<p>one of the questions counselors want the seniors to answer on info sheet (so they can write good recs) is if your good friend cheated on a test and you saw it, how would you feel, respond, and act?</p>
<p>I guess it comes down to loyalty to friend and loyalty to school and its rules.</p>
<p>I don't know what to choose.... any help?</p>
<p>"ask the people on CC"</p>
<p>ok..</p>
<p>I'd really appreciate some answers please...</p>
<p>BTW, If i'm doing early, when is the earliest I should give my teachers rec forms?</p>
<p>I was planning to give them tomorrow, but it seems like that I might not be able to finish everything so I was thinking next monday... is that late?</p>
<p>New question, new thread. Please?</p>
<p>Anyway, to answer your initial question: Why is this troubling you so much? The answer is clear. Obviously you need to say, "I would feel bad for my friend if he/she cheated. If there were serious circumstances that were making life hard for my friend, I wouldn't make it any worse. But in most cases I would tell the teacher for the sake of my friend in the long run."</p>
<p>You are presenting yourself to the counselors. Who said you had to tell them how you felt deep down? Tell them what they want to hear, but give it the ring of truth. It may seem weird that I'm telling you to be dishonest on an honesty question, but anyway it's just a hypothetical question. Just because you give a certain answer doesn't mean you have to stick to it in real life.</p>
<p>thank you!</p>
<p>I really appreciate it!</p>
<p>Haha no problem. Just remember to chill out about these things. :D Best advice I can give you. You're just a kid...don't take it seriously</p>
<p>lol ok. you're right.</p>
<p>Sigh. I guess it's too much to expect that one would simply answer the question truthfully....</p>
<p>and what would the truthful answer be?</p>
<p>bummmmmpppp</p>
<p>Whatever you would do would be the truthful answer.</p>
<p>how do we know what YOUR truthful answer is?</p>
<p>oh... i see.. I was stupid.. right MY truthful answer..</p>
<p>thank you everyone.</p>
<p>Oscar Wilde once said "If I had to choose between betraying my friend and betraying my country, I hope I would have the courage to betray my country."</p>
<p>If you are a literary type who writes well, you could take a contrarian point of view and demonstrate your essay skills--making clear that you do see it as a delicate issue of conscience not easily resolved.</p>
<p>That's good advice Mallomar...always give them what they want....</p>
<p>ah thanks for the advise..
anymore opinions?</p>
<p>bummppp......</p>
<p>Don't lie. Say what you would actually do, because if you don't, it will seem pretty obvious. How many high schoolers would actually turn their friend in? </p>
<p>If you need a way of phrasing the answer in terms of not turning your friend in, just say something along the lines of "I wouldn't turn my friend in, but I would confront them about it afterwards" or something like that. That way it is more honest, but still shows integrity.</p>
<p>I filled out those guidance forms like a crazy person. My friends said they sure were interesting reads, at least...haha.</p>
<p>Anyway, it's a choice between writing what they want to hear, or writing the truth.</p>
<p>I think I'd tell the truth, because that's just who I am...</p>
<p>"I'd confront my friend about the cheating, but wouldn't turn him/her in unless he/she persisted after I'd informed said friend I was was not okay with it. What's the greater evil? Lack of loyalty to a friend, or lack of loyalty to rules and regulations? There's always a compromise that upholds both the honor in abiding by law and the honor in being merciful - as long as nobody gets hurt, of course. Thankfully, I've never encountered such an ethical dilemma. I try to keep the cover sheet on ;)."</p>
<p>The quote by Oscar Wilde would fit nicely here, but can't say I would have thought of it...LOL.</p>
<p>Also, I'd probably confront the guidance office about that. It's really a terribly rude question that raises all kinds of ethical questions, the answers to which can't possibly fit in the little box they give you.</p>
<p>" It's really a terribly rude question that raises all kinds of ethical questions,"</p>
<p>It's actually a great question because in answering it, a student will reveal their own ethics and other aspects of their character, and many colleges ask GCs to rate students on their ethics and character.</p>