<p>Are you younger or the older or inbetween? I'm the youngest out of the two, so I get to not give a crap about my academics, etc... (n like i said, my bro takes all the crap.) </p>
<p>And like somebody asked... Are you asian? (i am too) I know how asian parents can be, and how they like to freak out (luckily, mine did not.) and don't worry for now... ok? just relax and listen to loud music. I received my rejection letter from cornell today and i'm surprisingly calm... hmmm...</p>
<p>so can you list ALL the colleges you applied to and the results? I'm just curious which ones you have to wait for...</p>
<p>im the youngest and im southeast asian....so the same mentally with easter asian/southeast asian parents
well im waiting for Rochester, NYU, Hofstra, SUNY ALBANY AND BUFFALO, UDEL
seriously man, lots of peoople want me to transfer....i dont even if i can be motivated anymore, if i go to suny albany, or buffalo. or udel or hofstra (well thats if i even get in)
it is INHUMANELY impossible to take the feelings of rejection one after another......i cant concentrate in school anymore, i cant concentrate in track....worst of all, kids in the IB program are mirror image of kids in cc...and im hearing now lots of them got in their top choice, many of them ivies...and me into SECOND CHOICE IN PENN STATE.....this is so embarassing, when people ask me where im going. i dont have an answer, that makes me feel so low....here are kids who are going to ivies, and i cant even get into stonybrook.....I MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING HORRIBLE, THAT I AM CURSED BY GOD......i prayed to GOD every night, no sign of answer......</p>
<p>i did, i gave it all i had, and i really mean that, i am a person who will not settle anything less than a A. I took it three times, and the last one i got 1540 straight out
550 Math
490 CR
500 Reading
I think if i could have gotten a fourth chance, i could have broke 600 in math and reading and a 550 in cr.....but the after teh third one, College board starts to average them up...and thats bad</p>
<p>They don't average them, to my knowledge.I took them over and over again and the colleges took my highest score. MAybe you should've tried to take ACT? (i know some people do better on these)</p>
<p>I really do know how you feel, BestMiler1. My parents are also immigrants who came to the US, and ever since I can remember, they've said that they have sacrificed their whole lives so I can go to an Ivy League school. Well, doesn't look like that's going to happen, unless by some miracle I get into Columbia. I don't believe in miracles anymore though. </p>
<p>I haven't even told my parents about my rejections from Georgetown and Brown because I just don't know how to face them. </p>
<p>"Hey mom, dad, sorry I'm such a failure. I know you've sacrificed you lives for me and left behind your home so I could get an Ivy League education. I'm sorry I'm such a dissapointment" is how I believe the conversation will go. </p>
<p>It looks like I will end up at NYU, which I absolutely love, but I still can't help feel that my parents will be terribley dissapoitned by me. </p>
<p>I'm very sorry for what you're going through; every night in bed, I think about how my parents will react to my Ivy League rejections. Hopefully, you will end up at a great school and make the most of it and prove to your parents that you are NOT a dissapointment, and that all their hard work did pay off. </p>
<p>Helix: I understand how you don't want to disappoint your parents, but what if they had wanted you to be a movie star or a Nobel prize winner by the time you were 30. They have unrealistic expectations. If somebody were a failure because they couldn't get into an ivy, then 99.8% of us would be failures. You and I both can feel for the temporary disappointment of your parents, but don't feel that you are a failure for "only" getting into NYU. I would recommend that you try to educate your parents about education in the US rather than apologize in any way.</p>
<p>Thanks for your kind words, dufus3709. I've tried so many times to tell my parents that there are amazing schools out there, but they seem to believe that there are Ivy Leagues, and then community colleges and state schools. They don't understand that there's anything in between! For them, a rejection from a school which accepts 16 percent of their applicants automatically means that I'm not good enough, and I will just have to settle for the local university close to home. </p>
<p>I feel like maybe I can talk to my mom, and she'll be understanding, but my dad once told me that if I didn't get into ________ Ivy League, then I was destined for the crappy school near our home. </p>
<p>Im soooooooo frustrated right now; I don't know what to do. It seems BestMiler and I are in the same boat.</p>
<p>man YOU GOT INTO NYU....I am definitely going to get rejected from there...if i got into nyu, I would have invited the WHOLE CC WORLD tomy party of celebrations....my parents and i would love it if i got into NYU.....just be happy man, just be happy</p>
<p>I'm happy about my acceptance from NYU, but I know my parents will still be disappointed. I realize the schools we hoped for are different, but my parents will be just as disappointed with me as yours seem to be. </p>
<p>Don't give up on NYU just because you didn't receive an invitation. Hang in there.</p>
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a rejection from a school which accepts 16 percent of their applicants automatically means that I'm not good enough
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As I am sure you know, Columbia may accept 16% of the people who apply but the applicant pool is self selecting. There are about 1.2 million high school graduate each year and only about 15000 go to the super-elite colleges at the top. I understand that immigrant parents may not "get" the way things work, but don't think less of yourself.</p>
<p>I have read this thread and I understand what you must be going through. BestMiller, I wish you the best of luck with NYU, even though I do not see it happening...which colleges have you been accepted at already?</p>
<p>Getting into a good college does not determine your future. In fact, your undergraduate school does not matter when compared to your graduate school. So do well in college, wherever you end up, and transfer if you want or go to better graduate school.</p>
<p>The only other thing I can say is that life moves on. There will always be difficult times, but there will always be good times as well. Remember, life is like a card game. Sometimes you'll be dealt absolutely terrible cards, and you'll lose that hand. But you have to quickly forget about that and prepare for the next one. It's only a matter of time until that full house comes. Nobody can deny that this is a bitter disappointment for both you and your parents, but realize that as upsetting as this is, it is NOT the end of the world.</p>
<p>well i have been accepted to my second choice choice campus at Penn State and rejected from University Park.....I know everyone tells me i can always transfer.....in order for me to transfer, i really need to well....and honestly how can I be motivated at a place, where i cant even stand being for a second, and always will be nostalgic towards UCB.....if i go to a mediocre school, i wouldnt be very motivated, i would feel like getting out of there asap...but i guess thats the only chance I have left.....</p>
<p>Bestmiler, do not stress over this. I was in the same situation as you are now until recently. For the first three years of my high school career, my parents always thought that I was a failure because I never brought home the best grades. They always wanted me to go to IVY or the top schools and kept bugging me about it, but at the same time they never supported the cause and only reminded me verbally about how they made sacrifices to come to this country and work for my education. When it comes something school related that requires work on their part they usually turn the other cheek and left me by myself. Being Chinese parents, they are apathetic. They never showed me any affection and never gave me the support that I needed. The only support that I had was my inner strength: the voice that kept telling to go on and to prove to them that I'm not a failure. They finally began acknowledging me after my acceptances into Lehigh back in December. Although Lehigh isn't in the top 10, they are finally happy to know that I've gotten into a national recognized institution. The point of me telling you this is to do what you WANT to do, not what others want you to do. Don't rely on others (unless you know they're there for you), instead, buildup inner strength. Bring out that strength within you and work to your full potential. Set realistic goals, and don't let others bog you down on some minor mistakes that you've made early in life because WE all make mistakes during our youth. Like what my parents always say, "Does what I say to you goes in one ear and go out the other?" Modify that a little. If you don't like what others say then listen to them and let those words flow out the other ear and continue on your own path.</p>
<p>PS. Don't worry about college rankings In reality, no employer wastes time on his or her computer looking up for college rankings online. However, do try to get into a school with some name. It might help you a little with grad school and finding a job.</p>
<p>Accepted: Ohio State University (dont want to go there)
Villanova University (not sure)
Northeastern University ( LOVE IT, AMAZING CO-OP + ITS IN BOSTON)
Boston University (didnt get into the program i wanted but im in)</p>
<p>Rejected: Cornell ED, Brown, Yale, U Penn, Dartmouth, Columbia, Lehigh (what the heck), Wash univ in st louis, northwestern univ.</p>
<p>Deferred: Univ of Michigan Ann Arbor</p>
<p>Waitlisted: Johns Hopkins University (WILL STAY IN IT)</p>
<p>WAITING FOR : NYU, Univ of Notre Dame, Princeton</p>
<p>I keep reading this post and hearing about immigrant parents talking about how much they gave up / struggled to give their kid a shot at college. Yet, they seem to think your'e a failure if you happen to get anywhere but an Ivy. If I were you I would point out their shortcommings, holding marginal jobs whatever it might be. If they had been good at what they did they would have had the money and ability to not sacrifice anything, so its half their fault. </p>
<p>Sorry if this comes off as a rude but hell someone needs to tell marginal parents that they need to relax and just because they failed or struggled doesnt mean their kid needs to take the brunt of it.</p>
<p>So man up up go tell your dad his janitor job sucks and punch him and your mother in the face. If they are rich and just lame and claim they struggle go key the benz and use those privat ju jitsu lessons to break their arms.</p>