<p>Sam Lee.....do you think any of the reason is due to Stanford's class mix has 50% of the kids coming from California? I wonder if that alone might be the reason why the numbers are different? 50% means the pool they are selecting from is less diverse?</p>
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<blockquote> <p>I am not surprised at that. I am just hypothesizing why Stanford constantly has lower test scores than HYP. <<</p> </blockquote>
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<p>One thought---the boarding school is more an Eastern thing and HYP attracts more apps from boarding school kids?</p>
<p>could be. we need sakky.</p>
<p>Thanks, mountains,
How are you all doing???</p>
<p>adigal, </p>
<p>It seems that deferral notification seems like a long time ago, and it's just been a week. The letter came in the mail a couple of days ago, and my son good-naturely said, "Oo, let's see what this looks like on their official school letterhead." (He found out online.) The storm has indeed passed.</p>
<p>I'm thinking what to say supportive to any who were disappointed with ED news. </p>
<p>This happened for our eldest, but years ago, and he thinks about it even today as one of those growing up hard lessons. He also decided and expressed (as many CC families report) he was better off where he ended up than where he was rejected both ED and RD. </p>
<p>(As I posted a bit earlier on this thread; he's the kid who emailed back in October from his freshman dorm, "If I'd known how happy I'd be here, it would have been my #1 all along..") </p>
<p>So I'll pass on some unsolicited advice in case it's hard in any homes at this juncture:</p>
<p>WHen I asked S, what is your new "first choice" his response was a lot wiser than my question. He said he's not going to even think about it, or play in his mind with the ranking of the other 7 applications. He said, "What's the point? I'll do my best on each application now, and in April, when I see who actually takes me, THEN I'll rank a list just from among the acceptances." That was smart.</p>
<p>My kid was one of those who had put off most of the work on his applications until mid-December. He just believed too much in that ED possibility. BUT he had clear field to work on apps 24/7 for the next two weeks, because we significantly reduced our holiday plans. We cancelled a family drive and customary one-week with the grandparents and said, that's IT, we can't come this year. He needs to work on his applications. </p>
<p>So I urge parents to review your holiday schedule and personal expectations about the perfect season, to see if anything might be simplified, just this ONE year because of a bad surprise in your household. </p>
<p>Can you exchange presents unwrapped? Buy, rather than bake, holiday cookies? Skip an office party? Make the senior year kid's presence at some local family functions optional, or bring a second car so he can leave a few hours earlier for home to keep working...etc. </p>
<p>S basically dropped all holiday plans, holed up and used the next weeks 24/7 to do the other 7 application essays very well. I concentrated on keeping the house as calm as possible, keeping the younger sibs out of his hair, and so on. For us, it was not a typical late-December winter break, but it was really a gift to reduce the extra stress. ANYTHING to cut a corner --just this ONE year -- to be a more rested, available, stress-free parent is helpful to your kid. </p>
<p>We can't change the ED outcome, and we can't even change how the kid feels, but we CAN control the overall mood of the household with a few tweaks in details.</p>
<p>Of course, if your kid has all the other applications done in advance of the ED announcement, then I salute and admire you. I can't imagine your household but it must be nice..:)</p>
<p>paying3tuitions,</p>
<p>Thanks for the great advice. Our household is one of the "nice" ones with all the apps in by November 30 due to his GC's requirement. He did hand her one a couple of days ago (ED jitters?) and she nearly passed out. She came in that night to prepare all his stuff and it was mailed out immediately. S gave her a lovely present. He is extremely fortunate to have a GC that truly cares for all of them. Our holiday season continues as planned - working on scholarship apps with a binding agreement that no one, and no one, can bring up college at all, unless it somehow relates to the scholarships. That is, no member of the family during the gatherings can ask him how college application is coming along. They have all been forewarned. :)</p>
<p>Best of luck to all.</p>
<p>WHen I asked S, what is your new "first choice" his response was a lot wiser than my question. He said he's not going to even think about it, or play in his mind with the ranking of the other 7 applications. He said, "What's the point? I'll do my best on each application now, and in April, when I see who actually takes me, THEN I'll rank a list just from among the acceptances." </p>
<p>We still can't get my d to rank any of her schools (even with EA responses coming in)....She has had the attitude above (word for word, weirdly) since the beginning; so much less stressful now, but I think it's the calm before the storm
I can only hope that the rest of the EA and RD don't all come in at the same time!!</p>
<p>My son also didn't rank except that his safeties were slightly B list (though excellent schools). When people asked where he was applying, even in conversation, he'd list them in alphabetical order. I thought it was very smart too. He did have a lot of deciding to do between April 1 and May 1.</p>
<p>Daughter accepted to Tulane with the DSA, and U Pitt with full tuiton . Wil be sending in the DHS project by Dec 15th</p>
<p>We just saw that son was accepted to Tulane (online). Won't know until the official letter arrives how much/if any merit award is included.</p>
<p>lets bring this thead back. :)</p>
<p>Noooo, please just start a new one! It’s too much trouble to start at page 32!</p>