<p>While you have attended to american university, have you felt like you fit in? Have you made good friends from americans? Or do you feel like an outsider?
How about community colleges, is there any social life there?</p>
<p>Americans tend to be friendly and respond well if you remember to smile a lot and say " hi!" to anyone you even vaguely recognize, generally people are expected to be cheerful. It's OK to make the first move--suggesting you go "for coffee" after a class. Community colleges are a bit harder because people are often also working and have to get away to their jobs, but even so getting together after or before a class or meeting for breakfast at a school cafeteria or local hangout should all be possibilities. Don't hang around only with groups from your own country--being on your own and approaching Americans will make it easier to make friends. Also check bulletin boards for activities you might enjoy and don't be afraid to show up alone. Good Luck!</p>
<p>yes, first move is important and you got to be active. hang out/ stick to your dormmates at the beginning of the year, talk to classmates outside class... </p>
<p>at most private (top) colleges, international kids (or at least those from Asia) tend to stick together. it's nice and stuff but if you want to have American friends, friend them, don't wait for them to friend you. Force yourself to feel comfortable around them even when you think there is a language/ culture barrier. IMO most American kids are friendly and educated enough to know how to respect other cultures and not be critical when you can't speak perfect English. But don't force yourself too hard, if you find they are not your niche at all, just stay with int'l kids and have fun. good luck!</p>