<p>I did not track my kids' grades in college as I did in highschool. And actually, I was only focused on my boys' grades in highschool, as the girls worried enough about them and I knew they were doing the best they could and shared what was going on throughout the semester. I had to keep on the boys' cases if I didn't want them stuck at home the following year. They were not motivated to do well. Now with my freshman son at highschool, I am more relaxed, as again, I can see he is putting in the work and we have not received any interim reports or indications that he is having problems. When the highschool notifies me, it become my problem, is what I tell the kids, and when the problem is chronic, I feel like I need to be more vigilant in self defense.</p>
<p>However, I do feel that parents should get a copy of their kids' grades each semester, and should see what courses they are taking. It gives you some indication what is happening and if there are any problems. If your student is saying all is going rosy in school, and the transcript shows lots of C's,D's and W's and I's, there is a problem there that needs to be addressed beyond just the fact that he got those grades. Also if the student is terribly anxious but is doing just a tad lower or as well as he did in high school, it can be reassuring. It can give you some idea of what to day to them. Also, you might be able to give them some valuable advice. My son was going to take an Engineering course to fulfil a science requirement because it fit so well in his schedule, the room where the course met was right near his other courses, etc. But with his "D" in Calc, it would not have been such a wise choice, and he seemed oblivious of the connection. Where his advisor was, I don't know. He took Bio instead which he had always enjoyed in highschool and he had a good base in it. Since his overall grades were not that great, he needed to focus on his major courses and did not need another tough course against his grain at that time. Sometimes kids do not think of things like that. They'll take a course for all the wrong reasons or not consider a course that might be a better choice. And many times they will not get much advice from their advisors. I am not advocating picking their schedules or getting over involved, but just pointing out some issues as you let them make their own choices so that they can take into account some factors you noticed. </p>
<p>I advocate keeping in touch with their progress for the above reasons, because I feel all parents, even those whose kids have a full ride, should be involved. But I will also mention that at some of these schools with a $45K price tag, there is a financial stake there. I don't put $45 K of my money anywhere without an eye on my investment. If a kid is just blowing the year away, I would want to know about it. I know of an acquaintance whose kid dropped out one term, got a big refund of his parents' money and was living pretty well on it. The parents did not find out until a neighbor went to visit the college, was supposed to meet the kid for lunch, lost the kid's cell number and the meeting spot, couldn't get ahold of the parents, so they went to the college registrar for help only to find out the kid was not registered there. Another acquaintance found out at the end of the academic year that his kid had a 1.2 average at Cornell, and had not made a dent in his freshman requirements. Had they known sooner, some help, intervention might have been possible. </p>
<p>At some schools your student needs to fill out a form for you to get the grades. If the grades are mailed home, you should ask to take a look see. I don't advocated badgering them, but you should have some idea about what they are doing, how they are doing throughout the term. These are tough years for kids as they try to be on their own, and they may be having problems and need your help. And it is possible that things are not going very well.</p>