This is my first year of college and I am a first generation student. Before college started, I had this little overwhelming feeling within me that made me feel like I was not making the right choice. I excused it as simply being nervous for a new beginning and moved on. On my first day of college, I was so nervous and even started crying on my way home. It’s been a week since I started school and I just can’t stop crying. I feel as if I’m not making the right decision and I’m really considering dropping out. The problem is, I don’t want to disappoint my parents. I want to make them proud but I don’t want to be unhappy at school anymore. I don’t know what to do.
College is a huge transition for most students. You need to give yourself some time to acclimate.
Are there specific issues that are contributing to your unhappiness? No friends? Too many students? Are you a commuter?
My advice is it is really too early to make a hasty decision as dropping out. I would give it till the end of the semester at the minimum before considering a withdrawal.
There are so many CC posters that feel the way you do and I am sure fellow SFSU students. You will be surprised how many change their tune by years end after making some friends and getting involved in some college activities. Hang in there and I am sure everything will work out in the end. If not, you can then consider some alternatives.
Best of luck…
Sorry to hear about the difficult transition. SF State has several programs to help first-generation students. Perhaps your counselor can give you a recommendation for which one would be best for you. (Some of them require applications.) Perhaps one of these programs will be able to address you concerns and also help you with the transition. It can be very difficult. Here is an article about one of the programs:
I hope everything is going well for you. I was in the same situation as you when I move to San Francisco.This is my first semester as well and it was very difficult for me during the first week since I’m living alone without having my family with me. As the others mention I recommend for you to join programs that allows you to invest time in meeting new people. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. 