<p>College hasn't been quite as enjoyable as I had envisioned it to be, and I have given up trying to be "part of the campus community" as a commuter student. In fact, all I do now is show up for class and leave by early afternoon, as soon as classes conclude for me. If I do spend the evening on campus, it is usually because either an investment bank or an accounting firm has a recruitment fair during that time. (And naturally, we all know that networking is a vital part of the job application process.)</p>
<p>Fact is, as a commuter student, I will never enjoy college quite as much as my compatriots will. I have even written off on the possibility to transferring to another school as well, since it's probably not worth it. I have a nice scholarship here at BC and will likely graduate debt-free. Why give that up for the sake of trying to "enjoy college a little more"?</p>
<p>Luckily for me, I calculate that if I can begin overloading classes on my schedule starting next year (by taking one additional class per semester at no additional charge), I can actually graduate a semester early. I am not sure if I want to give myself more work, but why not? I don't have that much to do anyways and I am sick of college. Instead of graduating in spring of 2013, I can graduate in the winter of 2012 and begin working immediately. Or attend graduate school. Whichever comes first.</p>
<p>I don't know, maybe I have given up on college a little bit too early. But nonetheless, I haven't found it that enjoyable either. All my high school friends are gone, I haven't made any friends here, and while I still feel very lonely from time to time, I quite frankly don't care anymore. I want my degree, and I want my job offer. That is all I need.</p>
<p>That's my spiel. Anyone share the same sentiment?</p>
<p>I totally understand your pain, to a degree. Im actually at the opposite end, academically that if everything does work out, i would have to be here one year more than normal. Campus life at this school is all but dead and the people here are just lack personality. I tried very hard to fit in and get involved with campus life, but that just didnt work at all.</p>
<p>But to respond to your thing, yes you should. no use in trying to for yourself to stay for 4 years if you can graduate and get out in 3. makes things alot easier. Just make some aquaintances at least to make the time pass by much faster, because in reality, no employer/school is going to care how many friends you had in college or how involved you were with the campus, as long as you actually did something (aka a job or volunteer work)</p>
<p>Yeah, I’ve started networking with some alumni over email. That might be helpful when I begin the internship search in my junior year - and of course, I would love to land a position as a summer analyst at an investment bank or something like that. </p>
<p>Luckily, college only takes four years, I am almost finished with my first year already. Sometimes, I feel that people overrate college too much and think, “OMG college is the best four years of your EVER!” when it is quite clear that that sentiment doesn’t apply to everyone.</p>
<p>A few people have told me that I must have missed a lot by choosing to commute instead of dorm, but I don’t feel that way at all. I’m an introvert by nature and communal life has never appealed to me. Paying extra (a lot in my case because of urban setting) to have less comfort? No thanks! Now I share an apartment with a roommate, but purely out of financial limitations.</p>
<p>XX55XX, I’m interested in BC as a 2nd year Sophomore or Junior transfer. May I know how will I receive the quality of the social friendship compared to as if I had entered the BC community as a freshmen? I heard by Junior year, people are satisfied with who they’re with already.</p>
<p>Also, were you one of the High School overachievers with high GPA and SAT scores?</p>
<p>Me neither, for the most part. That’s why I opted not to live on campus in the first place. I don’t mind the commute at all, honestly. But, however, I eventually discovered that people make friends with only their dormmates. I tried my best, but I didn’t really click with anyone, or if I did, I never really saw them on campus.</p>
<p>That said, I don’t have very many friends at all at the moment. I have take most of my socializing onto the Internet, though I daresay that it is not a substitute for true facetime.</p>
<p>Oh well. Guess it is simply the nature of the beast.</p>
<p>I am unsure on this one… I don’t really talk with anyone on campus, but judging from the Facebook posts of my BC acquaintances, the relationships do seem somewhat superficial.</p>
<p>I have spoken to a TA who was a senior (graduating this spring, in fact) and he mentioned that he didn’t make his best friends at BC until he was a sophomore. So, your mileage may vary.</p>
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<p>Hardly. I had an 3.81 GPA weighted and an SAT score 1890 in high school. They are above average, but my statistics will not drop you on your knees in amazement.</p>
<p>I heard there are immature girls who tries to look attractive and they wear northface sweatshirt, tight jeans, and ugg boots. It really kind of brings me down about BC sometimes. I also dislike people who try to brag about being academically over competitive.</p>
<p>I’m feeling the same thing. I’ve stopped procrastinating since the beginning of this semester in order to obtain a normal sleep schedule, but the workload is just as ridiculous and even when I work through the day I still don’t sleep. Plus, this is only freshman year. I don’t even want to think about the work I’ll have in two or three years…I just want it to be done.</p>
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<li><p>Going to career fairs is a really pathetic attempt at “networking”. Read “Never eat alone” and try very hard to think about just WHY people would want to help you.</p></li>
<li><p>Join a <productive> student organisation, right now. For example, I’m in an organization where we build cars. CARS! I mean, how freaking cool is that? The good thing about these organisations is that the people who join aren’t the superficial party people. I’m pretty sure you have some startup-competitions or similar to what you want to do in yourn future job. These kind of contacts - friendships, whatever - are worth a ton. This is also where a lot of recruitment happens.</productive></p></li>
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<p>Take out some student loans and get a freaking room on campus. Stop complaining about not being part of the community when the truth is you aren’t… You go to class there and that’s it.</p>
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Take out some student loans and get a freaking room on campus. Stop complaining about not being part of the community when the truth is you aren’t… You go to class there and that’s it.<a href=“emphasis%20mine”>/quote</a> This is the only piece of decent advice here. OP, quit b****ing or take a loan and get on campus. I HAVE been a commuter before. I KNOW it sucks balls but you aren’t doing anything constructive.</p>
<p>Hey Magneto, just because you “utterly hate” your college experience doesn’t mean we all do or should. Some of us value the friendships, experiences, and relationships formed over these 4 years and are willing to take out a small loan for this, especially if tuition and fees are covered through a scholarship. Don’t project your misery on everyone else. My advise still stands.</p>
<p>Hey Caillebotte, it has nothing to do with me actually. Telling someone to take out a Student loan and put themselves in more unecessary debt than needed is a really stupid idea since not everyone has money to throw away for that purpose. There are other ways to become part of the campus than living on campus. No one is projecting misery on anyone.</p>
Now I share an apartment with a roommate, but purely out of financial limitations.</p>