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<p>Hitting a bit too close to home, maybe?</p>
<p>Sure most parents want the best for their kids. Thats pretty normal. And healthy. But maybe those who were left home alone as latchkey kids to have fantasy conversations with supposed elderly neighbors have not resolved their anger towards their parents. Sad, really.</p>
<p>Watching the train wreck for a while – </p>
<p>As a former highly compensated professional in NYC, our own experience was straight forward. We had a nanny for our first child, and around age 3, we applied to private nursery school/preschool programs. We knew he would be going to private school for K-12, and that was where it started, in preschool. We would up relocating before we had to make a decision about which school to enroll him in. But that process, and timing, was simply how it worked among certain professional/economic groups. No one who could afford to do it was risking being shut out of the private schools for K, so you took the first opportunity to start. It wasn’t about college admissions, it was about finding an excellent education for your child. We were prepared to pay what it cost, just as we were prepared to pay what it cost to have a nanny so that we could both work. We were very fortunate at that time to be in a position to do a that then. I don’t begrudge the families who are in a position to do that now. </p>
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<p>One could ask the same questions due to your apparent presumptuous need to order others about and trying to control how others post even though you, I, and most other posters have the exact same standing here as regular posters. </p>
<p>This tendency of yours is not only on this thread, but also on many others for which I and others have called you out on in the past. </p>
<p>Keep in mind that just as much as you have to make your posts with all the inevitable biases you carry, others have the exact same right to do likewise. </p>
<p>Please.just.stop. Since you seem to confuse an “order” with a plea, that is the latter. You seem to feel adults, particularly parents, have some nefarious, controlling intent (see post 338 as an example). No one is ordering anyone around, except perhaps in those fantasy conversations in your head. Really. There is help for this. Time to de-escalate. And feel free to get you last word in, as usual.</p>
<p>Lets please get back to the topic, or let this thread die after its being derailed. Many posters have been trying to help point out that these stories are not believable. But it falls on deaf ears. And defensive responses. Again. Sigh…</p>
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<p>Pleas usually do not have a demanding hostile tone as you have displayed on this and other threads not only against me, but also other posters on other threads who have aroused your ire because they disagreed with you or ran afoul of your “rules”. </p>
<p>People will respond much better if you stopped acting presumptuously as self-appointed thread police. </p>
<p>Getting back onto the topic, I agree most parents are sending their kids to $41k/year prep nurseries because they perceive it is providing the best for their kids. However, whether that is actually the case…especially the “getting into an Ivy/elite U” part remains an open question…</p>
<p>cobrat, of course you have the “right” to post wherever you want. But can you at least understand how frustrating it is for those of us who are parents to have thread after thread taken over by a non-parent who speaks faux-authoritatively on every single subject almost exclusively based on allegedly remembered anecdotes and observations? Imagine it the other way. Do you perhaps visit an online forum about IT, where knowledgeable people share their experiences and information and thus start to build an online community? Now imagine if someone like me–totally right brain, can barely work my own computer, inserting myself with lengthy posts and specious claims into every conversation? Imagine if half of my many posts started with “the tech whiz who goes to my gym says…” or “based on my experience living six blocks from MIT…” You (and everyone else) would be tolerant and polite for a while, but after a point you’d probably start calling me out on both my lack of factual knowledge AND my unwelcome and unhelpful intrusion into your world. That’s what we are dealing with here.</p>
<p>And by the way, there ARE non-parents who post here who contribute to, rather than derail, conversations–Niquii and romanigypsyeyes are two who come to mind.</p>
<p>I think this thread has run through.</p>