<p>I’m looking at colleges, and one thing I’m considering is the asexual scene. However, this is really hard to get information on, since it’s a generally small group. Does anyone have any experience in asexual relationships/ know if there’s a scene here? Any information would be great!</p>
<p>what exactly is an asexual ‘scene’? i know what asexuality is, of course, but can’t figure out what kind of scene that would lead to… </p>
<p>Judging by the almost total lack of response to your inquiry across multiple threads, I’m guessing I’m not the only one unfamiliar with asexuality as a social activity. Maybe you could expand on the question to get some helpful responses to your question…?</p>
<p>I know I looked it up. Wikipedia didn’t really help.</p>
<p>I can’t believe I’m even trying on this one. But I will. It means that you find a companion where you do not want to have sex, but also bond as a couple, best friends, shared interests. </p>
<p>source: relatives</p>
<p>PS there was a movie that I saw recently which touched on this - it was called Notes on a Scandal and the older woman looked into this type of relationship.</p>
<p>To the OP I suggest they watch the movie When Harry Met Sally, where all will be revealed. I apologize in advance if this violates any copyright laws or terms of service for this site…</p>
<p>Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: Why not? </p>
<p>Harry Burns: What I’m saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved. </p>
<p>Harry Burns: No you don’t. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: Yes I do. </p>
<p>Harry Burns: No you don’t. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: Yes I do. </p>
<p>Harry Burns: You only think you do. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge? </p>
<p>Harry Burns: No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: They do not. </p>
<p>Harry Burns: Do too. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: They do not. </p>
<p>Harry Burns: Do too. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: How do you know? </p>
<p>Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive? </p>
<p>Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: What if THEY don’t want to have sex with YOU? </p>
<p>Harry Burns: Doesn’t matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then. </p>
<p>Harry Burns: I guess not. </p>
<p>Sally Albright: That’s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.</p>
<p>^Er…I don’t think that’s it.</p>
<p>I don’t pretend to know much about an asexual scene at Bowdoin…but I do know that the LGBTIQ community is extremely active and very inclusive. During parent’s weekend, whenever I used a public restroom, regardless of where on campus, there were two flyers taped to the inside door of the stall. Both listed names (and I believe phone #s) of every Bowdoin student, gay and straight, who was available as a resource to any open/not open student who needed support. Great place to post something that you want someone read! I know the school group has regular activities and functions and usually there are open and welcoming of every student on campus. And at the beginning of the year I know my son, and most kids on his sports team (and others) participated in yellow shirt day in support of their LGBTIQ peers. </p>
<p>[Bowdoin</a> Queer Web (Bowdoin)](<a href=“Sexuality, Women, and Gender Center | Bowdoin College”>Sexuality, Women, and Gender Center | Bowdoin College)</p>
<p>[url=<a href=“News | Bowdoin College”>News | Bowdoin College]Yellow</a> Shirt Day Supports Bowdoin’s LGBTIQ Community, Campus News (Bowdoin)<a href=“this%20is%20from%20a%20couple%20of%20years%20ago%20but%20I%20know%20they%20did%20the%20same%20thing%20this%20fall”>/url</a></p>
<p>True asexuality is very rare. The smaller the school, the less likely you are to find individuals who share your proclivities. You’re probably better off at a larger university.</p>
<p>There is no asexual scene. You’re free to conjure one if you get in, but do not expect anyone to attend unless you cart in some serious munchies.</p>
<p>“And then it met a boy / girl / plant / zoospore it really loved, and it could stand to be asexual no longer.”</p>
<p>This is a bizarre question by the OP. The VAST majority of human relationships are “asexual” in that there is no sex going on. The VAST majority. We all know hundreds of people, and there is sex with only a few. Sooooo…just move on. This is an empty topic.</p>
<p>I wonder whether the OP was searching for some groups interested in some version of asceticism?</p>
<p>Well there is an ancient science of asexual encounters, but can’t remember its name, any way the ultimate goal is to achieve sexual pleasure only by meditation of the couple And here is where it gets tricky because bot participants must be in the same channel</p>
<p>To the OP, I think you’re best looking into Bowdoin’s LGBTQIA+ scene, rather than just a specific asexual scene.</p>
<p>To everyone else who has replied to this thread, this is in no way a ‘bizarre question’. Asexuality is a valid identity just as much as being gay, bisexual, queer, trans etc is. Asexuality can mean a whole range of things, including not experiencing any sexual attraction at all and/or wanting a romantic relationship without sex. By my interpretation, OP is looking for people that have similar preferences. There’s no need to mock because of lack of understanding.</p>
<p>@ defynggravity44, FYI here is an interesting article to read about the question posted</p>
<p>[The</a> Neurobiology of Bliss–Sacred and Profane: Scientific American](<a href=“The Neurobiology of Bliss--Sacred and Profane - Scientific American”>The Neurobiology of Bliss--Sacred and Profane - Scientific American)</p>
<p>oliver, everybody had moved on long ago. You chose to revive this ‘empty topic’ after almost 3 weeks of no posts and no response from OP since her initial query. You were obviously interested enough to revive a disappearing thread.
In any case, OP made the same post in 7 different college forums over a month ago and then completely disappeared from CC never replying on any thread. ■■■■■ or not, s/he wasn’t serious enough to pursue the idea. </p>
<p>defyinggravity, I don’t see a word of mockery in this thread. It is interesting - not negative - that of the 7 college forums where OP posted this Q, Bowdoin is the only one that had more than 2 replies. The rest were mostly 0 or 1. Feel free to carry on, however, it’s clear that the only person who knew or cared what was intended by this post is long gone and perhaps was never real…</p>
<p>Did not check dates, but this ridiculous thread showed up top of the list of threads, it deserved the comment I made. Clever of honeybee to dissect the dates etc., and the fact is that I was not “interested”…repelled by the vacuity of the topic might be more like it.</p>
<p>Are all trolls asexual?</p>
<p>Dunno, glid, but this is now my favorite thread until EDII decisions hit the chalkboard.</p>
<p>They make the athletes succumb to radical leftist agenda at Bowdoin too?</p>
<p>Naw, Red; that stuff comes pre-packaged or built-in.</p>