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I also suspect she would like to have her own database (like a detailed scattergram) that she can refer to for future clients, and having printed applications from schools with the acceptance/rejections noted on them would give her lots of information to use in her consulting business.
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<p>That's a good enough reason not to give her the passwords - why should you consent to let her use your s's personal information and work for her own commercial gain? You don't know how or when she'll use it or how confidential she'll keep it. You and your son need to remain in control of that info. </p>
<p>The easiest thing to say: "I'm sorry, but it is our personal policy never to give out our on-line passwords. We're trying to instill this as a habit in our son, and see no reason to make an exception to the policy now. He'll be happy to sit with you and go over anything you wish, but we believe that it is necessary to keep passwords private."</p>
<p>(And if this isn't your family's policy, it should be!)</p>
<p>Well to be honest I would never employ one...no insult to anyone. Every family has to operate their own way and I just feel that if I am writing the check to the college than I should be the one checking it over. I also agree with someone else who stated that if their child messes up then it is their fault and will have to learn from it. If they want that cllege that bad enough they will check and double check. They also made a valid point, I am not going to college with them, I have already cut his wings and accept tha although he is my s, he is now a young adult and must be responsible for his actions, pos and neg.<br>
My final reason is I feel for me personally if the GC is reveiwing the essay and edits in a professional manner, is it really the child's essay? Can we all say science fair projects that every parent can tell mom & dad did it? I always laugh at that because teachers can tell...what as if all of the sudden a C student in 8th grade can now do physics? I would hope and do believe that the admissions officer can see the transcript Lang IV H and has an 85% and an SAT score of 550, but all of the sudden their essay is out the door number 1.</p>
<p>Who is doing the applying? The student, or the counselor? If the student is applying, the student is the only one who needs the passwords. The two of them can review the info together online or look at a printed copy. </p>
<p>You are not paranoid. Your son should not share his passwords with anyone. He needs to know that the applications he sends in are HIS, and his acceptance/rejection will ride on HIS work.</p>
<p>BTW, applying to colleges really isn't that hard. I can see using a counselor to help you find a list of appropriate colleges and perhaps to EDIT an essay and an activity resume. But as for the actual application itself.... do you know your address? do you know where your parents work? It's all demographics. I think you need to clarify your boundaries with your counselor. Her job is to EDIT, and give advice. It's your SON's job to fill out his applications. If she doesn't agree with that, I'd find another counselor or do it myself.</p>
<p>This does not sound right to me. That she has some of the info like SSN may not be an issue; I've known counselors to ask a student to give them a copy of a filled in common app or have their own app that asks questions that are college apps. But going into private sites is a whole different story, in my book. Better the student download and print out an app then to give someone a la carte to that info. </p>
<p>BTW, I did not have my son's info which caused a bit of a problem when he could not remember where he stored a bunch of codes from some colleges and other stuff when something happened to an e-mail address. Do tell your kids to store that stuff somewhere with a back up.</p>
<p>My DH and I have an old fashion mail container on top of our desk. We chose to hard coppy every bit of info including passwords and place into his app folders (1 4 ea coll), this way at anytime I could access accounts, review his latest essay, check deadlines. For each college folder we created dated checklists and paperwork that was submitted).<br>
My s knew it was his responsibility to check everything off in a timely manner & put copies in. We explained that g forbid the computer crashed we have the hc's and nothing is lost.<br>
Also forced him to start acting like an independent person responsible for his future, while giving us the peace of mind that we could still keep track and make sure he could have his dreams</p>
<p>She is working on them. No early application to anywhere except UC and USC deadlines are approaching. Just a small hitch with her high school transcript.</p>
<p>I never saw my Ds applications...however, she did put up her passwords etc for each school on her bulliten board, so that if something did happen, and I needed access (illness or injury for example) we could get to her apps for her</p>
<p>other than that, nada</p>
<p>so it is a good idea to post those passwords, numbers, etc and let mom and dad know where they are</p>
<p>That counselor should NOT have your son's passwords. Can one of your son's teachers look over his essays? I know that you are trying to do the best you can for him. Good luck!</p>