@sherpa - I obviously don’t know you or your kids (or what sports they were recruited for or where), but I will posit that they were born with a level of athletic potential for their sports appreciably above average, that you (and, I’m guessing, your spouse, and possibly a great coach or two in your area) nurtured this from a young age, and that you navigated the recruiting game with them to help them land in great places - for which you’re all to be congratulated.
This takes nothing away from your kids’ long, hard work and discipline (which I acknowledged in my post), but I’m pretty confident that without you, your guidance and, above all, your genes, they wouldn’t have got where they got to (I think in fact you at least partially acknowledge this in your last sentence) - which is why I consider being a recruited athlete, like any other hook, to be something that comes, in large part, from being born in the right circumstances.
Of course, if there are significant numbers of students born with average athletic ability who by dint of exceptional work and dedication are able to make themselves into recruited athletes, I’ll concede that being a recruited athlete isn’t highly dependent on who your parents are. I think, though, that those kinds of kids, when you find them, are the exceptions that prove the rule.