@Midwestmomofboys – Medicare and SS are like eating an elephant, one bite at a time.
In your situation, you sign up your H for Medicare A (he pays $0 but still need to sign up) - window is 3 months before and 3 months after the month he turns 65. On Medicare.gov there is a checklist online “Medicare, Retirement and Spouses Applications” - I printed that page and applied for DH’s Medicare A (he turns 65 in June - so I applied in March at the earliest opportunity), and he is still under my insurance. There is a document “Medicare and You 2021” with a lot of information - I printed a lot of pages, because even though you can order the free publication, it takes FOREVER now to get it. I still haven’t received the one I ordered. In that document, it shows where your H’s health insurance will be primary and his Medicare A will be secondary. It explains things - but it does take time to absorb all and put the pieces together on your individual circumstances.
We got a letter a few weeks after signing up H for Medicare A online, and it indicated his Medicare card was coming - that was a very carefully written letter with a section “Information About Medicare” and other short topics in this 3 page letter.
If your H retires before you are 65 and eligible for MC, you may be ‘close enough’ to 65 under COBRA. I have a friend who did this (her H retired a month before she turned 65 so she had his COBRA health insurance for a month - he was 9.5 years older than her).
One point they make “Note: COBRA and Retiree health coverage do not count as health insurance based on current employment” - meaning once one is 65. Many need COBRA to get to 65/Medicare.
“If you do not sign up for Medicare Part B when you are first eligible, you may have to pay a late enrollment penalty for as long as you have Part B” So my H has to sign up for Part B by Sept - which actually by then I will also be signing up for Part B etc. - I can do it all in July. During his application for Part B, we have credible coverage through Sept and his will begin with mine Oct 1. It didn’t make sense to pay $148.50/month for his Medicare B early, but I definitely don’t want the penalty. It is a bit nerve-racking on this process when you type things in - and you cannot hit submit until all is correct, otherwise I imagine you have to go through the 1-800-MEDICARE (1-800-633-4227) - the ‘Notice of Award’ letter we received also had a BNC number, and came from the Great Lakes Program Service Center, Chicago IL. To talk to a live person may take setting an appointment – for example I thought I was going to take early retirement at age 63 and called SS - after a long wait, I got an appointment and email confirmation; but then when employer offered me a better job, I had to call SS and wait wait wait and then canceled the appointment - I couldn’t cancel by email. We did call the Medicare number when my mother died, and they took the information on the phone and it was an easy process - so maybe calling Medicare is not going through difficulty, but so far we have been good with online on Medicare.
If you have not done so already, have each of you obtain a SSA.gov log in – they obtain some personal information from you to establish, but then you each will have a log in (user name and password) and can see earnings records and estimate of SS payments at full retirement and at current time (if 62 and older).
I had checked with several financial sources on the amount one gives up on SS with receiving SS before the full retirement age - and now I have the formula thanks to link provided on CC.