<p>My top three schools are Alabama, Auburn and Ole Miss. I loved all three but Ole Miss is the best fit financially. I am a very good student and don't drink. All of these schools are considered party schools with Ole Miss being ranked at the top in the nation, so I'm very concerned about fitting in. I also am interested in joining a sorority and wonder if at any of these schools there are sororities that aren't all about the partying. Thanks for any help you can offer.</p>
<p>sunnysar, you are going to find drinkers and non drinkers at all of your schools. Unless you go to an extremely religious school, you will find partying, but you will find your own group of like minded friends. Choose the school that you love within your budget. Good luck.</p>
<p>Congrats. Stick to your own principles. Making friends on the basis of drinking habits is not a friendship, its setting the stage for alcohol abuse and later problems. Tell people, “no thanks” and go to social events that are not centered on drinking…though drinking may occur…and choose to stay sober. Don’t be too preachy and sanctimonious but share your views if asked, stressing personal safety, healthy lifestyle and better grades. Kids drink to experiment…can’t stop that. But lead by example. Some sorority sisters will get it and understand and embrace your sobriety…hopefully some will join you. You don’t want to date a heavy drinking young man either. </p>
<p>College is about getting an education and building a life plan. Socialization skills are learned. But as GaMom says, there will be lots of non drinkers at college if you look around. Normally the smartest kids with the best study habits and highest gpa’s aren’t party animals anyway. That is what my kid found out in college. She and all her friends graduated Phi Beta Kappa…for a reason: Hard Work. Did they have fun? Yes. But they were responsible and found healthy things to do. When they all turned 21 they had their night on the town, out for dinner and a cocktail. But nobody got plastered, nobody had a hangover and nobody got into trouble. Where are they now? Graduate and Professional School.</p>
<p>So don’t be judgmental and preachy. Lead by example and answer the question if someone asks you. Make friends on a basis of similar values and interests. Good luck.</p>
<p>Sunny,</p>
<p>If you qualify for honors at Alabama, then you will find a good number of students who aren’t big into partying…especially if you choose to be in honors housing which is on the very quiet side of the campus. Now, that doesn’t mean that those honors kids won’t ever go to a party or have fun. As, said above, you’re going to find partying everywhere.</p>
<p>My kids were in the honors dorms at Bama had mostly non-partying friends. </p>
<p>There are sororities that are less into partying…some are very service-oriented.</p>
<p>What are your stats? Will you test again? What is your major?</p>