admission to "1st choice" college an overreach?

<p>College math is a whole other thing than high school, especially post calculus. As a math major, i can tell you this. Engineering, Math sciences, Mathematics, the sciences as they start using more math than reading skills, computer sciences, lose so many kids from those disciplines in college. </p>

<p>From what I have seen, however, it’s the social and everyday living part that often rattles kids who have issues in that areas. Dealing with that AND the academics are just too much. We have a cousin who was quite brilliant during high school who flunked out of college first term. These days, he would probably be diagnosed as being on the autiism spectrum or with Aspbergers. He would believe what other kids told him. If they said “no one studies” or to “blow off” a course, he did. At home, his siblings, close friends, teachers, family would keep him on the right track and filter any comments or beliefs he started to have. No such protection in college. He was home after the first term. He successfully got his degree commuting–took him 7 years, but he has a good job, and has been self sufficient for years. But the hardest thing for him was dealing with folks on a casual, hanging out basis, and he still needs someone to help him filter because even in his fifties, he cannot discern character. In a closed setting with rules, he’s fine. In his case,going away to college was a big mistake, but you know, doing it really showed where the porblems were with him. Sometimes you gotta try it to see if will fly or not. And sometimes it does.</p>