<p>BestMiler,
It's time to grow up. Pleasing your parents is what you focus on when you are a child. As an adult, you need to focus on making your own life happen the way that you want to live. If they choose to see this as your failure, that's their problem. Just grow up and start living your own life. I know this seems harsh, but if your parents can't give you the support/encouragement you need, it's time to develop your own support network of friends and students and move on.
You can't change your parents, anymore than they can change you.</p>
<p>what am i supposed.....just get in a big fight with them and leave the house.......is there any future without parents?</p>
<p>NAgony, what did your parents do, when you get in trouble when you were small?</p>
<p>you don't need to fight with them, but you don't need to accept their view of you, either. Live your own life.</p>
<p>BestMiler, I'm not small now, but when I was a child my parents would ground me, yell a lot, and take away stuff. After a while,, I just stopped caring. If your parents don't really know "how" to parent, then it's important to see that. My parents were not evil people but they surely had poor parenting skills (albeit good intentions). Once I moved out and began living my own life, and we could relate more as equals, things got better.</p>
<p>whatever you do, don't go on any suicidal/ depression sprees...you WILL be fine.
I can guarantee it. You seem like a good student for the most part; fine, maybe you screwed up your SAT's, blah blah...there are options...just wait it out.</p>
<p>What other colleges did you apply to?</p>
<p>What can you do? Don't bother to argue with your parents: You aren't likely to change their minds that way, and arguing will just provoke them into saying more things that distress you.</p>
<p>Instead of trying to change your parents' minds, spend time with friends and people like teachers and adult mentors who empathize with you and believe in you. Also find a back-up plan for what to do if you don't get into any colleges.</p>
<p>The only thing likely to change your parents mind is seeing how your life goes after you graduate from college and get into a professional school or get a good job that supports you. I've seen this kind of thing change the mind of well meaning, but misguided immigrant parents.</p>
<p>Best- </p>
<p>Like you told me the other day, show 'em your argument! Which I did and it helped and they're still majorly p***ed off with me but they're parents and we're their kids, so they'll just to have to live with it.</p>
<p>NAagone....while you got grounded....i got had to deal with my father's five fingers, belts, coat hangers, and name it all.....i never told about this to anyone, not even my childhood best friend....i have always been in this world where i have to impress my parents....and i just cant do it anymore....i cant live life with something anchoring me down</p>
<p>Don't take your parents completely seriously... </p>
<p>my parents are full indian parents/ furious education manics, and their philosophy is IVY OR INDIA (as in work in a sweatshop). They basically said that one B on my transcript and i die... I got an 89.4%~B+ in Honors Pre-Calculus; they got REALLY p***ed off, but still support me ... </p>
<p>Immigrant parents are parents too; they will support you and love you regardless of how mad they are at you at any point in time.</p>
<p>my parents are from Bangladesh....adn they have this same view...IVY or No school.....stupid asian parents</p>
<p>I thought you didn't apply to Ivy League Schools...</p>
<p>well they wanted me to do IVY, but then they saw my sat score, they wanted top universities, like nyu, rochester, lehigh, berkeley, syracuse</p>
<p>BestMiler, calm down. You are one of the nicest people on CC. I think you are right that the problem is that you don't take standardized tests well. Fortunately, being able to take standardized tests is not a really important part of a person's life. And when I say life, I mean much more than getting accepted into college. People are not happy in life because of where they go to college. They are not successful in life because of SAT scores. Anyone will tell you that where you graduated from college doesn't mean much after you are out of school. There are exceptions such as graduating from Harvard Law School, but generally what gets you ahead in your career is working hard, having people skills, and so forth. Even there, that is only your career. The real joy of life is not from work but from followng your interests, getting married and having a family.</p>
<p>Now in the short term, you have to get thru this. It is a shock and you have to get thru it. Your parents are not going to stop loving you because of your SAT scores. In their own way, they are just as upset as you are. Parents get upset because they can be living their lives vicariously thru their kids, and they can also get upset because they worry about their kids. Parents shouldn't be that way, but they are sometimes. I'm sure that you love your parents even though they are like that just as they love you in spite of your SAT scores. Things will settle down, and then you can get on with your life. I don't think your parents are really going to be that bad about this, but if they are then it will still be temporary and they will get over it. You have not let them down in any way and you have nothing to be sorry about. Your only obligation in life is to show up and do the best you can. The whole admissions to college thing in the US is totally nuts. Fortunately it is temporary. Give your parents some time to adjust. Give yourself some time to adjust, and then move on. There is a lot of time left for great things to happen.</p>
<p>It is a bit troubling that you were not accepted by schools that were identified as "safeties." Have you spoken to your guidance counsellor? Does the GC have any idea why you were not accepted? Perhaps the GC can call the colleges and ask. What is your best mile time BTW?</p>
<p>Seems like a true safety in your case would have been an SAT optional school... there are plenty of them.</p>
<p>Here's some hope bestmiller. I have a friend who goes to Yale now. He applied to 9 schools and was rejected from every single one except for Yale. And he got a full ride to Yale. Miracles happen.</p>
<p>my gc was schocked when she found out i didnt make stonybrook.....yet kids who are not even in the IB Program got in....
and i really dont know any colleges that dont look at sats....btw the best mile low fives....im aiming for around 4:44-4:51, this season....</p>
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i hope that miracle happens for me in two days....UCB is posting their decision online....this is the ONE I WANT TO GO....but i will rejected most likely....im out of state, 1540 sats......im exactly what repels ucb....i have no nope anymore....i have no belief anymore...</p>
<p>don't talk like that!</p>
<p>If you do I will whack you with the ugly stick...</p>
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FairTest's College Admissions Test Score Optional list now includes over 730 schools:
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<p>Alphabetical listing:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.fairtest.org/optinit.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.fairtest.org/optinit.htm</a></p>
<p>We were just out looking at colleges, including Lehigh University. We were surprised to learn that Dickinson College in Carlisle PA is SAT optional. Very nice school. Would be happy if my son went there. My wife did and loved it.</p>
<p>Well, I really didn't think I'd have anything to add but Dickinson is a really fun, nice place. I took a summer of CTY there. Small and homely with a great oh, whats it called, it's like icecream but its not, I dunno, but its got a great one of those stores down the street.</p>
<p>Now on another note, your parents are wrong, flat out wrong. In Asia, where you go to school is everything, literally. In America, it doesn't really matter. Your parents came over here to give you a good opportunity to be successful, and frankly, where you go to college is for the most part irrelevant. It's just a cultural tidbit that should've been left back in Asia.</p>
<p>Examples, very very very very very few new corporate executives graduated from Ivy's. It's weird I know, but in 2004 or something there was only one new CEO from an Ivy.</p>
<p>You know Eileen Collins? The first female commander of the Space Shuttle? Guess where she went to college... Corning Community College, I don't think they've ever rejected ANYONE to give you an idea of how great (or not so great) a school it is.</p>
<p>They're wrong, just remind yourself that we're in America, not Asia. The Asian rule of where you go to school determines your life simply does not apply in America.</p>