If you can confide in your parents and tell them you’re struggling, they may be able to help you pursue a medical withdrawal. A young person I know who was struggling with depression and failing several classes did that. The college withdrew the student from all their classes so they didn’t get credit, but they didn’t get grades either.
Don’t just withdraw!!! Go see the Dean of students, a counselor about your bad thoughts and depression.
They can help you get a medical withdrawal and leave of absence so that your GPA stays intact and you can come back if you want to after you take some time off for treatment. They could make it so your scholarship stays intact so you have that option.
Also study abroad and exchange programs with other universities might be options to explore in the future.
You have full tuition. Stick it out ONE MORE YEAR…and graduate. Your idea of going to community college is not particularly good if you can get a bachelors in ONE MORE YEAR.
This is what you “feel” but it’s not necessarily true. You might not have any more academic freedom, or relationships…or a better shot at grad school. Not something you can count on.
And you can have ALL these things at Purdue.
Sorry…but this comment is poppycock. There are HUNDREDS of careers…ok…thousands. There are a gazzilion kids at four year universities…majoring in any number of things…who do NOT become lawyers.
You know…your term is ending soon. Make an appointment with your advisor, and the career center. Talk to them about your interests…and careers that might relate to them. My bet is they won’t even mention law school.
Checking for clarity…so you want to do a trade at a CC, and then work until younare between 30 and 40 and go to a smaller LAC where you think you will fit in better?
If you have this…you need to address this FIRST.
Ask for a leave of absence from Purdue…don’t withdraw. Ask if you will still have your full tuition scholarship if you take a leave. If so…take that leave…and work on your social anxiety issues. do this FIRST…before you make any specific college or career changes.
@thumper1 I’ve already withdrawn from Purdue at the moment. I’m leaning on the “College in general is not right for me”. See the rest of page 3 for more information.
Oh well…too late. Student already withdrew.
Then here is my free advice. Take the year off…get a good counselor to help you work through your social anxiety issues. Do this NOW…now!
I’ve read all of your posts. As this has unfolded, you have added different pieces of information to the story. It’s very hard to give good advice without the information upfront.
Clearly…you have made up,your mind what you are going to do…so how to make it easier?
Apply to your local CC. It’s a breeze. You will,have to complete the application, and send a transcript from your HS and Purdue.
But, in my opinion…you are spinning your wheels until you address your social anxiety…which needs to be done…first.
As a general rule, it is best to ask for advice before you withdraw. I think you are finding so much resistance here because you are not really making sense. Feeling like a failure is not the same as being a failure. If you are truly failing your classes then it would be a safe conclusion that you are failing college. Otherwise, you are passing college but perhaps not up to your perceived potential. Once you commit to going to a college, it matters nothing who wanted you to go there or where else you could have gone. You made a 4 year commitment for which others pledged 4 years worth of their money to pay your tuition. If you are having trouble getting your emotions around that then you should take the previous advice about seeing a counselor to work on those things.
If you are having trouble making friends amongst 40,000 same age people your odds of being less lonely or less connected in community college are unlikely to improve. If you are feeling academically unchallenged at Purdue, then you will feel more unchallenged at community college. If you want to pursue a trade, that’s fine but you should anticipate being self-employed or you will really learn what frustration feels like as an employee. But you don’t describe yourself as someone cut out for self-employment. It is for these reasons that you are getting pushback here to reconsider your though process.
But if you have already withdrawn, given up a full tuition scholarship, etc. it is all a moot point.
In regard to managing social anxiety, the worst possible decisions you can make are those that limit (rather than push or expand) your universe. In high school, the equivalent would have been to complain that the social environment is uncomfortable, the academics are unchallenging, and therefore homebound schooling is the best choice. In fact, that is the worst possible outcome for adolescents with social anxiety. It is part of the road to chronicity. However, there are always forks in the road if you take them. If you are certain this is the best path for you then take advantage of it, pursue your options without limiting yourself, etc. Good luck in those things.
@WISdad23 OP has a whole new thread going now and he’s given a lot more info to give a better picture. He is finishing the semester and can withdraw his resignation until finals are over.
OK, thanks.
Closing thread. The OP has a newer thread where the discussion can continue:
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1988612-advice-for-someone-unhappy-with-current-university.html#latest