<p>@gibby,</p>
<p>At the very least, your quote is inappropriately applied herein. Go back to gnats and camels.</p>
<p>I don’t think this poster is particularly lacking in either self-confidence or self-awareness, but probably more in environmental awareness. Especially if a student has been in a highly-competitive, high-achieving environment, it may be difficult to accurately assess where one stands in relationship to the rest of the world. It strikes me as especially true at the beginning of the application season, as students are approaching the first set of application deadlines.</p>
<p>It isn’t unusual for even a strong student to ask himself or herself, am I as good as folks make me out to be? I know my teachers and friends and counselors and parents all tell me how well I’m doing, but will others think of me, who aren’t invested in me, who don’t see me through the eyes of love and affection? What will admissions committees think of me? Are my accomplishments really that unusual? Aren’t there plenty of kids who do this, and a whole lot more?</p>
<p>My own kids experienced a lot of this, primarily because when we homeschooled, we were in an environment with a lot of really high-achieving kids. And they often had the same feelings. It wasn’t that they weren’t self-confident or self-aware. It was that they didn’t see their accomplishments as unusual. In our circle, two young ladies, twins, were the oldest and really the leaders of the children in our homeschool community. When they got back their PSAT scores in their junior year of homeschooling (which qualified them as eligible for National Merit Semi-Finalists), one of them said, “I guess Mamma and Poppa were right after all, we really ARE smart!”</p>
<p>Initially, I was taken aback. But then, I thought, why not? Why wouldn’t they think that way? Their father has two Ph.Ds., their mother is ABD, many of their friends’ parents have advanced degrees, many of these kids have three or more languages, it’s really quite a group of extraordinary kids. But to themselves and each other, they’re all pretty ordinary. Following the twins was another sister who made the twins look academically dull. The “dumb” sister was next, (she didn’t make National Merit Semi-Finalist, or even Commended) and had a string of 5s in various APs and was fluent in English, French, German, knew a fair bit of Latin, and a little Chinese.</p>
<p>My own sons, when they got to a traditional high school, were a bit shocked they were academically at the top of their classes. “It’s not that we’re smart, Dad,” they’d say to me, “Anyone could do what we’ve done. It’s just that the other kids are all lazy.”</p>
<p>We’re influenced by our environment.</p>
<p>As well, a lot of kids go to schools that aren’t Ivy feeders. They don’t get the accurate feedback from their guidance counselors about college admissions matters, especially concerning the most selective schools, My sons’ guidance counselor figured my sons would be accepted to every school to which they applied, including all the Ivies to which they applied. They didn’t.</p>
<p>Whether folks here are strangers or not, for better or for worse, there is a lot of accumulated experience hanging out at CC. It’s perfectly reasonable that for reasons of objectivity, of emotional distance, and of accumulated wisdom, someone might ask strangers their chances here on CC.</p>