<p>You'lll be fine man. What is it that you want to do for a career?</p>
<p>You are bound to get accepted somewhere...my SATs were exactly like yours(1530) I know im worth more than that, just too lazy to take it again.</p>
<p>But u applied to <13> i only applied to <3> and got one acceptance(plan on transfering)...besides the thoughts of suicide(yikes), i kind of feel your pain. But its more of what I feel. Im not really gettin pressure from my mom or anyone even though I am looked on as the only one in the family to go to a REAL 4-year college. My mom the only one with some college.</p>
<p>So i dont even let that bother me. I just worry about MY future for ME.</p>
<p>Just take a deep breath. Do it right now as you are reading this if you want. Concentrate on being with your friends and just remember that they love ya even though they might not say it. </p>
<p>And about your parents. All parents can be tough on their kids. Just let all thier negative comments bounce of you like you are in a big plastic bubble that deflects bad things. You can do great things in your life even though you feel like crap now. Think about how much Bill Gates was abused in his early life and all those bad comments he had to face. Now people would eat the soles of his shoes to work for him.</p>
<p>Can your GC call Binghamton and Stony Brook and make an appeal for you? Especially if Binghamton guarantees admission to IB students. </p>
<p>My husband went to Stony Brook for graduate school and says it's a great school.</p>
<p>Where else did you apply besides Cal and NYU and the other ones you were rejected by? </p>
<p>I definitely agree with the above poster, at the very least you should be in at Stony Brook if your gpa's decent.</p>
<p>I know you are feeling distraught and upset. You have reason to, BUT there are tons of kids in your position and have been and it ALWAYS works out! You have alot of support here and we will help you get through this, do not despair and think irrationally. Right now, put your parents to the side, don't even think of them or their "wants" for you, this is YOUR life. If they can't be rational right now, just don't deal with them. Now what is your advisor telling you? Is she making calls on your behalf?a good advisor will do this. I would absolutely APPEAL this RIGHT AWAY, and get your advisor and a teacher or two involved if necessary., Write a letter from the heart, we can help you do that, if need be. BE PROACTIVE is what I am trying to imply, don't dwell on what has happened, look forward and see what you can change. NO ONE under 1800's on their sats got into Ivies so your parents are being plain old unrealistic, and many with 2300 get rejected too! Hang in there, something will work out. How many other schools are you waiting to hear from? Worst case scenario, you could apply for the Jan. term or use it as a negotiating tool. Keep us posted, BUT THINK POSITIVE~!</p>
<p>best, what were your grades, if you don't mind my asking? In the IBS and in general in the last two years? You are a minority and you sound like you did some things you enjoyed like track in school, good for you! I am confident this will work out, tell me your grades, keep us posted. Thanks!</p>
<p>You honestly need to control yourself... You applied to some very prestigious schools... If you didn't get in, you didn't get in... You are still waiting for many responses, how can you be so sure you will be rejected? </p>
<p>Listen, an "ivy league" education is not the automatic ticket to success...</p>
<p>I understand the difficult position you are in.</p>
<p>Often parents don't understand how rigorous AND unpredictable the application process is. Especially if your parents are non-natives, they might not have heard of the great schools the US has to offer. To them, big names are everything - when that's not true at all. While they won't be dissuaded from this view, you need to remember this truth, to give yourself strength. </p>
<p>Killing yourself won't solve anything. It won't "teach" your parents to appreciate you. It won't solve your college woes because it will cut off your life options more completely than not getting into college. You - and your parents - will never know what you can accomplish. Let me tell you a quick story: an acquaintance of mine killed herself while in college. While I don't know exactly why she did it, I do know that she could not have possibly known that the rest of us viewed her as an incredibly intelligent, talented young woman who was going places. She never gave herself the chance to see what she could do. If only she had been able to see herself through the eyes of the people who knew her, then she might have realized that she needed to weather the personal setbacks.</p>
<p>You owe it to your parents, teacher, friends, and, even more, to yourself to prove where you can go. </p>
<p>Someone posted the following link in another thread. It's the Stanford commencement address given by Steve Jobs, who dropped out of college. It shows that sometimes things happen which seem like major setbacks at the time but which end up, if you give them the chance, as major opportunites.</p>
<p><a href="http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html%5B/url%5D">http://news-service.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html</a> </p>
<p>Print out the speech and read it often, especially when you feel that you can't handle things.</p>
<p>THEN to echo kellyconn, get your guidance counselor to intervene at one of the schools. Once you have all your decisions (and at least one may be an acceptance!), you should employ your school resources to see if you can get a spot. If not, then plan on doing something really awesome this year - teaching ESL in another country, inner city volunteer work, an internship that would show your passion in an area - and then apply next year with the additional credentials. You can retake the SATs and apply to a new batch of schools.</p>
<p>To the OP:</p>
<p>The GC idea from wackymother is good; pursue that!</p>
<p>Also: every year there is a list of schools that are still filling spots over the summer. Some of the schools last year surprised me-- I think St Lawrence was one. There was a link on cc, so do a search and you will find it.</p>
<p>There are probably still rolling admission schools you can try. </p>
<p>Options:
* Gap Year - find volunteer residential program abroad
* PG year at prep school
* apply to more schools NOW
* Community College, then transfer</p>
<p>YOU HAVE OPTIONS!!!!!</p>
<p>The first 18 years of your life are not wholly within your control but the next 70 years will be-- so BREATHE-- and realize you can make great things happen for the rest of your life.</p>
<p>Truth is with a good attitude you'll be happy wherever you end up. You are you and perhaps some of the schools weren't for you. maybe they were for your parents, or your cousins or your classmates. Check out a school like Holy Cross (which has an EXCELLENT reputation) or Drew University which don't NEED SATs. If you are in NY check our Penn State or Rutgers. I'm confident wherever you will end up will make you happy! Stay strong :)</p>
<p>Best Miler -</p>
<p>I think you feel suicidal because so many things are out of your control. You can't help the college outcomes at this point, and, unfortunately, your parents have no sympathy for your situation, and are stuck in the blame phase. The beatings by your dad are always going to have a negative influence on your relationship with him. Your mom has invested too much in the illusion of your "golden child" status, and it will affect her relationship with you for a long time as well. Your parents aren't going to change in the next six months, but you can change yourself. </p>
<p>Your relationship with your parents is so constrained by your dependency on them that I think you need to focus on a new plan that enables you to live separately. There are dozens of decent jobs that don't require 5 minutes of college - sales, building trades, etc. Think about getting an entry level job in a field you'd like for this summer. Work on becoming independent - that means learning (or improving) your skills in cleaning, cooking, managing money, making repairs. Set a goal of saving a certain amount and setting a move out date. </p>
<p>Look for options in your education - some companies will pay for all or part of your courses at a community college. Another option is finding a job at a university, where you can often take classes at low cost as an employee. The power you will feel at being in control of your life will be much stronger than the discomfort you feel at taking something "beneath" you. There are many advantages to starting at the bottom - you will know how a company works top to bottom, and you will always value the work of people who do the necessary, but unpopular, jobs. </p>
<p>Good luck to you. As others have said, you seem like a very intelligent and helpful young person, with a lot to offer. Don't let one setback get to you. It's just a stumble at the beginning of your race.</p>
<p>BestMiler,</p>
<p>i am sorry that this has happened to you. There are still options available.</p>
<p>if you do a sort on coomonapp.org, there are still a few schools that are still taking rolling applications. Look into applying there.</p>
<p>In early May, colleges which still have spaces available post through NACAC (I think that's the website) to let kids know that they've got room.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.nacacnet.org/MemberPortal/%5B/url%5D">http://www.nacacnet.org/MemberPortal/</a></p>
<p>it might be worth looking into.</p>
<p>I would check out new college of florida. They have rolling admissions, they take the common app, they meet 96% of your demonstrated need with a 75/25 grant to loan ratio.
<a href="http://www.ncf.edu/Admissions/documents/admiss_dates.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.ncf.edu/Admissions/documents/admiss_dates.htm</a></p>
<p>good luck to you</p>
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<blockquote> <p>according to my parents those are not even worth talking about</p> </blockquote>
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<p>Bestmiler, it sounds like your parents believe that attending specific colleges will give you a big boost in life. In many countries, this is true - attending the "right" school gives you the connections and credentials to succeed, and other schools don't.</p>
<p>Fortunately, in the U.S. that is far from the case. Your future will depend much more on what you accomplish in college than the name on the diploma. Try to pick a school that fits your interests and where you'll be able to excel. Depending on your field, internship and similar opportunities may be important, so factor that into your decision.</p>
<p>Good luck with your remaining applications!</p>
<p>I really understand your pain (though I'm not suicidal). Having dealt with rejection 5 times this year (fortunately, I HAVE had acceptances, as I'm sure you've had too... but still, rejection is hard even when you have acceptances), I can really say I identify. Sadly, these were the schools I had cosen, not the ones I applied to just to please my parents. Parents really do not understand, though. When I came home from the first time I took the PSAT (junior year--150/240), I set my score on the table and my mother started laughing at me, calling me a "retard" and "not so smart after all". For me, unfortunately, the abuse has not only been physical, but verbal as well. I took the SAT in June, scored an 1860, and was still called stupid. So, I figured-- "whatever, I don't really care anymore". Come college application time, I was asked my parents whether I was applying to "Columbia or NYU". When I answered "no", I was inexplicably yelled at, and decided to go back to my room. I eventually did apply to NYU, but because I liked it -- not because I was forced into it. My parents are not Asian, but they are immigrants, and they think the American system is very "flawed", and that everything is wrong here. They complained when somebody said it's just not acceptable for them to hurt their kids(!)</p>
<p>So, yes, I've gotten the little envelopes. And I've dealt with the constant neglect from my parents. I have felt like crap, but I haven't let that stop me from changing my own perception of myself. The rule is, "You can be upset about a college rejection for one day, but don't ever let it dictate your life." </p>
<p>My friend, who is in a similar situation, was forced to apply to all of the Ivys, MIT, and Oxford. Rejected at MIT and Oxford. Waiting on the ivys. She knows she probably will not get in, but her parents made her apply because they expect perfection from all of their daughters. BTW, she was hit my her father when she received news from MIT. When she received news from Oxford, she was yelled at. </p>
<p>If all else fails, apply as a transfer -- which is what I'll do if I'm unhappy next year. I'll probably retake the SAT this June and take the ACT in June, to see if I can higher my score a bit. Do the same! :) </p>
<p>Good luck!! :) I hope NYU & Rochester see how wonderful you truly are.</p>
<p>Have you been rejected by all of the schools you applied to?</p>
<p>Apply to Valpariso University! They have rolling admissions and I was accepeted there too. It seems like a nice school even though I have not visited it yet.</p>
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Come college application time, I was asked my parents whether I was applying to "Columbia or NYU". When I answered "no", I was inexplicably yelled at, and decided to go back to my room. I eventually did apply to NYU, but because I liked it -- not because I was forced into it
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my parents made me apply to UCB, NYU, And Rochester.....when i told them i dont want to apply there because i have no shot in those schools, they yelled at me....the next day they called my gc and talked to her and FORCED to apply to those colleges.....now that i am getting rejected from my top colleges, they are coming and yelling at me...i tell them you made my apply there, they turn it around and start to compare me to all my other cousins, and asks me how can do it.....then they blame it in alll in clubs and track....they say that clubs and track has ruined my life, they are no importance in life....i tell them that ecs are almost mandatory to get in college, and they blow me off by mentioning my sats....then i start to feel bad, because now i realize that they do have a point.....NOW the most recent thing, they are comparing me to MY SIXTH GRADE COUSIN, who was like a valedictorian of her elementary school....they tell me, "oh look how she is so into studying and blah blah blah, and how her aim is HPYS".....I JUST LISTEN TO THEM and I just keep my anger to myself..........
Well TY YOU GUYS SO MUCH, YOU HAVE MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER :) ......i have to face them and just talk to them</p>
<p>It seems like you've been covered, but my best advice would be to show them this thread.</p>
<p>If they don't have any sympathy to your posts or understanding of the responses, well, you may just be the most mature person in your house.</p>
<p>what schools did you apply to?</p>