<p>Hey everyone. i am new to this but pretty desperate for advice. any input would be appreciated, even if it is reassurance that im an idiot for what i did.
last week i had a midterm that was relatively easy. i was taking a makeup midterm exam 2 days after it was originally scheduled. i came to school early to study and ran into a kid from my class. i asked him how the test was, just to make small talk since we were both waiting for the cafe to open in the morning. he said it was good and then proceeded to tell me everything that was covered on the test, in detail. he highlighted my notes that were exactly the same on the exam. i then wrote down these answers on a piece of paper and when i was taking my exam a few hours later by myself in my professors office, he left the room for a bit for about 20 minutes a time. when he came back to see how i was doing, he saw the piece of paper in between my test paper and told me to leave immediately and that i will not finish taking the exam. the next day i attended his class as i usually do and afterwards talked to him about how much action he had taken regarding what happened. he said he contacted the director of my major, who then contacted the dean. i will be receiving a letter in the mail telling me to schedule an appointment with my dean.
i am so scared.. i have not received the letter yet. i am already doing pretty bad in school, lost my scholarship for taking off school for one semester to get myself together emotionally and financially, and on top of that my parents will disown me if they find out what i did. considering i dont speak to many people and am not very open about my personal life, i feel no obligation to mention this to anyone except my boyfriend and my best friend who are supporting me through this.
i just need to know that i willl be okay. i cant get expelled, my life will be over as i know it. i am already graduating late, have mostly B's and C's, and none of the professors in my major like me because i am always at the bottom of the class when it comes to grades.
i am ashamed to deal with this situation.
i have cheated a few times before through out college and junior high school, but never high school.
in a way i am glad i got caught because it has helped me to reform my life in all areas where i felt i was slacking off and i learned it is not worth it to cut corners because life is meant to be lived to the fullest and not meant to be cutting corners and just getting by. thats not life, thats being lazy. i learned a tremendous amount from this incident, this lesson is invaluable and i will be forever grateful that i got caught but in terms of my future, it is not the best thing to happen to me.
i just want to know about others who have been in this situation, what was the outcome?
i dont have any intentions of continuing school after i finish my bachelors degree (I am an undergrad) because i dont have the money for it. sidenote- this was my first time caught cheating.
i dont want to tell my parents because we dont get along in the first place nad they are always making me feel like **** about everything in life so this has nothing to do with them. i feel no obligation to tell them because i dont want to give them more reasons to hate me. hate is a strong word but i mean it.</p>
<p>What year level are you? Maybe it’s possible to go to a community college for awhile and try to go to another school if you’re freshman or sophomore.</p>
<p>Also, if your parents are at all paying for any of your college, you NEED to tell them.</p>
<p>I agree with PRiNCESSMAHiNA, if you can look into a community college and then transfer to another college. And I know what you mean with the parent situation…mine took my college funding from me and I had good grades, but if they are paying they are going to find out one way or another.</p>
<p>What a waste of a life opportunity. </p>
<p>I bet there are a million others who would love to be in your shoes, going to college and all. The opportunity should have been given to them instead of you.</p>
<p>Everyone makes mistakes; so stop being so hard on her.</p>
<p>Don’t do the crime if you can’t do the time. </p>
<p>Cheaters always regret a bad decision AFTER they get caught. My guess is you would have been perfectly happy cheating your way through life…</p>
<p>…intentionally filling out your time card improperly at work…having fake experience on your resume to make yourself look better…providing inaccurate data on a loan application…cheating on your taxes…</p>
<p>The list goes on and on. Learn from this life changing lesson and develop some ETHICS.</p>
<p>you really are an idiot</p>
<p>Ok, obviously you have a lot of **** going on and you don’t need random people telling you how stupid you are. None of the people berating you are perfect, so don’t take their comments to heart. At this point, your only option is coming clean to the dean and saying exactly what happened. Show genuine remorse, like you did above, and with any luck they’ll put you on probation or something. </p>
<p>As far as your parents, they do deserve to know. Even if they will be mad/disown you/whatever, at least you will know you did the right thing. You said it yourself, life isn’t about cutting corners. So don’t cut this one</p>
<p>not much you can really do man.</p>
<p>What is up with all of these cheating posts on CC lately? Is it just me noticing this? </p>
<p>Moving on. OP, you chose to cheat. You must face the consequences of your decision. Like others have said, students who cheat only “regret” it after they’ve done it. If you had adequately prepared for the test ahead of time and had chosen not to talk about the test with the other student (clearly knowing you were about to take it), you surely wouldn’t be in this dilemma right now. </p>
<p>Your parents do have a right to be angry with you. Regardless of how light or how heavy your punishment will be in the end, hopefully you’ll learn your lesson. My best advice would be to attend community college for another year or two, and then transfer to another school.</p>
<p>No offense, but, you cheated, you deserve whatever punishment you get. Usually that’s expulsion. It’s unfair to the people who actually try hard and don’t cheat. Maybe you can start all over again at community - sounds like you weren’t doing so well anyways. This could be a blessing in disguise, and give you a chance to re-evaluate how you want to go about getting an education.</p>
<p>thanks to all your advice and words, i really do appreciate it. just waiting to see what happens, have not heard anything back from a dean or my professor yet.</p>
<p>also forgot to mention that i have been working since i was 17 years old, supporting myself financially, and after i lost my scholarship i worked my ass off those few months i didnt have school and i saved up every penny i could until i had the couple thousand i needed and paid for it all by myself. my parents dont have many to support me, we are just barely getting by and they said that going to college is a privilege for me although they are against the entire idea of it since i come from an old fashioned traditional family where girls should stay home and cook and clean all day. none of this would matter to me but the stress of my parents is increasing the stress ten fold. if i got expelled or whatever and did not have to inform my parents then i would gladly just fix my mistakes, finish school by starting anew but my parents insist on knowing every move i make and i am constantly getting in trouble and yelled at by my parents even when i dont do anything wrong at all. they already hate me, theyve said it to my face. its a pretty bad situation at home, otherwise i have no problem dealing with the consequences.
o and also im in my junior year, i would have been done with three more semesters but thats not happening.</p>
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<p>It’s like you want sympathy or something. You already stated that you have cheated throughout college so I don’t think you’re going to find any.</p>
<p>^^ you do realize that you hurt actual people when you say things like that; not just internet avatars? For what it’s worth, despite my anger towards people who cheat in general, I’m plenty willing to be sympathetic…that sounds like a pretty sucky situation you are in/have gotten yourself into. That said, I don’t know what to do about it. I don’t see why you owe it to your parents to tell them…they don’t exactly seem like they’ve done much to earn it recently. Perhaps you can ask the Dean for suggestions?</p>
<p>Anyone here who says they haven’t cheated before in their lives are full of crap. 95% of people in the same situation would have done the same thing as you. Just tell the dean about how your happy you got caught and how your currently reforming your life. If he continues to expel you tell him to kiss your ass. Transfer to a different school, just not a CC.</p>
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<p>Cheaters always think everybody is like them. </p>
<p>No, 95% of people would not sneak notes into a test. Sorry.</p>
<p>my meeting is on wednesday. im really nervous you guys. any advice? im thinking about sitting there and not saying a word because it wont change what i did. or i could just offer an apology and ask them for another chance.</p>
<p>Its probably a good sign that they’re waiting to deal with the situation. If they were going to kick you out, or something similarly horrible, I think they would have done it more quickly. I would recommend carefully listening to what they have to say. Be ready to respond with an apology that you can alter based on the lecture you get. In all honesty, they have probably already decided on a course of action, and your apology will not change that, but it can’t hurt to try. </p>
<p>Best of luck.</p>
<p>honestly, they have probably already made their decision but r still going to force u to tell ur side of the story. I hope that everyone on CC stops berating u and just takes it as a learning experience for wat its worth. even if someone has never cheated in their life, they can learn from this by learning to own up to any mistakes they have made.</p>
<p>with that said, with ur meeting there will probably be a lot of lecturing. dont be too defensive, be respectful, really listen, and speak only when a question is directed towards u. u cant change wat u did, but u can change wat u will now do.
of course u must extend an apology. if i was in ur position, i would write a letter to both the dean and the professor before the meeting asking for another chance. however, do not beg or come off too desperate</p>