If your friend came on this board we would be very supportive of HER. Have we not pointed out that she has more ECs than you thought and that a JV sport shows commitment? Have we not pointed out that she could still be accepted? You are coming off as condemning her by your own statements.
If EVERY student was “amazing” NO ONE would be amazing. You are being way too judgmental of your friend.
She is who is she is. Not everyone can be a varsity athlete so quit bemoaning the fact that she isn’t. Quit pointing out to her that she is less impressive than you see yourself as being.
Why can’t she volunteer at the rehab during the school year and do the camp during the summer?
Do not think she has to be as impressive as you. Recruited athletes can and do get rejected. There are far more applicants that are as qualified or more impressive than you are than each school can admit unless your parents give huge donations there are no guaranteed admissions at private schools.