<p>I'm shy , I don't stand up for myself at all. I think being in a college in U.S requires being outgoing, being socially active, joining sorrorities and groups, being athletically(sports) active, getting a job so you can pay for college. I don't possess this qualities at all. I want to join a college in the U.S. because I want to have a decent future. But, is this not possible for me because of my quiet personality? Do you recommend studying abroad for me?</p>
<p>lol dude i’m having the same problem…</p>
<p>well you only learn to swim if you get in the water… go for it… you’ll adapt soon enough</p>
<p>you might want to apply to smaller liberal arts colleges (1000-2000 in size), where you will run into the same people over and over again and it will make it easier to form friendships, rather than bigger universities (5000+) where you might have a harder time meeting people and forming those bonds that could make a difference in your overall college experience.</p>
<p>I agree with the above post - strongly consider smaller LACs as the communities are tightly knit and open to all kinds of people. I don’t think a school with 1000 - 2000 is a particularly good choice as that is a bit too small, but universities with 5000ish kids are ideal in size as you’re not confined nor overwhelmed. </p>
<p>That being said, you’re going to have to learn to assert yourself at some point in life, and that isn’t even an option; many times it’s productive to put yourself outside of your normal comfort zone.</p>
<p>To address the specifics of your post, most LACs have no frat/sorority scene at all, the vast majority of kids aren’t on sports teams, and getting a job isn’t completely necessary if you have rich parents or are willing to pay through loans after college.</p>
<p>It should go without saying that one would have to be socially active/outgoing, but there is a clique for everyone in schools.</p>
<p>it’s certainly hard for shy internationals… i do sympathize with u… the culture shock, the transition, living alone… tons of stuff happening… do consider LACs… and choose diverse school… u will fit in better</p>
<p>I will disagree with the above posters. I attended a college in both my home country and in the States and I found it a lot easier to make friends abroad. The reasons are that:</p>
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<li><p>Classes in the States are smaller. At home average class size is above 100 students (yes, even specialized upper-level classes). In the US most of my classes have less than 15 students. It is very easy to hide in a crowd of 300, but when you see the same 10 people three times a week you almost have to talk to them.</p></li>
<li><p>I attend a college with less than 2000 students and keep running into the same students again and again and again.</p></li>
<li><p>Americans overall are much friendlier towards strangers, which makes it a lot easier to start a conversation.</p></li>
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<p>Thanks , for your advise guys
i don’t know what LAC is
I guess I’ll have to find out myself
Thank’s a lot for responding anyways(all of you)</p>
<p>re18, LAC stands for Liberal Arts College.</p>
<p>Thanks Alone</p>