@WooTheDay:
Yes, my son felt comfortable connecting with his professors in class, ditto with the grad students. He did mention that he never really knew how he was doing in the grad classes class until 3/4’s of the way through the term, as everyone’s papers were handed back with comments, but no grades. He chalked it up to one of the differences between undergraduate classes and graduate classes. In terms of contributing to the professor’s research; no that is something that is more for grad students, not undergrads. However, my son did get a very well know graduate school superstar professor at Yale to act as his mentor and advisor for his thesis project. That’s probably because my son’s thesis nicely dovetails with the professors main area of study and is interested in the results.
In terms of final clubs, here’s what I’ve heard from my daughter. Final clubs host off-campus parties where underage students can drink. As soon as a student turns 21, they are able to legally go to bars, clubs and liquor stores. So, unless a student is from a monied background and is interested in becoming a member of a final club, it’s more of a freshman and sophomore thing.
That said, there is a difference between what men and women experience. If you are a freshman or sophomore boy, you are not getting in to most final clubs. Ever. That’s because most final clubs, which are male-only members, have plenty of junior and senior men who are members . . . and they don’t want more men at the party. So, most Harvard men never enter a final club during their four years of school. Unless you’re member of the club, it’s a party that you are not invited to.
For women, it’s decidedly mixed. If you are an attractive women, final clubs want you to attend their parties. In fact, their doors are open to you. However, if you’re not an attractive women, it’s very difficult to be admitted. My daughter who is a curt, slender and blond, had no issue attending final clubs. However many of girlfriends who were not, couldn’t get in the door. For women, it’s very much like “Studio 54” during the 70’s/80’s. The bouncers pick and choose which women they want to admit. And boys are not invited. My son, who has visited Harvard numerous times visiting his sister, was never able to gain admittance to a final club . . . even accompanied by my daughter. They would let my daughter in, but not my son. When they both turned 21, they were able to go to Cambridge bars and didn’t bother trying to go to the final clubs.