Also, the current system of meets-needs is much more arbitrary than it even seems. I live in a town where incomes are high, and also multiple births are high. There is even a yearbook page for the multiples.
My next door neighbor has two sets of twins. My other friend has a singleton followed a year later by triplets, and another friend has quads. I have three kids. Assume we each have an EFC that equals full pay for 2 kids in college, and that the cost is $70/yr for each.
All other things being equal, I would be full pay for all three of my kids, since the two in college now overlap by 2 years. The third is 8 years younger. Total $280x3
the friend with triplets would pay full tuition for 1 for 1 year, then 2x4. So $280 for kid 1, $280 for kid 2, and $70 for kid 3. Nothing for kid 4.
The one with quads would receive 2 x 4 years free tuition, as all her kids would be in at once. So $280 x2 total cost, two kids go free.
Oh, but my neighbor would really get screwed, because her kids are exactly 4 years apart,
so they would be full pay for 8 years, $280 x 4.
I don’t think my daughter or I got “screwed”, we just got fed a load of BS. She is going to a great (public) engineering program OOS and is pretty excited about it. I’m sure she will have a very good experience. And I was “adult” enough to tell her that no, it really isn’t a good “investment”, despite the financial aid officer’s claim. She would make EXACTLY the same amount, and have the same opportunities, after graduating from her other very good, much more affordable, choices. But I DO feel sorry for people I see around me, adults, who DO buy into the “affordability “ line. I know a family with 4 kids that is allowing the first two to EACH borrow more than $40K a YEAR; disabled Dad, teacher Mom, kids going to private, non-elite but expensive college. They are the ones who are going to become the statistics, because their parents aren’t able to say “no”, or don’t understand the implications of that type of debt for their child’s future.
I think maybe it’s OK if it isn’t fair, if it is arbitrary, if you can’t make everyone happy or equal. Just don’t TELL me that it IS fair, or non-arbitrary. I am an adult, I can make adult decisions, but I don’t need other people to decide how I get to feel about that. I feel that “leveling the playing field” by making sure everyone has a chance to experience poverty either as a new grad or a new retiree is kind of a poor philosophy.