While my D has leadership qualities (great speaker, can organize and motivate people), she has never really been comfortable in the leadership role. She usually prefers working on own her unless she trusts the person/people she’s working with; group projects were a typical source of angst and frustration in HS. She has been very good about finding quiet places on campus now to recharge her batteries; the constant human interaction in classes, study groups, dorm rooms, etc., is exhausting for an introvert.
As a parent, you want your kid to stand out and shine, especially when crafting those college apps that are so “leadership” focused. It’s good to remember that not everyone was born to round up and rally the troops. Sometimes, “leadership” means showing up when you are supposed to, doing your job, and doing it well.