commuting 1st year, dorm 2nd year?

<p>Hey guys so i'm currently commuting 45 minutes from UCI and it feels so boring. The commute is long and somewhat tiring, and it's so tough to make new friends. Tried starting conversations with people in class, but it feels like everyone is either in their "Group" or they just don't want to talk. haven't joined clubs yet cause most meetings are at like 7-8:30 PM, and i don't really want to stay that long around cause traffic last from 5-7:30 PM and i have class in the morning/afternoon. Anyways just wondering how you can make new friends as commuters... So boring i'm considering joining a frat.</p>

<p>Which is why i'm considering living in an apartment with my old highschool friend for sophomore year. Isn't it kind of pointless to do this 2nd year to make new friends though? Plus haven't seen him since 9th grade, and he's changed alot. Any opinions?</p>

<p>There’s nothing wrong with joining a frat or sorority. There will always be the stereotypically rowdy ones, but there’s also mellow groups and interest/major based groups (honor society, chem majors, etc). I’d say that’s a great way to meet people if you find yourself struggling already. </p>

<p>As far as commuting vs. living on campus, I noticed a pretty significant drop in social interactions when I moved off campus junior year. Like you’ve observed, most activities are later and us commuters rarely stay on campus for that long. If you end up on campus next year you’ll probably find yourself going to more activities given that it’ll only be a short walk back to your dorm.</p>

<p>@scandolous0‌ - Why do you commute? Is it a financial reason? Is dormitory living financially feasible? </p>

<p>Whether or not it’s pointless depends on your college. At my college, upperclass dorms were really sedate - not as many social events; most people roomed with someone they met freshman year; most people already had established groups of friends and if they met other people, it was usually through other organizations or venues. But at some places upper-class dorms are more sociable and a great place to meet lots of people. It depends.</p>

<p>I work across the street from UCI and thus work with a ton of current students. If it’s financially doable, I would recommend living in an apartment near campus and then using your saved time to get a job on or just off campus (UTC businesses are great at accommodating students). This way you can join whatever clubs you like, go to parties, and hang out with friends. It will also give you the possibility of participating in research, joining study groups, as well as doing other things which your comuter status makes difficult. PM me if you’d like a list of businesses off campus that are hiring part time. </p>