<p>why are you so opposed to guys paying when you're on a date? a little tradition never hurt anyone (or my pocket).</p>
<p>for me, it would be unthinkable to ask the girl to pay.... how can someone do that?</p>
<p>generally i use whether i pay or not to judge if its a date.<br>
here's the scenarios...
A: I pay, she doesn't. Date.
B: I pay, she insists that she gets the next one. Date AND smart.
C: I try to pay and she pays for herself. Most likely NOT a date</p>
<p>up here in the windy city it seems that people go right from "liking each other" to heavy long term relationships. there is not really such a thing as dating around and getting to know people and hav ea good time.... usually dating is just a precursor to sometihng larger that both parties are aware is going to happen.</p>
<p>but i like dates. they're fun :)</p>
<p>in socal dating is more casual, while there are a handful of long term relationships at my school most are just informal flings</p>
<p>I didn't mean anything bad about it. I was more kidding, I guess. I don't actually remember what I said, and am too lazy to go back and look at it.</p>
<p>I have a question about Prom....my date is friends with another girl and her boyfriend (im friends with the other girl too). And so her friend was saying that they were wondering what to do about renting a car. So this other girl...lets call her Erica...said that i should probably get together with her b/f to take care of the situation. Later on, my date tells me that she isnt gonna go home after prom. </p>
<p>Now, here's where I run into a problem:
1. I'm on a limited budget...and the tickets alone are gonna cost $100. Now, I dont know Erica's boyfriend very well....and im not even sure I'd like to dish out an additional hundred or so to rent a limo or w/e....i just dont see the point of it.</p>
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<li>I dont know what to do about my date going somewhere after prom. To be quite honest...i already know that I'm gonna be dead tired...and I won't have any interest in going to a party where people are gonna get wasted. So, if I end up going in a stupid rental car...and my date goes somewhere afterward....how do I get home? And how do I come across without seeming like a fuddy-duddy?</li>
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<p>Someone please help me make sense of this! :(</p>
<p>Well sucks to be a guy in that scenario...lol. And I thought chic’s had problems trying to find a dress...guess we aren't the only ones... </p>
<p>As far as your problem with the money, looks like you are going to have to rent something, either a car or a limo, especially if “Erica” was hinting something. Maybe you could rent a car, that is probably WAY cheaper and you could always use the excuse (for not getting a limo) that you called too late to rent one and there were no more available for that night. And besides that you would have a really nice car to drive around in the next day…</p>
<p>As for your second problem, try to find out exactly what she means. Because maybe she doesn’t mean that she is going to a party, maybe she means that she is renting a hotel room or something with her friends, in that case you would be off the hook and have no problem. If it is a party, drink a pot of coffee and try to stay awake. There really isn’t much else to do…or make your date dance a lot at the prom so she is really tired and wants to go home afterward as well. </p>
<p>Good Luck!</p>
<p>out here in pennsylvania, people don't go on 'dates,' but they do 'go out' with other people. for example: people don't ask people on dates to get to know them - they just simply get to know them in other situations, then they start 'going out' if they both like each other. of course, there are many friends w/ benefits (though that is sooo annoying for the mutual friends ugggggh!) and many long-term couples.</p>
<p>as for the prom problem:
i would use someone's car. if none of the 4 people mentioned has a car, i would definitely ask to use a parent's vehicle for the night or try to hitch a ride with people who already have one. </p>
<p>speaking of prom...who should i go with? the friends that i would consider asking are all 'friends w/ benefits' with some of my other friends! ah!</p>
<p>I live in Los Angeles and I tend to agree with Jimmypop and WillowELN. People here don't date to get to know each other, they already know each other, and then start "going out." My girlfriend and I are a typical example. We were good friends for a while but there was always a bit of sexual tension. We went to Prom last year as friends. No alcohol or drugs, but one thing led to another and... Within two weeks we were "going out," which I guess is interchangeable with dating. Dating rocks.</p>