<p>I am responding specifically to your issue of Harvard vs. Stanford, and the legitimate concerns that you described. My own background is that I spent 4-5 years as a student at each school (one undergrad, one grad) and am extremely familiar with the undergrad education at each. I've also had several close relatives at both places.</p>
<p>First of all, the decision about "where to go" should not be based on prestige, or on what others choose to do when faced with the same choice. College is in many ways the most memorable and formative time in somebody's life, and it is simply ridiculous to based that decision based on these superficial factors.</p>
<p>H: The number of freakish "outlier" students (who have extraordinary talents in some specialized area) is still higher here than anywhere else in the US, although I agree with the assessment that this gap is shrinking. Having said that, many students are somewhat uptight and rather obsessed with external measures of "excellence." This type of environment is not for everybody. This institution has an exceptional amount of tradition, which is both a strength and a weakness.</p>
<p>S: I would agree that there is no other university that can even approach its strengths across the sciences, engineering, and humanities. This institution may have a better understanding of "where things are headed in the world" than anywhere else, and they have been pioneers in technology and interdisciplinary research. Students are given tremendous flexibility, and it is no coincidence that several have been at the forefront important innovations in computers and biotechnology - even while they are still students. There is a relaxed attitude on campus, and some students abuse this flexibility.</p>
<p>Bottom line: visit both places and see what you think. Good luck.</p>