Every school has its pluses and minuses. I have heard comments about schools being toxic (juilliard for one seems to engender such comments, Curtis has a legion of them), I have heard the same thing about programs like Juilliard’s pre college program, and in general there are a lot of reasons for those comments that may or may not reflect the total reality, or may be because of the person saying it and their experience. It also can depend on the instrument and studio, so it could be that mmmarimba was in with a bunch of cut throat players. From what I have seen of NEC I don’t get that impression across the board, I know of studios there that appear to be toxic, but I haven’t had that impression with the school as a whole.I would be very, very careful about even the teacher’s comments, you don’t know why the teacher is saying that, maybe they have a beef with NEC. I have heard a ton of criticism of Juilliard that quite frankly, is rubbish, I also have heard things that are true, in the end you have to sift through things.
In terms of BoCo, at least before they merged with Berklee (I don’t know how that is going to change things), BoCo has some good teachers for example in the strings area, and it would depend (if I am reading the OP’s screen name correctly), on how good the trumpet faculty is at BoCo and NE, and seeing what the fit for the student is. BoCo is not as competitive an admit as NEC, the general level at NEC is going to be higher than BoCo, though there could be the case where a a studio at BoCo may attract a higher level of student then you might find at NEC.
While NEC is not exactly swimming in money (put it this way,it isn’t Juilliard by a long shot), BoCo is not very well endowed either, and in competitng for donations and such, NEC probably does better because it is more the name school…neither is known for being particularly generous.
I agree with someone else, listen to recordings of the orchestras at both schools, and see how they sound, that especially for a brass or mostly orchestral instrument might be a good tell.
Okay, so what to do. I would take a deep breath, and first of all, don’t take what the teacher said or anyone in particular said as proof of much, take it as it is, a piece of information. The real key is going to be what your kid thinks, try to get sample lessons with the faculty at both places and see how he feels working with them, because that is going to be his major focus when there. Take into acccount that BoCo is now merged with Berklee, ask what plans they have, are they planning to upgrade their facilities, are they planning to allow BoCo students to take lessons at Berklee, collaborate with students there?
In the end, it is all going to come down to how your kid feels about the programs and what they need out of it and you kind of have to go with your gut feeling about what would be best for your son. Where you go can be a complex thing, and I would not let anyone who tells you “oh, NEC is this horribly competitive place where everyone is cutthroat” influence you any more than “Oh, go to NEC, BoCo is nothing more than a step child”, in the end, figure it out for yourself:). I know people who have turned down Juilliard to go to NEC because they felt the teaching was better and they were told “how can you do that, NEC is rinky dink compared to Juilliard”, there is no magic there.
Wish you luck!