BS's Individual care regarding DD's dorm assignment.

Last year, DD’s roommate at Grier was not her best friend, but was very acceptable. But she left near end of school year for a personal reason. DD was happy to use the whole room for herself, until a week later another girl who temporarily needed dorm was assigned to her as a new roommate.

DD was having a lot of difficulty managing her final projects and exams already, and the new roommate’s socializing habit - constantly inviting friends into their room and loudly chatting made it much worse for her.

This year she carefully choose her roommate. Not only a good friend, but one with similar schedule and other preference. DD was in panic when the roommate-to-be suddenly decided not to return to school end of Summer, and tried to find another one but couldn’t. With her urging, I eventually emailed Grier about her last year’s difficulty and about finding a matching roommate or possibly a single room option if it doesn’t work out.

I was pleasantly surprised that, Grier already was aware of the whole situation, and had already assigned DD to a single room because it did not want to put in a random person this time." Apparently the school knew and cared better than I did, because I only learned the above when dd explained a few weeks ago to convince me to write that email. I mean she told me then in the Spring. But I somehow dismissed it as something trivial.

Social aspect was the biggest reason of her choosing BS in the first place. She wanted sort of endless sleepovers and it came true for her. Now she says she is so happy with her friends that even with 6 hours homework to be done on the syllabus day, she feels that “If I had to spend any more time at home I might have hurled myself out a tall window … (because) … (home) was not bad I just missed my friends.”

But she also is introvert and get easily disturbed on conversation subjects she doesn’t care - such as religion and celebrities, and learned that how good was the downtime of single room when briefly she had her room by herself last year. She was imagining this year even better than last year and so far it seems working just like she hoped, well, except 6 hours homework.

Glad to hear that Greer knows how your daughter ticks and is aware of the situations from last year. Good for them.

The individual care they give is amazing. Last Spring she had problems (death spiral of sleep deprivation and more piling work due to under-performance/procrastination from sleep deprivation) but successfully evaded and faked to be fine for several counseling sessions. The school kept watching for and going back to her. Everybody worked together to help her to manage it, and now she is better equipped to handle academic workload and pressure. She wouldn’t have fared well at an equally competitive but less support-resourced public school.