<p>BfloGal–is that so bad? One thing I have come to realize with my sons, and my DH, is that they aren’t social in the same way women are social…unless they have a very social girlfriend, and even then they are doing that to be with the girl. They are perfectly content with the social interaction they get at school and in their activities and if they come home in the evening and watch tv, that is just fine with them. If someone suggests getting together to sit around and watch tv, that is ok too.</p>
<p>Our 2.7 son is very bright. It was very frustrating to see him waste his high school years “just” getting by. If he liked a class or even a particular topic in class, he would ace everything. He’s a history buff and his teacher would play class Jeopardy as chapter reviews before tests and the teams would be my DS against the rest of the class. He got all A’s in all of the AP History classes. I think he missed 5 points, ever, in 5 years…then there were the rest of his classes.</p>
<p>He went to college for a year, paid for most of it on his own, one small loan. We bought his books-so about $500 is all we paid for him. That was the deal, get the GPA to sustain your college career and we will pay you back. He didn’t do that. His loss.</p>
<p>He now has a good paying job, not great, but about average salary for a college grad in a good company. He is up for his first promotion and after that they are looking to place him in a position that starts at $90,000 (computer tech job doing I’m not exactly sure what). They are going to send him to some classes to get some computer certifications or something and you know what, he loves his job. He is saving to buy a house, which he should be able to do in early fall, he has met with our financial planner and is getting a jump start on his retirement accounts because he has the extra cash to do that now. He does come home from work and plays video games most evenings, but he goes out with friends one or two days/week as well. Quite honestly, this is as happy as we have seen him in a LONG time. He just does NOT like school.</p>
<p>We had a hard time coming to grips with that because we didn’t understand how you could not like school. DH and I loved school, our other two (younger siblings) love school, are very engaged, can hardly wait for college…but that is not our oldest and while it took us a long time, and DH isn’t quite all there yet, we have accepted that about him. We will see what the future holds for him but for now, it looks pretty good.</p>