<p>Dearest lovely women attending women's schools (esp. ones literally in the middle of nowhere..)
I'm considering going back to a women's school (Mt. Holyoke) and due to its bucolic setting and relatively far distance from Amherst, UMass and Hampshire, I wanted to know from people firsthand if they had any luck with making and maintaining guy friendships?<br>
I know everyone seems to be worried about dating dudes, but I think if anything it's far more important to find platonic male companionships first. In my experience, the strongest romantic relationships arose out of good friendships. Hahaha. </p>
<p>Thus, I'm desperate for bros... #isthatweird</p>
<p>Gosh, it's so hard to be a college girl and be desperate for guy friends without tryna send the message you want in on their pants.. who's with me?</p>
<p>Do you not have access to a car? It’s my understanding that MHC is about 10-15 minutes driving from the other Five Colleges, and that there’s also a shuttle that connects the 5 of them.</p>
<p>I went to a women’s college that was in a consortium with a men’s college and a co-ed university, and I think the key is just being yourself and spending at least a little bit of time in places where men gather. My campus was coterminous with the campuses of the other schools, and so after classes ended at 5 or 6 men poured onto our campus to socialize. They wanted to meet young women, both for romantic relationships and for friendships. And vice versa - women went over to Morehouse and Clark Atlanta because they wanted to meet men. All of the schools had pretty regular weekly events during the warmer months (Morehouse had Hump Wednesday, Spelman had Market Friday - both open-air markets that turned into social events).</p>
<p>So I think if you want some bro friends, then you’ve gotta find a way to get to Amherst, Hampshire and/or UMass-Amherst and visit some of their social events (and perhaps some quasi-academic ones, like after-hours talks or whatever). Drag yourself onto the shuttle, perhaps with 1 or 2 like-minded girlfriends, and show up at their events.</p>
<p>You also might want to get involved in a student group that hosts co-ed events and makes an effort to invite the students from the other Five Colleges. Again, it’s been my experience that when women invite men to the social events in their space, they come. I know it’s probably a bit different given that Amherst and UMass are coed and not single-sex, but everyone else at college wants to make connections, so just jump in there.</p>
<p>Omg. I’m so sorry I posted this with such a title. But “Hump Wednesday.” That’s honestly pretty funny.</p>
<p>I’m kind of ruining MHC’s name on the Internet… <em>cringe</em></p>