CSU to a CC?

Transfer Students
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I’m currently debating on whether I should transfer from SFSU to a CC in Sacramento. To begin, I never wanted to go to SFSU, I wanted to go to SJSU, but my clingy mother made me go to SFSU. She came up with every reason for me to not leave, so having no guts, I stayed. Also, I understood that my parents couldn’t afford for me to live on campus. But nowadays, I am in my third year of college and I am failing miserably. My first year, I did wonderful, 3.5 GPA. The next two years, it started to go downhill. My gpa is currently 2.32 and possibly going down. I talked to my cousin about it (who lives in Sac btw), she offered for me to stay at her place and for me to go to a CC instead of dropping out entirely. Which is a great opportunity because I’ll be able to be on my own, grow as a person, and learn to gain responsibilities. I’ve been tied up my entire life by my mother after all. I feel like going to a CC will allow me to go at a pace I would like to. It’s just I’m not entirely sure how to break it to my parents. I feel like speaking to my father will be easy due to how he’s more understanding, but my mom is on a whole other level of crazy when it comes to me wanting to ever leave home. My boyfriend tells me that if I really want to do it and if it’s what I think is best for me, then I should just do it. Instead of asking for their approval, I’ll just be telling them my plan.

The benefits of all of this is:

  1. I will have a place to live for free.
  2. I will be able to go at my own pace at a CC - Finish my GEs there.
  3. I won’t be wasting my parents money to just fail. (I feel horrible for failing and wasting their money)
  4. Gaining responsibility and maturing.
  5. I will also be working part-time as I attend this CC.

I know this is right for me and that I’ll be happier, but I honestly don’t know how to break it down to a crazy/clingy mother. Am I even doing the right thing by going from a CSU to a CC?

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Yes if you feel comfortable moving to a cc, then you should. You are an adult so you should make your own decisions. Just tell your mother that you feel like you need more space.