<p>I just arrived yesterday, and by later in the day, I was already heading off to a party. I'm not really into partying, however I don't want to feel like a loser that sits inside all day. How can this be fixed?</p>
<p>Find another group of people to be with.....</p>
<p>Head of to a party and dont drink.</p>
<p>Yeah, you don't have to drink. Don't drink if you don't want to, but still go to parties.</p>
<p>Go to a party where most people are drinking and just don’t drink? To me, that’s terrible advice, but ok. I’ll still hold that if you find that you don’t like partying that much that you should find others who share those feelings instead of trying to look cool in the eyes of those who are unlike you.</p>
<p>If you don't like partying, don't go. If you go, you'll be miserable and won't meet people who'll be into the things you like. Let the people whose idea of fun is having drinking games and getting drunk enjoy their own company while you do something else. </p>
<p>Look for a campus organization that does things that you're interested in doing. Once you plug into that kind of organization, you'll be around people who share your interests and probably also will socialize in ways that make you happy.</p>
<p>Also look for things like campus coffee shops, local bookstores, etc. where people hang out who aren't into partying. On some campuses, the library is the hangout for people like that. Some college libraries have coffee shops and are social hangouts for people not into the drinking scene.</p>
<p>Partying the first night is pretty hardcore. I'm sure there are other people around campus who do not want to do this. Find these people!!</p>
<p>"Partying" and "going to parties" are two different things in my opinion. There are different types of parties and if you go to a party you don't have to start "partying." You can go just to socialize.</p>
<p>Northstarmom and nicole07 have a point. You need to find other people who don't live to party. You won't find them at parties, so try whatever else is available. If there are Orientation events, go to them. If there is a coffee shop on campus, go there. Or stay in your room and surf the Internet with your door open. See who walks by. If nobody walks by, make up an excuse ("Do you know where I can get more power strips?") and use it to wander around talking to other people who are in their rooms with their doors open, surfing the Internet.</p>
<p>And if the next few days suck, don't worry about it. This isn't college. This is camp. Real college begins when classes start.</p>
<p>according to alcohol.edu 20% of students are abstainers lol hahahaha i just wanted to quote alcohol.edu... okay im done now</p>
<p>go to the library. no one will party there. too quiet and all the shelves tend to get in the way.</p>
<p>who said partying the first night is hardcore? As someone said (and in fact used the exact words i usually use), orientation is camp, it is not school. Frosh are much more inclined to party during orientation than a normal week because there is no class. Are you simply nervous is because it's something you're not used to or do you actually dislike it? If you actually dislike it, don't go, it's not going to change your mind, if you're simply nervous, i'd say go.</p>
<p>Partying the first weekend while the freshmen test their wings is notoriously hardcore, as are the parties for the last week of classes. If you want to stay away from it, it's not as hard as it seems.</p>
<p>all the partying here is dry until rush is over :(</p>
<p>I was just at a pretty sick party, but things escalated veryyyy quickly and we had to leave, but we all got there at 6 and had a very solid, end-of-summer party til atleast 930. After that **** was broken, the host was puking, and everyone was wasted.</p>
<p>Solid party nonetheless.. can't wait until I don't have to come home to the rents though.</p>
<p>I'd say drink like two beers and you'll feel better on the party, but won't be anywhere close to being out of control. Unless you are worried about your physique, then maybe don't drink anything.</p>
<p>Get off of this website once you get to college!</p>
<p>Go out and have fun.</p>
<p>I'm only here because it's summer and I don't get to go back until a week from Monday.</p>
<p>I'd imagine those words will be some of the best advice ever given.</p>
<p>But if it is fun, then stay on here. And there's no need to justify why you are here.</p>
<p>I went to Kinglin's college.</p>
<p>Partying the first weekend is not "hardcore" but the parties are (at least for Independents) much larger than they will typically be during the school year. (Most fraternities will have at least a couple of parties during the year that are as big or larger, not to mention there are several "all greek" parties). But the parties are larger as people are celebrating being back, enjoying that they are done with their summer jobs, have a couple of days before classes start and are weeks away from the first tests. The local cops have a field day with handing out tickets for disorderly house, procuring to minors, and selling alcohol w/o a license. However MIP's are very rare unless you're doing something stupid.</p>
<p>Kinglin - things won't be at this level all semester, but parties are pretty ubiquitous throughout football season (plenty of primers/tailgating, slipping out at halftime, and celebrating a win). It's really okay if you go to a party and don't drink that much. If you end up at a party where people are really forcing you to drink, then leave. There are plenty of other places to go in town. And unless you personally know the hosts, no one will be offended if you leave.</p>