<p>poetgrl: #1: she told me because the students were asked to wear the college shirt of the college they were planning to attend today for a picture and they were discussing it at lunch</p>
<h1>2: she told ME in particular because I helped a number of these kids with their applications…</h1>
<h1>3: she told me because another one of her friends has a spring admit and we had just had this conversation last week with the girls’ parents where I counseled her on the issue…</h1>
<p>and thank you, I just got back from my wonderful yoga class…</p>
<p>for some of us on CC, this is part of our job descriptions…let’s leave it at that…</p>
<p>I think we all agree that there are kids who multi deposit. I just admitted one of mine did once upon a time. I also positively know of some kids who have, and one who nearly did this year.</p>
<p>The question is whether we know of anyone positively who lost a spot when caught double depositing. We were “caught”, told all of the schools, and no issue. I don’t know anyone who was. </p>
<p>I do know of kids who lost spots for double doing ED or trying to 2 time ED and got caught and I know a whole lot of families who went through a lot of trouble trying to get out of ED due to unhappiness with the financial package. One good friend this year had this issue. I also know kids who got away with it.</p>
<p>I don’t understand the difference between putting down a deposit while on a waitlist, and putting down a deposit while waiting to hear re finaid. To me, in smacks of illegal restraint of trade to prevent shopping of finaid offers. That being said, to double deposit because the student can not make a decision is ridiculous.</p>
<p>And I did tell a mom, a friend of mine, and her kid, a friend of my son’s some years ago that she was nuts to double deposit at two school just because the kid could not make up his mind between UCh and NYU. No other reason to double do, just couldn’t make up his mind and she wanted to buy him more time. </p>
<p>And she payed a huge premium for the big fat 2 weeks he was still on the fence. He got tired of being on their (certain body parts get sore when you do that) and he made his pick. Cost her a big fat $500, maybe more–can’t remember if he did any visits or did anything else. Had the nerve to complain about lack of money and how expensive when he went to NYU.</p>
<p>Kayf, I agree. There are reasons to multiply deposit. I know of one case where kid was waitlisted at the school where he was accepted for a full ROTC scholarship. You gotta apply for a spot in the ROTC class when you apply for the scholarship and if you don’t get into the school, you have to reapply for another spot at another school and it’s a one spot at a time thing. In the meantime, May1 came. Had to choose and neither school of the next two choices would give an extension nor would the ROTC section give a firm answer about a spot being there. I told the mom to friggin’ double deposit. It did take 3 weeks before all things were in place. But the system was set up so that the poor kid was at risk with this. I also suspect kid was WLed for financial reasons at first choice school but they wouldn’t budge on the WL before mid May–Kid had gotten the WL decision before he got word on the ROTC award for which he was also WLed. I mean, really, you would think that these schools would get this sort of thing and understand.</p>
<p>If you read through some of the threads there are a bunch here where kids have not gotten their financial aid INITIAL package and it is getting close to May 1. That is ever so unfair. Also certain programs push for a decision prior to May1. THese schools have to understand that you have to treat families fairly in these situations. Some don’t. It bothers me when this pressure is applied on families who are already on the edge with finances and college.</p>
<p>I think it’s certainly bad practice, and should especially not be done in cases where you sign something saying you specifically will not do that (it’s unlikely a school would take any action against you for violating a signed agreement, but it’s wrong to go into it with that attitude). I also think it’s silly to do it just because they don’t want to make up their mind. In the real world, deadlines do not conveniently shape themselves around your decision making process. </p>
<p>That being said, the OP’s daughter’s triple depositing friends are right – It’s really none of her business. It’s their money (or their parent’s money), it’s their risk, it’s their poor behavior, and even more than that, they have already done it so it’s not possible to un-do it now.</p>
<p>Well, in that case, I guess I see your ethical issue. I suppose you are ethically bound to let the colleges know. So, I can see how troubling that would be for you.</p>
<p>good luck with that one. Egad! You’d think they would have the brains to tell someone who wasn’t stuck in the position of having to do something about it.</p>
<p>You’ll probably need to go take a long run, anyway, when you are done with all of this.</p>