Deerfield - Gay Students targeted

<p>If we (adults) can elect and support a president who got Cs at Andover but still went to Yale (very affirmative action), who failed as a business person and burned his investors, who abused alcohol and cocaine, who promised social conservatives so much but deliver so little, who promised fiscal conservatives so much but refused to veto spending bills, who led us into an unnecessary and wasteful war that is now taxing us with $15 billion a month...should we be surprised that our children are confused about morality?</p>

<p>elo
there is no intolerance. if you wish to be gay, fine. However, the Bible is black and white on this. If you follow it, you accept sinful behavior as immoral. Lax, you forgot the adultery of a president.</p>

<p>BF,
Perhaps your true self showed through in your applications and interviews? WWJD (and say)? Hopefully you live a better example than your words would suggest.</p>

<p>im jumping in and agreeing w bf</p>

<p>bigfoot, if people followed the bible slavery would still be allowed and women would be stoned for looking at another man. please do not use the bible to justify hurtful behavior.</p>

<p>i knew this would happen.
this is about the
DEERFIELD INCIDENT.
because its a PREP SCHOOL FORUM.
not a debate about what's wrong and
right in your book. if you do want
to discuss this further though,
there are different websites.</p>

<p>prepp</p>

<p>My initial comment was that those at Deerfield were wrong in how they did it, but perhaps they felt they had no other avenue to state their beliefs re immoral conduct due to the "liberal" others. Obviously, the Dean felt so to.</p>

<p>i agree with prepp....i came on the thread to read about the incident, not about what is morally wrong and right. I really don't think you should be talking about this kind of stuff on a prep school forum that has KIDS of all ages looking around it. If you all feel so strongly on this subject, then you should all meet up on another forum and discuss it further there.</p>

<p>the point was that the incidents
at deerfield and st paul's
were inappropriate, and they
shouldn't have happened.
but now we had to get off
on some other tangent
about personal beliefs.</p>

<p>or the point is for those that were hesitant to send kids to the above schools (such as my dad) due to the immoral happenings (i also include the "harkness club" at one of the schools) -- that some students are standing up for what is right which makes the school more palatable to some of us</p>

<p>um okay.
interesting way
to think of it.</p>

<p>BF, Are you actually accepted anywhere for this fall? I think you'll find that most people at Thacher (if you get in) won't agree with you. You're on a waitlist at Andover, right? Maybe you're looking at schools that aren't correct fits for you. I know such schools, which like to spew hatred and intolerance, do exist but they're not usually discussed on this board.</p>

<p>well said PF.</p>

<p>pf, i doubt there are schools like that anywhere. However, I think hes trying to say that its morally wrong, but whoever sent the letters handled it the wrong way.</p>

<p>Thank you nhfootballer, for your point about the using the Bible to discuss behavior. If everyone were to follow the old testament, we would all keep kosher and not wear wool with linen (I am not making that up.....) So, biggestfoot, do you follow those commandments as well, or only choose certain ones?</p>

<p>And to those who say we should not be discussing this issue on a prep school forum, I strongly disagree. There is likely to be a lot more diversity at most prep schools than at students' local options. That diversity is one of the biggest reasons many students WANT to go to boarding school. If a student is not willing to deal with that diversity, than perhaps a diverse boarding school is not for him/her.</p>

<p>true, brooklynguy.
but i didn't come
to this website
to discuss diversity
and sexuality.
i just wanted to
know about the
school i was applying to.</p>

<p>prepp, one of the things to investigate, when you're looking at schools, is how they handle unusual situations that come up: hazing, suicide, illegal drugs, and buylling-discrimination. So, in my opinion, this topic is relevant. It is not at all about diversity, or sexuality, or even morality (although some people want to inject their opinions about that). Some kids were targeted and perhaps discriminated against. Although this could happen at any school in America, what is important is how the school handles the situation. </p>

<p>In this particular case, I find it more disturbing not that one or two kids sent these letters, as there will always be ignorant, cruel individuals at any school, but that Deerfield, to the naked eye, hasn't publically done anything about it. Perhaps there is a reason for it, I don't know. But their silence on the matter is disquieting to me. If I received a letter like this, I would want to know what the school was going to do about it--to protect my safety and ensure that actions like this had to be stopped or people would get in trouble. Giving Deerfield the benefit of the doubt, they may be doing this, behind the scenes. Personally, I applaud the way St. Paul's handled a similar situation and think Deerfield should take a page from their book.</p>

<p>If you read the article closely, it isn't just SPS and DA but also Loomis, exeter and others who have recently experienced hate incidents. I think that all of the schools should proactively address these issues. No school is immune.</p>

<p>okay okay.
good point just joe.
i realize i have a flawed
argument. andd you're
actually right. whoops.</p>

<p>justjoe49 - you are in no position (unless you are a parent or a student at DF) to make any judgement about how DF is handling the situation. They have not been silent on the matter at all - all school meetings, communicaition with parents, etc. Do not make the assumption that because they are not airing thei issue in public they are not dealing with it.</p>