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<p>Is that supposed to be your reason for not going up to these Chinese international students and conversing with them? Letting them know that you’re studying for a midterm and you would appreciate it if they kept their voices down?</p>
<p>First, at many, many U.S. colleges there are tons of Asian students. My (white) son’s high school was 30 percent Korean and his best friends are from Korea, Hong Kong, China, and Pakistan. I was talking to a new Indian friend last week and he was saying that although India is a very multicultural country, America’s multiculturalism is astounding to him. Of course, some places are more multicultural than others–you can check out the statistics of ethnicities for each college. Less than half of the students are white at my son’s highly ranked college–I think 16 percent are Asian. So I believe that you would be perfectly comfortable. If you do come, don’t just stick with other Asians, though. You’ll enrich yourself more if you really get out there and meet openminded people of all races, like my great kid!</p>
<p>I will note that in my obviously extremely limited experience, international Asian students (not Asian Americans) do tend to be obnoxious. They talk loudly in their language which is highly distracting, especially if you are trying to work. I’m not saying they need to speak English all the time, but they should realize that it’s a little annoying. As someone said before, if I went to China and started yelling in English I’m sure I would **** people off. </p>
<p>The international Asian students I have met also are extremely unfriendly (I would be annoyed with anyone for being unfriendly, the fact that they are Asian has nothing to do with it except for the fact that all the international Asian students I’ve met have been unfriendly). They also would make food that smelled really strong and gross. And when I lived in the dorms they were infamous for telling the RA when anyone was drinking. And don’t even think about weed. They’d call the cops.</p>
<p>Can I say that’s how all Asians are or even that’s how all international Asian students are? No, obviously, however, every single international Asian student I met has been that way. And I met quite a few. So based upon my personal experiences, that’s how I view Asians. Not saying that’s how you should view them. But I have found them particularly obnoxious.</p>
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<p>How? Even if a school is 99% white, there’s still going to be that 1% of minorities. Name me one college or university that has a 100% white population with no blacks, Hispanics/Latinos, or Asians attending there, and I’ll take back what I said. </p>
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<p>False. My city is multicultured and we were named one of the most safest places to live in the U.S. There also has been no records of gang fights or kids and teachers getting physically injured at any of the schools in my city’s school district, either.</p>
<p>Woah, this board is getting a little riled up. Anyway, I just wanted to comment that the reason why a lot of Asians might be loud is because it’s just how they talk; it’s not that they’re aren’t considerate, but they might just not know that they are being loud or obnoxious to others. My dad talks really, really loud but it’s not because he is doing it carelessly, but because from where he is from, that’s how people talk. When I confronted him about it, he didn’t know why the hell people were getting mad.</p>
<p>I find it funny how people “hate” these people, yet they are the ones themselves who fail to acknowledge the different culture.</p>
<p>Anyway, just my 2 cents. Don’t kill me now, please.</p>
<p>I guarantee this will happen:</p>
<p>You can speak all the English you want,but I know that you will have problems.Doesn’t matter how good you are at it.Talking and writing are two different things.British school?Some people here have done English in A Levels,got A and everything and still have problems with talking.Especially Asians lol.</p>
<p>Secondly,you will mostly hang out with your own people.Fact.Obviously you will be open to everyone,but in the end,you will only get to mix with your own people,that’s it.Think of your home and people inside America.</p>
<p>I could go on and on,about Asians who act like black,asians who act like Mexican,Asians who dye their hair yellow to be a blonde like a white girl(no joke,effing reta*ded),Asians who do anything to hang out with white people,etc etc.</p>
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<p>Okay, that’s CLEARLY nitpicking. I’m not one to get into huge quote wars, but that’s just ■■■■■■■■. You must know that there are plenty of schools in America (think Midwest) that have a very, very small percentage of minorities. It’s essentially “all-white.” There are no exclusively all-white schools, obviously, but there might only be like 10-20 people from each minority in a several thousand person school. It happens even more in high schools, until I was 10 years old and went on vacation I had never seen a black person in real life. I’m sure there are several schools where the percentage of minorities is so low that dealing with other cultures/races would be a non-issue.</p>
<p>I got a Chinese roommate who is studying abroad here for a semester and have met other Chinese international students. I have honestly never met any group of kids more boring and anti-social. I dont know why they even study abroad if they’re going to talk and hang out among themselves. </p>
<p>My roommate just stays in on the weekends, if I was him I would take advantage of being in another country and visit a few U.S. cities on the weekends. Chicago and Milwaukee are so easy to get to. My roommate had a talk with me about coming in at 2-3 am on the weekends. He even brought one of his Chinese friends along for the talk. He said I always wake him up and that I should consider changing my lifestyle. His friend suggested maybe I should find another place to stay on the weekends, he suggested sleeping on the lounge.</p>
<p>My roommate also complained about an overnight guest I had, he said “In China we do not bring other people in to the room to sleep.” He said he felt uncomfortable with my friend being there and told me he didn’t want him there that night no more. I told him that the U.S. wasn’t like China so he shouldn’t expect the same lifestyle. </p>
<p>He also complains about my fan being on at night, he says it keeps him awake. I suggested we switch beds so I am closer to the window but he didn’t want to. So now he has to deal with the fan.</p>
<p>^I also had a Chinese roommate who once dumped out my alcohol and threatened to rat on me for drugs countless times. She also got upset if I came in after 2am on weekends, made any noise getting up in the morning, let my clothes pile up in my own hamper, or used an alarm of any sort (to this day I’m not really sure how she woke up on time…). She would also Skype with people in China and would SCREAM in Chinese at them constantly, she made disgusting, strong-smelling food, and did nothing but study (and get mad at me if I made the slightest noise). I also could barely understand a thing she said. We were probably the worst pair of roommates ever.</p>
<p>^^I understand the fan issue, but otherwise you sound like a horrible roommate. You wake your roommate up at 2 or 3am and you don’t care (maybe come in a little quieter?) and when he has a legitimate issue (overnight guest) you basically tell him to deal with it. That is a topic that is laid out pretty clearly in the housing contract. Do you not realize how inconsiderate you are?</p>
<p>I dont know how more quieter i can be. I basically walk in and pass out. He is a light sleeper that’s why the fan wakes him up im definetly not going to stay in on weekends just so i dont wake him up. And about the guests, he talked to the RA and the RA said i am allowed to have overnight guests for up to 3 nights straight.
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<p>@roxsox, i feel you. Thats how my relationship is with my roommate. He also doesnt like me having my friends over during the day.</p>
<p>Of course you’re allowed to, but it’s generally with the consent of the roommate, or at least a heads up.</p>
<p>Passing out doesn’t mean you come in quietly, lol. Just saying. My roommate last year was a light sleeper, but I managed to come in at all hours without waking him up. Maybe just be more careful and that will be a moot point.</p>
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<p>These two sentences contradict each other. How are they anti-social if they are talking and hanging out among themselves. They’re not anti-social; their idea of socializing is just different from yours.</p>
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<p>Would he do it by himself? Did he even have the ability to finance such trips? I’m not saying that he shouldn’t; I’m saying that it’s not very exciting to tour foreign cities without a tour guide. Roommates aren’t obligated to be friends, but maybe you should offer to guide him around Chicago.</p>
<p>Regarding overnight guests, fairness is key. It’s wrong for him to impose his cultural norms on you, but it’s equally wrong for you to tell him to deal with it. The two of you are roommates; you’re sharing the room. So he can’t always say that you can’t have a guest, but you can’t always bring the guest over as opposed to your visiting the guest, ESPECIALLY if the guest is your girlfriend.</p>
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<p>Opium war parallel aside, it was wrong for her to dump out your belongings, but drugs? Really? Did you consider that maybe she just didn’t want to get in trouble on account of your personal preferences, some of which aren’t legal? How easily do you think a non-permanent resident can get deported over things like that?</p>
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<p>When you don’t understand a language, it always sounds like screaming because it’s just noise to your ears. To quote David So, “we’re not being loud; that’s just the way we talk.”</p>
<p>As for her food, it was disgusting to you, not to her. I’m sure given your roommate relationship, she thought the same about your food.</p>
<p>I have talked to many Americans with chinese roommates and i dont think its a coincidence that they all hate their roommates.</p>
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<p>Those tend to be either foreign Asian students or Asian-American students who grew up in primarily ethnic enclaves.</p>
<p>There are plenty of Asian-American students who only hang out w/ white people (commonly referred to as “bananas”, “twinkies”, “whitewashed”, etc.).</p>
<p>And you’ll see the same “sticking together” of Hispanics as well (esp. if they are foreign or grew up in an ethnic enclave) as well as for blacks.</p>
<p>And really, whites do the exact same thing; it’s either an all-white group or a group w/ a token minority or 2 (who, aside from from certain physically traits is no different).</p>
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<p>Those Asians usually tend to be foreign students or Asians who grew up in ethnic enclaves.</p>
<p>There are plenty of Asian-Americans who only hang out w/ whites.</p>
<p>And the degree can vary - some Asians only hang out w/ Asians of the same ethnic background if there are sufficient nos. For instance, Desis will often socialize primarily w/ each other based on certain breakdowns (Indian vs. Pakistani vs. Bangladeshi and/or Hindu vs. Sikh vs. Muslim), but if nos. aren’t sufficient, there won’t be those breakdowns.</p>
<p>And this is no diff. for Hispanic students as well as for black students.</p>
<p>And really, it’s no diff. for white students as well, who generally tend to only hang out w/ other whites or in groups that are mostly white w/ a token minority or 2 (who, aside from certain physical traits, are no diff.).</p>
<p>“Reaching out” always seems to be a one-way street.</p>
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<p>Well, how often do you see a white person going out of his/her comfort zone and try to socialize w/ an Asian, black or Hispanic group?</p>
<p>Aside from a guy w/ an Asian fetish, probably doesn’t happen too often.</p>
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<p>Again, how many whites go out of their comfort zone to socialize in groups where they don’t dominate culturally/language-wise?</p>
<p>It’s the same thing w/ American students overseas or expats - they generally tend to hang w/ each other.</p>
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<p>B/c it’s socially more acceptable to bash Asians than any other group since Asians are the “model minority” and don’t any problems or face any hurdles.</p>
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<p>Actually, while there is discrimination/hate everywhere, often it is more common in areas w/ a larger Asian (or other racial) pop. since they are perceived as a threat.</p>
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<p>People will find an Asian w/ a Brit accent unusual, but the girls will find it attractive (unless it’s one of those cockney accents).</p>
<p>OP - your experience can vary from place to place - and it’s not necessarily a geographic thing (your exp. in Atlanta could be more similar to your exp. in LA than if you were in inland California).</p>
<p>There will be people w/ stereotypical beliefs or worse, but for most people, it won’t be an issue.</p>
<p>Whether you stick to an all-Asian group, an all SE Asian group, an all Int’l student SE Asian group or vary your socializing, it doesn’t really matter if that is what you prefer.</p>
<p>Btw, there are Asians who have dual social groups - one Asian and one, well, mostly white, and they traverse back and forth w/ no problem.</p>
<p>k&s and fabrizio, you’re trying to hard</p>
<p>LOL at people attacking my opinions. You guys obviously don’t go to a heavily Asian populated school or a top tier school for that matter. </p>
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<p>We don’t need AA. It is one of the most up surd things I have ever heard. It’s completely unnatural to society. If two applicants are competing for the same job and one has better qualifications then he should get the job not because of something he can’t control like ethnicity. </p>
<p>Why do you need a latinos or blacks in your class to function? It shouldn’t matter what ethnicity people are to begin with.</p>