<p>Disclaimer: For myself, I truly love Yale. It changed my life, and so far it seems wonderful for my daughter too. But my husband is also a Yalie, and as I watch the debates over whether elite schools are worth the angst of admission or the cost of attendance, it occurs to me that his story from college onwards might offer a degree of balance.</p>
<p>When he entered Yale, he expected to major in political science, but time and his freshman-year girlfriend got him interested in being a doctor. Unfortunately, a ridiculous percentage of our graduating class (25%? 35%?) had the same idea, and they ended up competing against each other in one of the toughest years ever in medical school admissions. Like many applicants to elite colleges today, he didnt see it coming. After all, hed breezed through high school at the top of his class, breezed into Yale, breezed through organic chemistry--why should medical school be a problem? When he was sick on the day of the MCATs and got a lower-than-expected score, he never even considered taking them again.</p>
<p>Senior year turned out to be very long. Qualified Yalies were being turned down flat by every med school in America, and my husband came close--but was finally accepted at his state school late in the spring. On the positive side: He got a good education there, receiving the highest possible scores on the national medical boards, and graduated from med school with only a few thousand dollars--rather than tens of thousands--of debt. Less positively, because his med school (at the time, at least) did not give grades or honors and was not a member of the honor medical society, AOA, he was at a real disadvantage in applying for top residency programs, especially out of state.</p>
<p>He matched with the 7th residency on his list--a large NYC hospital that didnt do much research but took good care of its patients. As he was finishing that residency, he decided to change specialties--and ended up doing his second residency at an extremely prestigious Ivy. Again, there were costs and benefits: On the one hand, the faculty and house staff were often arrogant and seemed more devoted to research than to patient care; on the other hand, he worked with faculty who remain some of the leading experts in his field.</p>
<p>Twenty-odd years later, hes an associate professor at a well-known (not top 5, but top 25) medical school, where he likes his work. Is there a moral here? I dont know--maybe nothings perfect? Or it aint over till its over?</p>