2016 and beyond wedding moms and dads (Part 2)

I wore flats for my son’s wedding. Haven’t worn heels in ages. If I saw a dress code for a wedding that included wearing heels, I would ignore it or potentially just not go. Seems like a very odd requirement.

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Ahh… wedding shoes! I bought shiny JC flats for big kid… she did not think she needed them but gladly changed into them after the ceremony and a couple of dances. Little kid was a big more practical about her footwear… she found that Badgley Mischka made great block heels! No shoe changes for her!

I wore my favorite Miles JC sandals to big kid’s wedding but couldn’t wear them to little kid’s wedding because it was on soft turf… Got amazing block heel sandals off RealReal but pulled my trusted Miu Miu block heels out of the closet at the last moment because I hurt my toe, and the bandages would have looked weird in photos!

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I’m with you. I’m fine with wearing heels but will never impose any such requirements on my guests! Other than “beware of grass and dirt,” we have not put anything about footwear into the invites.

//about not above. Ugh!

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We haven’t been told anything about footwear. I know the venue and we plan to wear comfy footwear that looks decent.

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I did something similar for both kids wedding. Comfort trumps appearance after the pictures are made, IMO :wink: :grinning:

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I feel like this wedding is for the gram. The second night is a sunset cruise and we have been told to wear bright florals.

I found a nice dress on Poshmark. But I’m wondering if it’s going to be freezing on a sunset cruise in Michigan at the end of September. We had a frost advisory on Wednesday. I thought I could wear my dress with boots. But I apparently donated my knee high boots during the pandemic.

I’ll be very happy when this wedding is over. I can’t figure out if the bride is being a bridezilla or her mother.

My daughter is getting married on the beach. No shoes required

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Mandating heels seems excessive. Perhaps they are really thinking “no sneakers or birkenstocks”, forgetting that there are some nice dressy flats / wedges options.

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It’s actually supposed to be a bit above average (I am assuming west side of the state) in late September. But evenings feel cooler once the sun sinks, and the water will also make it cooler. You could get a cute sweater (or even a lightweight blazer) to go with your dress.

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Thanks. East side actually. Lake Huron

I think a floral dress can be great with short booties and a denim jacket!

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I’d bring a nice sweater (preferably one already in your closet LOL) just in case. (I’m bringing one to an outdoor Oct wedding of a friend’s D in upstate NY.)

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IMO if the bride is worrying about my shoes, she’s not having a lot of fun at her wedding. If she cares if I’m wearing a dress and not nice pants or that her uncle’s suit is tan and not blue, she’s not having a good time. OMG, what if the flowers wilt or someone spills a drink? Let it go.

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I just talked to my mil. After sending out an article on how to dress for this sunset cruise which showed light colors suits and floral maxi dresses, mil finds out that the groom and the FOB are wearing Hawaiian shirts and tennis shoes.

The FOB was told he needed to wear a Hawaiian shirt.

My mil said she’s not wearing floral just out of spite! :woman_shrugging:

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Unless a guy is from the south (and maybe not even then), he wouldn’t be the slightest bit inclined to wear a light colored suit. What an odd request (especially after Labor Day in Michigan). It boggles my mind that a bride wants to dictate her guests’ dress to this degree.

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DIL wore block heels. She’s 6’ tall. S2 is 6’4". Happiness abounds! She bought a different wedding gown ten days ago and it was absolutely lovely. The first one had some flaws and the bridal shop just couldn’t get the alterations right. Remarkably, they gave her a FULL REFUND. (!!!) I liked the second dress erven better, and it was $250. Love those Ukrainian prices!

The civil ceremony was at a building dedicated to civil registry ceremonies, and was nicely decorated. The officiant wore a lovely long floral gown and there were two women who played traditional Ukrainian wedding music on the bandura (a cross between zither and a lute, per Wiki). Took about 20 minutes, and then we went outside for some pics on the lovely grounds.

From there we went to the park across the street for ice cream and P’yana Vyshnya (traditional
cherry liqueur). The next day, we piled into a small bus to go to Berehove for the wedding celebrations. Had the rehearsal dinner that night at a traditional Carpathian restaurant. OMG, so much food! By the time the servers brought out the huge stacked meat platters we were already stuffed. Am sure I gained weight on this trip.

S2 and DIL had a lot of guest melt (travel, war, etc.) and we wound up with 30 people. Not entirely unexpected. It was absolutely lovely, the rain held off, to the delight of the bride, groom and photographer, and by the end of the evening we had a roomful of new friends. It was intimate and delightful.

Many tears, much wine, and oh my goodness, toasts are a HUGE thing in Ukrainian weddings. They were going on all night. Apparently each toast has a theme – H and I were the second toast, and S2’s best man came up and told us that it’s traditional for the second toast to include a story. I had 30 seconds to prepare.

DIL invited me to the makeup/hair session, which I thought was very nice. I didn’t recognize myself afterwards. The makeup was great, but the hair stylist tried to give me volume, but it was very different than my usual look.

The photographer and her assistant were there for 12 hours. He shot video, she did pics. Should be amazing.

S2 is out on his bachelor party this weekend. Yes, that’s right. Best Man was out of the country on assignment at the last minute and they had to postpone. So far S2 left his suitcase on the bus, he has posted a picture of himself on a horse, and one of his friends brought a shofar to celebrate Rosh Hashanah.

DIL’s mom is a delight and we spent much time texting via Google Translate. Time for language lessons!

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So glad everything turned out wonderfully! Thanks for the wonderful report and welcome back!

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So, so happy for you all! May they have a wonderful life together. <3

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@CountingDown thanks so much for the recap! So excited for you! Sounds lovely

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Congratulations to the newlyweds and their families! :ukraine::heart:

Such wonderful update, @CountingDown, so happy for you and your entire combined families. It sounds like a perfect wedding.

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