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i'm an athletci person and enjoy being active and my last boyfriend took me to an indoor rock climbing place for our first date (vertical ventures)... very fun and kept the conversation going.
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<p>That's why for first dates I usually invite girls out to play a little 1 on 1 ball. Girls love guys who can post them up and make contested three-pointers over them; and nothing moistens girls like trash talk and primal screams of celebration. Naw what I'm sayin, fellow brosephs?</p>
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You know what they say "Even a jet plane feels small flying in the grand canyon"
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<p>I've never heard that before, but damn is that funny.</p>
<p>No intersexuality is a physical thing as in you can't physically classify them as either gender. Being a lesbian in a man's body means you have a man's body so you can classify it.</p>
<p>mm sorry to resurrect a dead thread but i didn't wanna start a new one: my boy and i have fought about his clinginess (<<possibly not a word haha) several times and it's getting old. every time we have this discussion (which generally spurs from my not expressing enough sadness that we'll be apart for a few days when i go on vacation or something to that effect) he always assures me that he knows i love him and apologizes. then, just a few weeks later, he'll do it again. he tells me he never had this problem in his previous relationship.</p>
<p>the pattern is getting old. anyone ever dealt with this? it's getting to me (especially because he's been in europe all summer and i surely didn't act this way toward him).</p>
<p>i'm in love with him--if i weren't, i would have ended it the first time. i'm not yet to the point that i can't be with him over it; i really, really want to work it out because everything is perfect otherwise..i guess i'm wondering if anyone knows what could be the root of the problem or how to get through to him that i care & i'm not going anywhere..</p>
<p>Maybe if they sold syringes filled with confidence. Either your boyfriend will need to suppress his clinginess or you will need to grow to tolerate it. The feeling isn't just going to go away.</p>
<p>Just tell him that you love him and that he needs to understand that you don't show your affection for him that outwardly because thats just who you are.</p>
<p>is the only thing he gets "clingy" about time apart? Did a previous girlfriend (or maybe one his buddies' current girlfriends) cheat on him? Does he get like this if say you're really busy and you guys don't have time to spend with each other, or is it only when you two are physically separated by distance?</p>
<p>leah, i suggest you to ask this question to ‘Ms. Manners’ at [url=<a href="http://www.msn.com%5DMSN.com%5B/url">http://www.msn.com]MSN.com[/url</a>] . It is a forum where people ask questions regarding problems they face from personal to professional relationships, and an expert suggests the best way to tackle them.</p>
<p>What I feel is that you should be open to him about your feelings. But, perhaps, not in the line of "Don’t be a child, act as a man..." this will only add to the dispute. Please don’t jump into any conclusions, and I figure you haven’t yet. Several times, relationships suffer when partners do no discuss the problem and make their own conclusions.</p>
<p>Or maybe he is being too possessive!!! There is also a possiblity that he is threatened by other guys around you, and he feels awkward to communicate about it. And, perhaps, in his attempt to prove himself and to others, he appears to be 'clingy'.</p>
<p>and i-wanna-be-brown's assessment may also be a possiblity. </p>
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i really, really want to work it out because everything is perfect otherwise..i guess i'm wondering if anyone knows what could be the root of the problem or how to get through to him that i care & i'm not going anywhere..
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how long have you guys been going out? has this relationship lasted much longer than his previous ones (or your previous ones)? maybe because everything else is going well he (or you) are making mountains out of mole hills just to find something wrong with the other person for whatever reason.</p>
<p>thanks so much for the responses--they're all pretty interesting.
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I'm guessing she will respond that she does show her affection for him, which she probably does.
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correct. i frequently tell him i love him, am physically affectionate, and do nice things for him for no real reason (like bring his family breakfast or give him a random card or bring him and his roommate magazines to read when they're both sick).
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Did a previous girlfriend (or maybe one his buddies' current girlfriends) cheat on him? Does he get like this if say you're really busy and you guys don't have time to spend with each other
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actually, he cheated on his ex (not with me) and that's the trigger for why they broke up, even though they were already on the outs. and yeah, he definitely gets like this when i tell him about something i'm doing that'll prevent us from hanging out 24/7..i wouldn't say he's possessive, though, because he doesn't get controlling about it, just kind of..sad. also i'm really independent (maybe too independent haha) and i'd never, ever put up with a controlling guy.</p>
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maybe because everything else is going well he (or you) are making mountains out of mole hills just to find something wrong with the other person for whatever reason.
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this is the most interesting thing anyone said because i've actually been questioning that myself recently..this is my first long relationship, and he was with his ex for 4 years (ridiculous!). i think the commitment thing is kind of scaring me, especially because he's not afraid to get serious and i definitely am, but i still find myself wanting to be with him long-term. i don't like feeling that way so i think in the past i've picked fights with him to try to find something wrong with the relationship.</p>
<p>the weirdest thing about all this is that i really have no desire to break up and just want to fix it instead..in the past i'd tell the guy it's over in a heartbeat..</p>