AALDKFJADFIH, what should i do??!

Transfer Students
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<p>Who else is incredibly stressed out by this whole transfer process?</p>

<p>There is so much more uncertainty than there was when I applied for freshmen admission. I feel like transfers get shafted by the admssions office a lot of the time.</p>

<p>Plus theres the added stress of worrying about getting into classes at the new school, getting housing. Not to mention, deciding which school is the best to transfer to. All while trying to finish out your college classes strong.</p>

<p>That is, of course, after you get over the hump of getting in to schools first.</p>

<p>I'm not even sure if I should transfer anymore. I got invited to my school's scholar program, and I got invited to be a bio TA (even though I didn't apply). Theres just one small detail.....O, i'm completely miserable here (st. mary's college of maryland). </p>

<p>I got into unc, umd, and ur. I'm waiting to hear from uva. I kinda really want to go to uva but I'm trying not to admit that to myself cause I don't want to be heartbroken if I get rejected. Of course, I was kind of really in love with unc too, but then I got in and I started to have my doubts about if it would really be better than where I am now.</p>

<p>Any thoughts, suggestions....calming words of wisdom?</p>

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<p>I know what you mean. I applied to UChicago and Wash U. I feel like Wash U has treated me very well, but UChicago has treated me like a second class citizen compared to their freshman admissions. My advice is just to take a deep breath, go out and treat yourself to an ice cream and do your best to relax. That's what I'm doing! :)</p>

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<p>wow, I was just gonna come on here and post the same thing about UNC. I was so sure i wanted to go there so bad but now that I have the choice i am really freakin out, I mean although my school sort of sucks, i already have some friends here and you cant beat its location. plus UNC is so close to home. blah! i would go to maryland, I always wanted to go there but never got aroud to applying</p>

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<p>I'm still stoked about going to UNC. My main hurdle right now though is financial aid/out-of-state tuition :(</p>

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Who else is incredibly stressed out by this whole transfer process?</p>

<p>There is so much more uncertainty than there was when I applied for freshmen admission. I feel like transfers get shafted by the admssions office a lot of the time.</p>

<p>Plus theres the added stress of worrying about getting into classes at the new school, getting housing. Not to mention, deciding which school is the best to transfer to. All while trying to finish out your college classes strong.</p>

<p>That is, of course, after you get over the hump of getting in to schools first.</p>

<p>I'm not even sure if I should transfer anymore. I got invited to my school's scholar program, and I got invited to be a bio TA (even though I didn't apply). Theres just one small detail.....O, i'm completely miserable here (st. mary's college of maryland). </p>

<p>I got into unc, umd, and ur. I'm waiting to hear from uva. I kinda really want to go to uva but I'm trying not to admit that to myself cause I don't want to be heartbroken if I get rejected. Of course, I was kind of really in love with unc too, but then I got in and I started to have my doubts about if it would really be better than where I am now.</p>

<p>Any thoughts, suggestions....calming words of wisdom?

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<p>I don't think denial is the best path. Take a realistic look at your situation. You want to go to UVA, and you are stressed about the transfer process. My best advice is to just be aware of your feelings and in touch with yourself, as oppossed to trying to spin things in your head.</p>

<p>When I applied to Georgetown last year, I was super obsessive. Ultimately, I got rejected, and I survived. This time around, I am pretty chill. I'm not checking the mail everyday, and probably wont. If an admissions letter comes, then I will get it when someone else gets the mail. I am just trying my best to live my life as I would normally live it as if I weren't transferring. When I write in my journal, I might talk about my desires for transferring and my hopes, but I try to stay in the here and now.</p>

<p>Perhaps you should find an activity that you find relaxing? I am taking Calculus now, and that usually helps me get my mind off of any stress. I have also tried to be as social as possible. I am just trying to keep busy and taking things one day at a time.</p>

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<p>thanks everyone.</p>

<p>matm1-</p>

<p>you're right. </p>

<p>It's weird, last year I didn't stress out at all about college applications/ admissions. And i didn't even stress when i got rejected from my top choice (bowdoin)....so i find it kind of suprising that this time around i am stressed.</p>

<p>I just don't want to get stuck in the same situation all over again.</p>

<p>but i guess i have no control over it at this point, so i should just chill out.</p>

<p>o, and vaco, I'm from MD so it's kind of the oppisite situation for me. I'd rather go out of state to UNC than be half an hour from home.</p>

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thanks everyone.</p>

<p>matm1-</p>

<p>you're right. </p>

<p>It's weird, last year I didn't stress out at all about college applications/ admissions. And i didn't even stress when i got rejected from my top choice (bowdoin)....so i find it kind of suprising that this time around i am stressed.</p>

<p>I just don't want to get stuck in the same situation all over again.</p>

<p>but i guess i have no control over it at this point, so i should just chill out.</p>

<p>o, and vaco, I'm from MD so it's kind of the oppisite situation for me. I'd rather go out of state to UNC than be half an hour from home.

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<p>Yeah, I am from MD too. I go to UMBC. I mean, I don't really think you can control your stress directly. I know I can't. I guess the trick is to arrange your lifestyle in a way that makes stress more difficult to surface.</p>