<p>My four best friends in the world are still my suitemates from my junior year. As seniors we lived off campus together. </p>
<p>We've gone through all of each other's life events together for more than twenty-five years ... except that I rely on CC for my college discussion fix as it is not a big topic of conversatation on any of their radar screens. (Interestingly, two of these friends have sons who chose to go to the same state school that we all did and did not look at any other schools, while my two kids have no interest in my school at all.) </p>
<p>Geographically, the five of us are spread out.</p>
<p>In contrast, I have only one remaining friend from high school.</p>
<p>Are your college friends still a part of your lives?</p>
<p>Very much. As are all the wonderful people I met in my life, really up until about 8 years ago. When I moved back to the eastcoast I was so overwhelmed with everything, that I just did not meet people. I am on the introverted side anyways, but I just really avoided people. And it's been worse here when we moved again. I am hoping when my senior goes to college and if my freshman boards, I'll be able to be a bit more social. Having kids in different schools with one school more than an hour away has made me a full time chauffeur and the price has been in my social life which is now non existant.</p>
<p>I think the people who remain the most vivid in my life, however, are the women I met when my firstborn was a baby. We remain close friends, and pick up each time where we left off.</p>
<p>I think that for women, there are certain times of your lives that it is easier to make good friends. One is college and another is when your children are young. As you get older, it gets to be more difficult ... at least that has been my experience. Maybe there are just less ties that bond.</p>
<p>Jamimom: It is so difficult for me to think of you as introverted as you are so outgoing, helpful, and articulate on this board! :)</p>
<p>Hubby and I went to the same college. We got married right after graduation. We are still close friends with 3 other couples who also married in the years following graduation. The eight of us usually get together once year or so. Our kids are kind of like cousins. We also maintain close connections with several others, including the guy who my husband roomed with all 4 years of school. It is one of the main advantages that I see to attending a smaller school.</p>
<p>Shennine, that is so nice to hear, it is what I wish for my kids, where did you go to school? I too am connected to a few of my college friends. They are all in different states but when we are together we are still as close as we were. There is something special about old friends who have known you through all different life stages.</p>
<p>I've lost touch w/most of my college friends except for one. We were the two Jewish girls in our sorority. Our family lived overseas for 7 years and somehow we kept in touch with annual Rosh Hashanah cards. When we moved to CA she was living here and she came to our oldest's Bar Mitzvah---I hadn't seen her since my wedding 20 years earlier. That was 10 years ago and we still keep in touch. </p>
<p>I have tried to maintain contact w/some very close college friends-- one was a bridesmaid-- but everyone is busy, it's sad but I find as I grow older, relationships come and go and if I reach out and it's not reciprocated, I will not pursue it.</p>
<p>We have a group of 5 Moms---4 of us lived in the same dormitory and met our husbands while in college. The 5th is the spouse of a Bruin classmate. My husband was the roommate of my best guy friend...who eventually was the Best Man at our wedding. My roommate (and 1 of the Moms) was our Maid of Honor. She and the Best Man are Scorpios...my husband and I are both Pisces. What a coincidence... BC (before children), 3 couples routinely attended UCLA football games...and went on driving trips to Las Vegas together. When the children were young, we'd get together for Easter and summer picnics. Now that they are older and keeping us all very busy, the Moms go out to lunch twice a year and we host an annual holiday dinner just before Xmas for all the families. It is always something we look forward to. So, yes, we are all still very connected. In fact, as a result of the heavy rainstorms that came our way last week, we exchanged emergency numbers with each other! :)</p>
<p>Gosh, I am still friends with people who I have gone through elementary school with however, I met by best friend my first year at college. We have been throught a lot together; icky boyfriends, broken engagements, death of parents, marriage, divorce, birth of our kids, and kids leaving the nest. I think she has finally forgiven me because her godchild was born at 12:35 a.m. the day AFTER her birthday. She and my daughter still celebrate together like they were born on the same day. She still has the blankets I crocheted for her sons when they were born.</p>
<p>We were considered the "friends of the friendless" because because it will be one of us who will always hear from or see someone we went to college with that no one else ever hears from. She just moved to Florida last June and I felt a little lost (thank goodness for e-mail and free long distance). I paniced and called her after every storm last fall saying don't you want to come back to NY?</p>
<p>She's on my speed dial and programed in my daughters cell phone in the event of an emergency. She has realy helped me to grow into my womanhood and is just one of the most phenomenal women that I have encountered on this life's journey. I just hope that my daughter can be so blessed.</p>
<p>my one roommate just graduated this december. she's already told me that she doesn't plan on keeping in touch with people from college, which isn't suprising to me at all.. Oh well.</p>
<p>Absolutely! I have an annual reunion with my 5 best friends from college - we were on the same wing of our freshman dorm, pledged the same sorority. We've been getting together for 22 years now, and have already reserved a beach house for our Labor Day reunion. We intend to all wind up in the same nursing home and drive each other nuts!</p>
<p>Think about it if you ever became filthy rich , extremely famous, or was nominated for a cabinet post, these are the women you would have to pay off to keep from writing that tell all book.</p>
<p>Well, one of my group does keep saying she'll write a book about us, but has already told us that she'd have to cut the six characters down to four. I'm pretty sure I'm one of the ones being cut - not enough drama in my life!</p>
<p>After 36 years I'm still close to my college friends from Mary Washington College in Fredericksburg, VA. We met in our freshman dorm in 1968, stayed together as suitemates/neighbors in our sophomore dorm all the way through graduation. Of the ten of us, two of the group members ended up living in Fredericksburg with their spouses several years after graduation so we started getting together in F'burg once a year. The tradition has continued every year, even after the death of one of the women. Her husband joins us at each reunion in her place and still hosts the Sunday brunch that was always her contribution. The funny thing is that whenever we get together, we revert totally to the way we were as college kids! The same group dynamic is there, the same relationships -- even though we're older and wiser, we're still who we were then.</p>
<p>Geographically, we are somewhat spread out. While most of the group still lives in Virginia and Maryland, I'm the farthest away in south Florida and another is in New Hampshire. Although some of the more recent reunions have taken place at other locations, whenver we get together in Fredericksburg we always walk through the gorgeous campus and check out the bookstore and some of our old haunts downtown. But the highlight of the trip is when we are able to get into our old dorm rooms and see what they look like now. One year we knocked on the door of our suite and found 3 guys living there (MWC was an all girls school back in the day but went coed in 1970 -- dorms went coed MUCH later!). The guys were nice enough to invite us in to look around but the stench was so bad that we didn't stay long! I don't think they had changed their sheets (or socks) for months.</p>
<p>I treasure my friends from college and can only hope that my son will forge similar close relationships with the people he meets. I don't know if it's different with boys but I hope not.</p>
<p>I am close friends with one high school friend; we met in 7th grade but unfortunately she does not live nearby. We talk often. I am in touch with several college friends who are in touch with other college friends; we go to each other kids' Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, weddings, and sometimes plan reunions. My husband and I are in very very close touch with his undergraduate roommates whom we see for special occasions and sometimes vacation together; kids of some of the 4 families have become close too.
Then there are my kids' baby/toddler playgroup friends and families; we were together at important times in our lives usually without family nearby. We hope our kids will develop close relationships with college friends just as we have. But, patsmom, since boys are different, I hear you.</p>
<p>I don't see or talk to anyone that I knew before I was 22, save my husband.
I am still ( again) friends with a woman whose daughter was in the same preschool co-op as mine( older daughter), and since Seattle is such a small town I run into people I know a lot.</p>
<p>I almost never see anyone from my high school class, perhaps explained by the fact that I grew up on the west coast and now I'm in the midwest. I did have some emails with a couple of them in connection with a reunion (which I can't attend).</p>
<p>I never interact directly with anyone from my college class, though there is a small group who have been in touch via email off and on (we're all over the country) and who plan to get together in June at our reunion in Portland. I'm sure we'll basically pick up where we left off.</p>
<p>I have more contact with a few from graduate school, but again we don't live near one another. When we do get together we're definitely "old friends" and pick up when where we left off.</p>
<p>I went to a big state school, although in a very small close-knit department. I just realized that I only keep in touch with one college friend - and then only through xmas cards. I am very close with friends from K-12, though we all live far apart, and close with friends I met when my kiddies were babies. Strange....</p>
<p>I've kept in touch with a few old high school pals but none of my college friends. We would have kept in touch but all took off for grad school in far reaching places. Too bad, what a great crowd .</p>
<p>How ironic; right now I am visiting one of my very best college friends (in a different state) and checking email while the family is at church. </p>
<p>I am very close to my best college friends, about six or seven of them. I am really lucky because one of them lives about 1 mile from me even though we went to college on a different coast and neither of us had any prior connection to this town.</p>
<p>I am also tight with a couple of friends made at college who actually went to RISD. We worked at the same restaurant with a psycho boss (great bonding experience-- a common enemy.)</p>
<p>Also, just now when checking email, had one from HS friend I have been close to since age 14 (30 years!) </p>
<p>I am even in touch with one pre-school friend but mostly because our parents are close friends; she & I have gone different directions, but there is so much history there...</p>
<p>My college friends could definitely write a book-- but I could write one right back... so we all keep eachother's secrets. :-)</p>