1,000. You can take the dress to a couple of places to get quotes…
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Super helpful - thank you! 2 sizes down, 1 size up.
I think it is also a little style specific. D got dress that was basically her real size and I was worried it would be too tight in waist. It worked because she is small busted and had a fuller skirt so she was basically just fitting her waist. If it had been form fitting around hips I think she would have had to go up size. So for a mermaid you will probably be fitting the biggest part of figure.
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This goes for pretty much all styles. Fit the widest part and see if the rest can be adjusted.
Bigger shops usually have a seamstress on site to provide alterations advice.
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My daughter ended up buying a one and only dress. It was several sizes too big but the style lended itself to easy alterations. I think the dress was $900 and she spent about $500 on alterations. She could have saved on the alterations if she had gone back to the shop she purchased from but it was a 3 hour drive each direction.
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I think it is totally dress dependent. I know one person who is a size 0, but she is very knowledgeable about fabrics, styles, etc. She purchased a size 8 dress that was something like 75-80% off, because she knew it could easily be altered to fit her. That would not have been the case with most dresses.
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While I think all of the above is true, I’d highly recommend not trying to save money on the dress and getting the wrong size with major alterations.
My daughter got a bridesmaid dress for only $25 and it was cute and just what she wanted. Problem is she is a size 2-4 and the dress was a size 10.
Just a lot of work and will never look as good as if it was the right size to begin with.
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Alterations are expensive. But even a dress that is a near fit but too long can cost $200 or more. (Tried to warn my daughter about that, but se was shocked. In her case the sale dress was under $300, and my sister paid for it and she “only” had to pay for alterations. But it really was lovely on her.)
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Totally get that. And we would also never “stretch” the situation to try and fit way beyond body size. Daughter is not a risky person and would have way too much anxiety over that!
But while I think healthy, the budget is not endless- this is one stop in a few planned.