<p>^ As a girl I can tell you that its definitely true. It is much more socially acceptable for guys to be a little bigger than girls. An overweight guy that’s funny or has a nice personality is going to be able to just wear clothes that are slightly baggier and move on and find girls to be with. Girls that are overweight are going to be judged much more and not be approached by guys. You never see an ugly girl dating a hot guy but you always see pretty girls dating ugly guys.</p>
<p>Yeah I guess that’s true. I’m a girl too, but just didn’t see it that way. But I guess it depends on if they are actually “fat” or just a little thick. I think the OP’s question was kind of vague in that sense. </p>
<p>To the OP: Yes heavy girls tend to repel guys, and in my opinion heavy guys tend to repel girls as well. However there are exceptions, and if you aren’t willing to lose weight, you just have to figure a way around it, and prove to guys you’re worth talking to. It’s a harsh truth, it’s nothing anybody made up. But in our world, appearance mean a lot, and sometimes too much, but there’s nothing any of us can do about it. Just look at it from a different perspective. Would you be attracted to heavy guys? I don’t mean date, but would you just simply be attracted them? </p>
<p>Sorry, I feel like this is a discouraging post, but I don’t think this thread will help you out because nobody on CC will make you feel good about yourself or give you peace of mind that you will find someone. It is something you have to come up with on your own. But hope it works out for you!</p>
<p>@almost there - totally agree.</p>
<p>My opinion on weight has always been if you like how you look and you’re healthy, who cares what anyone thinks. I don’t believe guys exclusively like or don’t like “heavy” girls. I think they determine whether they like someone on an individual basis.</p>
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<p>Frankly, guys place much more emphasis on looks than girls do on guys. Girls care more about status - a collective measure of looks/popularity/money/job/swag. Just my observation of the dating market, from a girl’s perspective.</p>
<p>thick is good, you want to be curvy in the right places, boobs/ass, flat stomach</p>
<p>I am presuming, from personal experience, that when you say “thick, curvy, meaty” you’re probably high in BF (25%+) and either overweight or obese. Maybe you’re not? But that is just my opinion.</p>
<p>Now, I am a male. I have almost never been truly attracted to a girl even borderline overweight. I weight-lift 4 times a week to tone my body. I keep a very strict diet: high protein, most carbs from veggies, and little sugar/salt. It isn’t fair for us males who work hard to maintain a toned physique to not consider how girls take care of their body. Girls can claim that they have to manage makeup/clothes etc., which I understand is true. And I also realize that it is more difficult for girls to lose weigh. But girls don’t have to worry about muscle. </p>
<p>Develop a long-term, strict diet. Look into actual programs and consult with people who now what they are talking about. If you want to get a toned, symmetrical-face male with future and a kind and caring personality (what most girls look for, in my opinion), then losing weight would definitely be your best bet.</p>
<p>Good luck.
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<p>Ouch… All the body-obsessed males who are apalled by the thought of anyone, even a girl, not working out and being on a strict diet… That’s just a stupid way to view life, and other people… </p>
<p>You know, you might find you actually enjoy spending time with a girl who’s a bit heavier than you… You never know, someone with arms that are a bit chunky, or a couple pounds of belly fat just might be someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with, or talking to… People – even overweight people – are worth getting to know(:</p>
<p>^ I never said I was appalled by women who are fat. I would approach and talk to a fat girl. I have no trouble in talking and getting to know people of different, weight, sex, and race. I just don’t find them attractive. At least I was being completely honest. A lot of times males say “they don’t care about physique,” but sometimes they only say that to appeal to attractive females.</p>
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<p>This x1000. As an in shape and someone toned male I can say that I would talk to a fat girl, but I don’t find them attractive. I take care of my body, so I like women who do the same.</p>
<p>I know many people who prefer heavier girls than skinny girls. By heavier, I’m talking a little bit fatter / chubbier than average, not obese. You’ll find the right guy someday :)</p>