<p>IWWB - there is a system god that reads the posts and grants wishes!</p>
<p>your post change - there must be Indian system of gods if it was granted by a god.</p>
<p>Different strokesâŠD would prefer that Match Day not be a family event. If it turns out that H and I are not there we will see her at some point during the day.</p>
<p>I feel like not having my post in caps makes it harder to tell I was playing around. I know the mods all have super powers.</p>
<p>Since this yearâs match is my former MD class, Iâll be able to better tell who does and doesnât have family with them, will try to take note of the proportion. I always assumed people who donât donât because the family canât afford (either time or money wise) to travel for match day and graduation 2 months later, but I could definitely see why someone doesnât want parents there. Some kids are simply unable to hide the fact that they didnât match to a top choice and I can only imagine how harsh the day might be for those kids with so many classmates so jubilant. I know when my day eventually comes I will certainly open the match envelope in private (as I did for checking my step 1 score) in case my initial reaction is one Iâd rather people not see.</p>
<p>I love hearing stories from older MDs about how match day used to involve people going up on stage one by one to publicly open/announce their match results. Canât even imagine how brutal/uncomfortable that could get if people still did it like that these days.</p>
<p>S insisted that we attend Match Day. Personally I thought Match Day was more exciting than graduation. There was an anxious energy entering in the room. And once the envelopes were opened, the ear to ear grins were everywhere and nonstop. You could simply feel the pride, joy, and sense of relief emanating from everywhere and most everybody (a few were not so happy with their match). </p>
<p>At graduation the students seemed to be more interested in simply getting across the stage, getting through the pictures/dinner with their family, and just getting out of Dodge. Their focus was more on their future, not the present.</p>
<p>I suspect that D will change her mind about her old Mom and Pop attending. She went to Match Day for her original class last year (D took a research year) and saw that it was hard on the few who were disappointed. I think it gave her pause. She said that some students had extended family there but it has never been her thing to have a large group at an event. She is much more the âLetâs all get together for a nice dinner afterward.â type.</p>
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This.</p>
<p>With all the hugging, smiles, shrieks of joy, I have to admit it was very tough to see a couple of students crying and trying to be consoled by their families/classmates. And later learning that the crying wasnât because they matched at say their eighth or ninth pick, the crying was because they simply didnât match. It definitely put a damper on what was overall a tremendously positive day. I would encourage all parents, if possible, to attend Match Day. Itâs just one of those moments where you may never see your child so happy again. By graduation, the energy is essentially gone and the ceremony seems more perfunctory in nature. Just my observationâŠ</p>
<p>"the crying was because they simply didnât match. "</p>
<p>Has the process changed? It sounds like people know in advance whether they matched before match day.</p>
<p>As I understand it, students learn for the first time if they matched, where they matched, and to what specialty (if they were applying to multiple specialties) when they open their envelopes on Match Day. In some specialties (urology) they are on a different timeline and know before the main match.</p>
<p>Personally, I donât have a clue.</p>
<p>I am going off by hrhâs post 213 which suggests 3/17 as the date when they hear they have been matched.</p>
<p>I had to think about what I just wrote and I realized that students who do not match do learn in the early part of match week if they did not match. If they didnât match the early notification is to avoid embarrassment at Match Day. My bad.</p>
<p>Yeah. I could do without the damper. That seems medieval. Some of that energy and excitement seems like it could be fear and dread. Like going to graduation without knowing you had graduated.</p>
<p>I agree that the energy and excitement can be both very positive and one of fear and dread. I donât think itâs âlike going to graduation without knowing you had graduated.â As better stated above in hrhâs post 213 above, students will know if theyâve matched on 3/17. They will simply not know the specifics of where and in what until 3/21. So if theyâve learned theyâve matched on 3/17, students attend Match Day on 3/21 knowing full well there will be an outcome (envelope) awaiting them. What happens after the envelope is opened is another matter. Hopefully good news to all. And from a parentâs perspective, it can be a must see moment in your kidâs life.</p>
<p>I started this thread last year because my daughterâs then-boyfriend (now fianc</p>
<p>churchmusicmom </p>
<p>In the âtypicalâ residency application cycle, students/parents are incredibly stressed. Different specialty, one interview, I donât think anyone who posts here can come close to understanding the stress of your future son in lawâs situation. Sincerely good luck to him, your D, you, and everyone else involved. On the bright side if he gets an email notification he matched on 3/17, everyone concerned can begin popping champagne corks as there will be no question about whatâs in his envelope on 3/21. Again good luck.</p>
<p>For those of you in MS3, I can say that DD was more stressed for MS3 (which she had not expected) than she has been. Even though she has had so much traveling and broke her phone and did not expect per mile charges and all the other glitches, the hardest part was deciding which specialty to choose. Once she submitted for residency she was just doing the interviews and those were pretty easy for her, compared to the choice. Traveling was complex & expensive, fitting in the one clinical rotation work during interviews was awkward, but nothing compared to the decisions she had to make in MS3.</p>
<p>She had expected to just enjoy working in clinicals in Ms3, but the âWhat do I want to be when I grow up?â question dominated the year from November of MS3 forward, after she loved an unexpected option.</p>
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<p>Sincerely: THANKS, Jugulator20.</p>
<p>At the risk of being dully repetitive (I have said this before upthread, but still canât quite get over it), to top it all off, their wedding day is March 22nd. The day after Match Day. On top of everything else, I am praying so hard that the news they get to start off that week is good news.</p>
<p>churchmusicmom</p>
<p>I am curious about what happens if your future son in law does not match. Can he continue in current program or what? Please accept my apology if my curiosity upsets you.</p>
<p>No apologies needed.</p>
<p>I donât think he would consider continuing his present program, and he has told them as much. They are very supportive of his decision to change programs for the reasons he has given them, though the director hates to see him go. The director of the program actually has said some very, very nice things about him, which was great for him to hear.</p>
<p>I believe heâd find some sort of work or maybe classes to take and then re-apply next year. By then my D will (hopefully) have earned her PhD and will be able to move with him.</p>
<p>churchmusicmom </p>
<p>Thanks for your response. Again good luck to everyone this March.</p>
<p>somemom,
Mine is MS3. She has decided her specialty way back in HS. She was temporarily considering others (before MS3), but for a very short time. Sticking to her âlife dreamâ. She expects the stress level to rise considerably approaching MS4, but she does not think about it, except when she had a chance, she compiled the list, which has created the most immediate question, how many. Still in a limbo with this one. Her list has 45. She has talked to several key people and some med. students and current residents, she is in complete fog about the number but just do not think about it now. So, I am just reading hereâŠand maybe I should not, getting scaryâŠ</p>