<p>The way to pick colleges is top-down, meaning you start by identifying your preferences (location, competiveness, size, study abroad programs, sports, performing arts, and the dozens of other things that matter to you). Then pick colleges that meet those preferences, putting together a basket of safeties, matches, and reaches.</p>
<p>Keep in mind is you don't need to be right about all your decisions up-front. What you need to do is check your decisions until they ARE right. So for example if you think that a LAC in a rural setting might be what you want, go off and visit one! It might turn out that you decide it isn't right after all, in which case you come up with new choices.</p>
<p>Bottom up, the way most people pick colleges, is pick schools with attractive names (a Harvard, Williams, etc), add in a few schools for flavor, and then throw in a safety. You end up with a incoherent collection of colleges; a student that will be ecstatic at a rural small college like Dartmouth is unlikely to be similarly pleased at an urban campus like Columbia, yet you'll see lots of people apply to both. You'll see plenty of people that jump at the big brand names (Princeton, Stanford, etc) with little actual reflection on why they are choosing those schools or if they are actually a good fit.</p>
<p>Before you get too far along in the process, consider money. Its heartbreaking to get your heart set one a college only to find out that you're family just can't afford it. I don't know your circumstances, of course, but unless you're family is either wealthy or very poor money may be an issue. It's worth having your parents work thru one of the EFC estimators online now, and then have a discussion of what they can afford (or will pay for, which may be less).</p>
<p>But the most important point is that picking actual colleges is the last step. First you have to figure out what you want (which ought to take some time). Go visit some nearby colleges, large and small, even if they aren't schools you are particularly interested in. Take the tour, talk to some people, so that you can break the "mystique" of college and start to learn whats out there and what you might like.</p>
<p>The good news is this is an ideal time to start thinking about colleges. You have time to make some decisions and also some visits without the pressure of filing deadlines a few weeks away like a lot of people who first start thinking about this next September.</p>
<p>BTW there are, as you might guess, dozens of books that describe this process in greater detail. And since you have time I'd recommend reading one or two before you go any farther. Two great books are "Looking Beyond the Ivy League" by Pope (although the book has a bias towards LACs), and "Making It into a Top College: 10 Steps to Gaining Admission to Selective Colleges and Universities" by Greene. Both these books lay out the structured approach outlined above. </p>
<p>The last bit of advice is don't be rushed! You have 6 months or so before ED apps are due, and longer for RD. Take the time to discover what you want and identify the colleges that can provide it. Don't be seduced by the big status names, and I warn you about this because it sounds like your parents are already pushing this. They are great schools for some people, but you should only go if you are one of those people.</p>