My daughter’s roommate tested positive (and is sick) yesterday. Daughter was also tested but had the 3 day test, not the instant one, because the instant one isn’t covered by the CARES act.
Her roommate will be able to return to work once she tests clear from virus, which could be in 10 days or so. Daughter is out of work for weeks, unless she actually gets it, then she can return when cleared. D works at Starbucks and will receive some sick pay, but not much and none of the tips or holiday pay (she’d signed up to work all of Christmas weekend).
Her boyfriend is coming this weekend (says he’s still coming even though she told him not to). He’s in army basic/officer’s training and they haven’t seen each other since March.
I hope your D doesn’t get it, but she is negatively affected no matter what. This virus is just the worst.
My in laws’ AL had just reopened the dining room to residents yesterday, and they were thrilled to have that community. They watched as the common area was decorated for their Christmas gathering scheduled for yesterday late afternoon. One of the med techs was helping residents fix their hair. The silver chafing dishes were at the ready. Then … a staff member’s COVID test came back positive. Residents had to go back to their rooms & staff brought food to them there. Residents were heartbroken and crying in the hallway. I hope life can return to something more normal when the vaccine arrives at their facility.
The good news is that a staff member told me today that we were not exposed to the team member who tested positive & that circumstances were such that we don’t need to quarantine.
It is very hard to get any information out of the army man. Current schedule if for him to fly from his state to visit her for 4-5 days, then fly to his mother’s home for Christmas. I think his entire break is 2-3 weeks.
At least he made plans not to stay with her. I told her to only see him outside, which is difficult to do when it is 20 degrees out.
@twoinanddone is there somewhere your daughter could stay away from the roommate?
The reason I ask is that this happened to my niece. The roommate had Covid (symptoms). They had shared food with the roommate. Had a test, negative but because they went back into the apartment with the roommate shedding virus, they were still at risk. If they had left the apartment and tested negative 4 days later, they could have gone on with their lives. Because they were still living in the apartment, the roommate was able to go home to their parents after 10 days and my niece still had to isolate.
She finally rented a hotel to isolate and never did test positive. But she isolated for 3 weeks total because she was in the apartment with the symptomatic roommate.
Yeah, there is no where for them to go to be separated. They live in Cheyenne and the Roommate is from Wisconsin. My daughter can’t come here to Denver because we are all high risk (my mother is having a double mastectomy on Monday, has cancer treatments too). The roommate actually needs daughter to stay there because roommate has dogs and daughter needs to take care of them. Daughter was recently in a car accident and her car is still being repaired. Boyfriend is going to stay with the guy fixing the car (who just got over covid himself so his home should be ‘clear’) and daughter could possibly stay there but there are the dogs to worry about and no car.
It’s a mess. D was supposed to come here tomorrow to get her Christmas presents and such, and now can’t, won’t get gifts if I send them, and will have a lonely covid Christmas.
The minute my daughter tested positive her roommate asked if she could leave, and my D was lucky that her BF family had a cabin they could go to. He was not working so he assumed he had it too, and went with her. Meanwhile roommate and Best Friend that she saw friday night (she got positive /symptoms on sunday, and thinks she was exposed Wed), got tested multiple times and never were positive. If the BF had not gone with D, he likely, despite having been with her before she got sick, might have been negative, as it took him a full week being around her once she got sick before he got sick. So overall my D could have left to come back after 10 days, but extended that to 18 days to stay with B. But if she had stayed in the apartment, then this could have happened to the roommate who works; so we were lucky she had a place to go and the roommate skirted this, but if the BF did not have a place, then my D would have had nowhere to go. my H is high risk so home was out. Its just so complicated.
When should you get a covid test when exposed to someone with covid?
“You should get tested [immediately] if you become symptomatic,” says Dr. Adalja. If you don’t have symptoms, you should quarantine and get tested around day five after exposure. If you test negative and have no symptoms, you can shorten your quarantine time from 10 days to seven days, per new guidance from the Centers for Disease Control.
So the roommate is positive but daughter can’t leave because of taking care of dogs. So she’s going to stay there.
But her boyfriend is going to fly in because he hasn’t seen her, stay for 4-5 days and then go see his family for Christmas.
I don’t know but if I hadn’t seen my girlfriend for 9 months, the temptation to be with her might be high.
And we wonder why there are 3000+ deaths per day in the United States! And 200,000 cases per day.
And I do understand not being able to control our adult children. I’m just pointing out the logistics.
My aunt who tested positive for Covid is now denying it Going out to eat every night. My mom asked why she was in the hospital for a couple of weeks, her heart is bad, she has diabetes. SMH
Ideally, every day with a test that gives results quickly.
But most people do not have access to daily quick testing. If you can only test once, it is best to wait some number of days after the high risk event or exposure before testing, because testing immediately after may not find a high enough viral load to give a positive result if the exposure resulted in infection.
Well she can’t go anywhere because there is nowhere to go. These are two 20 somethings with minimum wage jobs so no second homes, no money for a hotel, and no way to stay with family because they could now bring the virus. Not really that different from the millions of people who live with others and don’t have anywhere to quarantine but their own homes. Maybe one difference is that their apartment is smaller than most homes. And the dogs.
I also don’t think she should just abandon her roommate. In August there was much talk on CC about college kids getting houses and apartments together to wait out the being banned from campus situation or the online classes and I was assured by parents that their kids would take care of a roommate who came down with covid. I didn’t think my kids would be so kind and would bail. I guess at least one of my kids is kinder than I thought and she will stay to take care of her friend. She doesn’t really have another option, but she’s going to take care of her roommate.
The boyfriend is not going to stay at the apartment but with other friends. She’s told him not to come but he won’t listen. She won’t turn him away, I know that.
I am home sick and waiting on Covid test results, looks like it will be Monday before I hear anything. My 12 year old son had been sick recently(still has a cough at times) and he is convinced he had it, apparently his father was sick as well. My daughter was very sick one day but rebounded pretty quickly, none of them were tested so I don’t know if any of them had it. My ex father-in-law passed away Tuesday afternoon, the hospital said he had Covid. I know the kids had said several days before that he hadn’t eaten in days and was just staying in the bed, they all thought he had just decided he was ready to die. Monday his wife found him lying in the bathroom floor and couldn’t get him up, she called my ex who was in a nearby town shopping with my kids. He eventually decided to call an ambulance and they took him to our local hospital, they were not able to find any bigger hospitals to take him and he passed away the next afternoon. He had several health issues including diabetes and they said the paramedics were unable to get a reading because his blood sugar was so high, so that could be what killed him. Come to find out, he went to the hospital or doctor several days earlier and he had told his wife and son that he thought he had the virus, they told him that he needed to tell the doctor and get tested, but he didn’t tell them or get tested. My son has been crying for 3 days and is convinced that he caused his grandfather’s death.
We have had several in our area that have had it(including my older son, brother, sister-in-law, niece, and great niece), and a few that have passed away. On a happy note, one friend that got very sick in August and spent weeks on a ventilator, followed by a long time in rehab, is finally coming home Sunday.
That is awful that your poor son feels responsible.
This is precisely why we are not seeing my elderly parents. When talking with my 15 y/o about neighbors who were planning to have Thanksgiving with a large extended family (thank God they changed their mind), my daughter said to me “I don’t even want to go near Grandma and Grandpa b/c I could not live with myself if I knew I was responsible for exposing them.” It sounds like your son is a sweet and wise kid, but did not have much choice whether or not to be around his grandparents since he was with your ex at the time. But he should not blame himself - there is now way to know where/if your ex FIL was exposed, and that is not a burden your young son should bear.
@twoinanddone I know you can’t control adults, but that is incredibly irresponsible of your daughter’s boyfriend. And to know that he is planning to fly after seeing your dd just makes me cringe. My daughter’s BF just drove home to be with his parents. He will quarantine when he arrives, not stopping along the way and not seeing anyone other than his parents while home. He had to submit a daily itinerary to his commanding officer before he was even granted leave. It is frightening to think he will be around your D, who herself should be in quarantine, and then get on a plane. I have a hard time believing a young couple who hasn’t seen each other in months is actually going to stay outside and not touch each other. I agree your daughter does not have much choice in terms of staying with her sick roommate, and certainly think it is kind she will stay to take care of her and her dogs. But at the same time, she absolutely should not see her boyfriend. But it’s frustrating I know, we cannot control our adult children’s behavior. I hope your daughter’s test comes back negative and she is able to keep from being infected while staying to care for her roommate and dogs.
My heart goes out to you @HeartofDixie. That’s a lot of cases. What happened to your ex FIL sounds a lot like what happened to my uncle, except no one even tried to get help for my uncle (sigh).
My nephew, who has actually been ‘careful’ AFAIK, and that fits his personality, has Covid and is sick. What has been said about pets? He cannot walk his dog and lives in an upstairs apartment, even potty breaks are a struggle. If his brother and family come get the dog for a few days, is there any risk to them of pets being carriers? I’ve heard yes and no.
There have been cases of dogs being infected with COVID-19. It is not known how easily this can occur, or how easily an infected dog can then pass the virus to a human.
We’ve had a very popular church choir member recently die of Covid. He was in his seventies. As background I should say that our church does in person worship with mandatory masks, socially distanced seating, no congregational singing, capacity limits etc. The choir is greatly reduced in size and they rehearse and sing in small groups with those specialized singer’s masks and 6’ of separation. This gentleman was at choir rehearsal on Saturday 11/21. On Sunday morning 11/22 he felt ill, thought it was a cold, and stayed home. His wife went to church and sang in the choir (masked and distanced). A couple days later he was taken by ambulance to the hospital and put on a ventilator. Tested positive for Covid-19 and died on 12/11. AFAIK the wife tested negative and has not gotten sick. This man was very beloved in both the choir and the community and everyone is heartbroken. But at least it appears that no one else in the choir got sick. We’ve had several church members get Covid-19 since March and a few be hospitalized but not in circumstances where they were present in worship or participating in any church activities. This is our first fatality of a church member.
