<p>I'm in a c++ class and we are supposed to do our labs with a partner (most of the students aren't, but we are supposed to). I have previous programming experience and find our assignments really easy. He, on the other hand, has no clue. I'm writing most of our programs because he can't figure it out. We have 100% of every lab because of the work I am doing. When he says he is going to write something, it usually just ends up being even more work for me because I have to spend so much time debugging his code. </p>
<p>I work and go to school fulltime and he is trying to monopolize all of my free time. He wants to meet all the time. I have to hold his hand through every single function he writes and then spend half the day debugging and rewriting everything when he is done. He sends me 10 emails a day, text messages, calls me, etc and always wants to meet to study.</p>
<p>I'm thinking about telling him I want to work alone on the final project. A lot of other people in the class are working alone and our teacher said she wouldn't force us to work with a partner. Would it be wrong to hang him out to dry like that?</p>
<p>Tell the teacher that you want to work alone due to your work schedule. You don’t owe the other student anything including the apparently free tutoring he has been using you for.</p>
<p>Let him know that due to your work schedule, you’ll do the last project by yourself, and direct him to the professor and campus tutoring facilities to get the help that he obviously needs.</p>
<p>He actually is using you. It should be obvious to him that you’re doing most of the work, and he’s not learning anything. He should have the good sense and courtesy to be talking to the prof or campus tutoring center to get the help he needs.</p>
<p>I had a very similar situation for a java class last quarter. I had been assigned a partner who seemed to know nothing/kept calling me for help/flaked. So I told him that our schedules weren’t compatible and I worked by myself for the rest of the quarter. I suggest you do the same.
He is not helping you in any way, so get rid of him. But… don’t make a big deal about it, drama is bad and the professor won’t be sympathetic. Just make up some plausible excuse (the previous poster’s work schedule suggestion is gold), and go from there. GL</p>
<p>On Monday he asked me to meet him this weekend and I told him no and hinted that he do the assignment on his own. On Tuesday he asked me to meet him again, and I told him no. On Wednesday morning he asked if I was going to meet him this weekend and I told him no. On Wednesday evening he called me and asked me when we were getting together and I told him no. On Thursday he sent me an email asking me if I would meet him, and I told him no. This is ridiculous. What is wrong with him?</p>
<p>There is no need to meet at all for these assignments. I keep telling him to write it on his own and I will write my own version and we can exchange and decide which pieces to incorporate into the final submission. Instead he writes some half-assed incomplete program and emails it to me asking what is wrong with it. He only has two relatively easy classes, c++ and a pre-calc class, and he only works two days a week for a couple of hours. I have fulltime schedule of difficult classes with midterms coming up AND I work every day. What is wrong with him that he doesn’t get that? I bet he’s an only child.</p>
<p>I know it’s tough to do but keep saying, No. It sounds as though he doesn’t have a clue to the understanding of the class. All you can do is keep saying no and suggest that he find a tutor.</p>
<p>Good luck. Your job is to concentrate on your studies.</p>
<p>I must say I raised my only child better than that!! You need to tell him straight out, NO! You need to say that you are too busy to meet with him and you would rather do your work on your own. Tell him he should ask the teacher to help him find another partner. Get this guy out of your hair and out of your way.</p>
<p>Who cares what’s wrong with him? It would be productive to ask yourself why you’re not going to the professor, citing your workload, and telling the prof that you don’t have time to work with a partner. The professor probably won’t care if you stop working with your partner as long as you clear it with the professor first.</p>
<p>Just do that. You don’t owe that partner anything. He’s lazy, not good at programming, and he’s also using you. Big Time.</p>
<p>EECool you have a pretty good theory, reminds me of freshman year of high school. There was this guy (so HOT) he was from France and I’d get him to check my French hw, I really didn’t need to but I just wanted to talk to him/spend time with him, and it worked out, we dated for 2 months which is pretty long for high school. We connected over French hw, but I was never as annoying as your lab partner.</p>
I don’t want to go off on one of those “Men are From Mars” tangents, but truth is that men and women tend to have different styles of communicating. Not each of them, of course, but its true to some extent. And the stereotype of women is that they tend to be indirect; they give hints and suggestion, which of course someone else playing the game understands perfectly well. However you’re dealing with a guy here, and not only may he be deaf to what you’re “hinting” at since guys are commonly much more direct, it’s in his best interests to completely ignore hints (even if it happens at a subconcious level) because you know how to do the work and he doesn’t.</p>
<p>The lessons in college are more than just what’s taught in the classroom. Here, college is trying to teach you a lesson in assertiveness. You can ignore the lesson, and I’m pretty confident you’ll get many more chances to learn it. Or you can flat-out tell the guy you’re NOT doing the homework with him. You don’t owe him any reasons, you don’t have to discuss it with him, you don’t have to worry about whether he’s going to like it or not. If the teacher isn’t requiring you to do the homework with someone else, and you’d rather not, then DON’T.</p>
<p>just tell the wee lad straigt out; if you dont tell a man a certain way, they’ll just keep on bugging you. I know i have to be told several times to stop eating during class (lolz). But tis not your job to tutor this boy; your job is to focus on YOUR studies, that is prioritiy numero uno.</p>
<p>Next time he asks when you can help him, just say “I don’t have the time to help you anymore. Midterms are coming up and I need to worry about my classes. They have tutoring and office hours if you need any more help.” If he doesn’t give up then maybe you need to sort of be rude to make sure he gets the point. Can you move to a different seat in class? Tell the professor you can’t work with him anymore.</p>
<p>You aren’t doing him a favor byt helping him. He’s going to go to the next class and have no clue what to do. You shouldn’t be doing his homework for him.</p>
<p>I say that you should hit him. Right in the jaw with a large blunt object. That will get the message across. Or you know just say “learn it yourself” that works too especially since you don’t seem to be so fond of him.</p>