<p>Busybeemom, while I understand the original question was about prestige vs money, I would
like to bring attention to one of your later posts:</p>
<p>Attending a large university > 10,000 students is not my son’s idea of a good experience. He is not interested in football games, or fraternities, or partying…He wants to learn in small classrooms with teachers who are always accessible, and KNOW WHO HE IS. He would be absolutely miserable in a theatre sized classroom, or a huge university. That is the full college experience my son seeks, which obviously differs from what you think is your full college experience.</p>
<p>It really makes it clear then why your son prefers Lafayette. As I posted earlier, Lafayette has 2300 students who almost all live on campus (94%). Rowan has 10,014 undergraduates and all the student reviews call it explicitly a suitcase school (only 36% live on campus.) Lafayette has 638 freshmen and 77% is out of state (37 different states) providing a small but diverse student body. Rowan has 1584 freshmen and 2% is out of state. Looking at last year’s graduating class for L 19% was in engineering which means that even though it is a small school, it has a large dept since engineering was in the top 5 most popular majors of that class and it is the second most popular major. Class sizewise they are the exact opposite with Lafayette having 60% classes with less than 20 students and Rowan having 60% classes with 20+ students. Four year graduation rate is Rowan 44% vs 87% for Lafayette. </p>
<p>As others have also said the choice of specific schools is important when one chooses between prestige and $$ because the choice is different among schools. Rowan clearly has a good chemical engineering department as all the students mention this specific dept. However, overall they appear to have an average opinion about the school and do not consider it to have solid academics in the other departments. Lafayette has overall top academics, which means that all students are of equal standing, regardless of the department they are in. </p>
<p>YOU need to decide whether the important factor is the money or the environment that your son feels it will be best for his personal growth because that’s the real choice that you have to make. You say that “your son is about to decide between two choices.” Is this the real dilemma? He appears to have made his decision, “My son has stated that he feels the elite school is the one for him, where he really sees himself.” But the reality is that you had already made the decision for him before he even applied to any school when “I’ve already seen his disappointment when I convinced him not to apply to ivy league, because although he had a good chance of being accepted, ivies do not give any merit aid.” So, you precluded that prestige is not as important as money. Otherwise, you would had let him apply to any school he “thought about applying to” and not assume that he will forget that he never got the chance to even apply. Would it be different if he had to choose between Rowan and Penn? You bet it would and the $140k would worth it, BUT you did not give him the choice. Is it your son who call sit the “elite” school or you? Will it be a personal issue because you went to a “virtually unknown state school”? Do you try to justify that since you live in a community where “neighbors and classmates all going to elite, prestigious or ivy league schools. I don’t think any of them even considered a state school, even if they applied for it as a safety.”</p>
<p>There is a very different experience in campus life between a small, private school and a large state school. Not everything is about academics. The whole package is important. Since your son is a passive character, he might benefit more by a small school and the nurturing environment where almost all students live there. It is very similar to the argument on whether it is better for women to go to an all women’s college or not so they feel more comfortable to explore their abilities and they do not feel threatened and as an example they always give the fact that the overwhelming majority of women senators have all attended an all women’s school. Clearly Lafayette has many benefits, otherwise Forbes would not rank it #33 among both LACs and universities (Forbes ranks Rowan as #488). Barron’s ranked it among the top 65 “Most Competitive” colleges and universities. It ranked 4th on Payscale’s list of Top Liberal Arts Colleges by Salary Potential.</p>
<p>As you have said, “Emotionally I feel he has worked very hard and deserves to go wherever he wants.” Your son has made his choice and he has expressed it loud and clear. It is up to you whether you will allow him to attend his choice or not since as you “know we can have a strong influence on his decision” since you “are fortunate to be able to pay it due to … diligent savings from the day our children were born.” If that was the reason that the money was saved, then let your son spend it on that instead of “buy him a car, and maybe even early retirement for us.” </p>
<p>I would like to leave you with this comment by a student that seems to be the opinion that most students have about Lafayette and appears to characterize the essence of the school:
“Attracts highly qualified students, offers a unique mix of liberal arts and engineering, unusual in small, private colleges, and has outstanding facilities, as a result of sustained and generous giving from engaged alumni.”</p>