UPDATE: We have decided not to attend the wedding. S and DIL are staying home as well. Many phone calls/texts today and lots of guilt flying around, but we all know it was the right decision.
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My nephew and his fiancĆ©e had to postpone their wedding 2.5 years because there was a covid lockdown right before their scheduled wedding in 4/2020. No one would refund the huge deposits they made so they decided to have the Sept/Oct 2022 wedding & reception even tho father of the groom was quite ill (fortunately he didnāt get anyone else sick).
It was a lovely event and in a huge tent so there was pretty brisk ventilation. Sad to read covid is still upending so many lives and plans.
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IMHO a very wise decision. Did Hās sibling (parent of nephew) try to guilt you into coming to the wedding?
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So the FOG was very sick with covid, yet came to the wedding anyway? 
We were never told he has covid, just that he was pretty ill. His spouse tried to get invermectin but he refused it.
D1 and her fiance are getting married next May. The venue is the same for the wedding and reception and it is all outdoors. D1ās fiance will have all of his family and many friends traveling from the east coast for the wedding. I expect we may have people that wonāt be able to attend for many reasons which could include Covid. We will just hope for the best and since everything is outside we hope people will feel comfortable attending.
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SIL is a lovely person. She didnāt guilt trip us at all. She was just trying to keep us informed. Iām the one whoās dealing with the guilt, but thatās just the way Iām wired.
OMG, so glad he did not go for the āsnake oil.ā
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So glad to hear it!
Both bro & his wife are MDs!
Seems like an MD should have known to test for covid, and it seems like he did, since his spouse tried to get him to take ivermectin (even though itās useless). Iām thinking they deliberately didnāt say covid, because they knew they would get pushback from people if they still attended. I donāt understand the selfishness of people who knowingly go to an event knowing they are sick. And IMHO this goes for any sickness, really, not just covid.
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We often donāt know all the details of what happened behind the scene. If we know the family/people to be good sensible people I try to give them the benefit of the doubt that they took some good measures. To each his own though!
Many illnesses mirror Covid. We certainly didnāt alter weddings in the past for colds or non-threatening illnesses.
I do think the family should educate people if there are any risks in attendance. Because they also need to give their guests the benefit of the doubt for their decisions!
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I gifted this to send to daughter and fiance, āparentsā of two pooches. Sharing in case it rings any bells here:
gift link
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D1 and her fiance are including their 3.5 year old husky and hopefully their new lab puppy in their wedding ceremony. They will be walked down the aisle by one of the groomsmen and the husky will have a box on his collar with the wedding rings. The lab will just look cute in a collar made of flowers.
My kids had their cockapoo (complete with bow tie) at their covid micro-wedding but not at the big celebration a year later.
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Kids donāt have dogs but a friendās pup was the ring bearer at the little kidās wedding. 
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First let me say I am incredibly sad for the people on Maui who lost loved ones, property, pets, their jobs and for the economy of the island. That doesnāt mean Iām not heartbroken for my son and future dil. They get married on the 20th. We helped them plan an incredible honeymoon on Maui staying at the 4 Seasons etc. They are both in clinical years of professional schools and only have the next 2 weeks off at the same time (that they know of or can plan for) for the next 3 years! Of course they are doing the right thing and canceling plans to go to Maui. They have been looking and looking and canāt find anything they can get that is the same or close to the same quality anywhere for the same cost since we got everything so far in advance. The bride is heartbroken but knows the value of money and doesnāt want to spend most of the savings for this on something that wonāt be right or give value for the dollar. Now they may just end up saving the money and just staying a few nights at and airbnb. They have worked their tails off to get where they are and they deserved the fairytale honeymoon. I know it was a huge disaster but I still hurt so much for them. Add to this the little thing that the veil she ordered 14 months ago hasnāt come in yet! Sorry Iām just hurting for them.
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Iām so sorry for their disappointment. Iām sure they will figure out a way to celebrate. And it will be special whenever it happens!
Iām sorry. Ds1 and DIL are on the trip to NZ they hoped to take when they married almost three years ago. Late, late honeymoon, but they are having a great time. I hope your kids eventually get a trip they love.
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Iām very sad for the many people whose lives and plans have been upended by the devastating fires, covid, war, and other issues. It really is hard to regroup sometimes.
We had saved & planned on honeymooning in Europe in 1986 but then there was the Achille Lauro execution of an American paraplegic followed by Chernobyl & radiation so we opted to accede to our parents pleas and not go to Europe. After a lot of pondering we ended up going on a nice trip along East Coast, stopping at multiple cities of interest along the way and didnāt get to Europe for many years (my folks watched our young kids).
It certainly wasnāt our 1st choice but it worked out.
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